Religion getting in the way

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    Dec 28, 2012 2:00 AM GMT
    I'll try to make this story as short as possible.
    I went to a big dinner party of one of my mom's friends and there my mom introduce me to a guy who everyone beleived to be gay.
    He's really cute, super smart, 24 years old and with a business of his own so he's pretty much everything I could ask for. But from a really conservative jew family, which I wouldn't mind if it didn't get in the way of starting something.
    While being at the dinner party, for some reason homosexuality came as a theme and he freaked out saying he respected it but he didn't agree and that it was just wrong. Night kept going, and we started chatting and at the end we exchanged numbers.
    He's actually french but came to Mexico 3 years ago because he was running away from his family who didn't support him (he didn't tell me about what) and he haven't speak with them since. He's family is in politics back in France and apartenly it's somewhat "powerful" so according to him image was always important.
    After a few day he called me, we hang out and he was freaking nice to me. Finally, we kissed, and after that he told me he needed to go to the toilet. When he came back, he was a complete different person, really distant and stuff.
    Long story made short, we've seen each other a bit more but it's pretty much the same, first he's nice then he realizes what he's doing and completely changes his attitude.
    Should I keep seeing him?

    Thanks guys!

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:28 AM GMT
    NO

    A big resounding caps lock color themed NO!!


    You should know better what this leads to. A whole lot headaches and time waste.

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:37 AM GMT
    This guy that you are seeing has WAY too much drama and baggage! In my opinion, I would tell him to get lost for several reasons:

    1. He mentioned that being gay is wrong and yet, he kissed you!
    2. The mood swings, going from nice to distant, would cause my patience meter to go down.
    3. I don't see a foreseeable future for you two based on your original post.

    Good luck with your decision!
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    Dec 28, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Unless he comes to terms with himself, there will be no future for you two.
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    Dec 28, 2012 4:12 AM GMT
    You could always remind him, most Jews are pro-gay. While Orthodox are still opposed to same-sex behavior, most aren't quite as obnoxious as Conservative Christians, and Orthodox communities are struggling to deal with the Rabbis that are coming out as gay.

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    Dec 28, 2012 9:20 AM GMT
    I wouldn't - and it has nothing to do with being Jewish - there are lots of Jewish gay guys who are completely comfortable with themselves. This guy is not; he is not comfortable in his own skin. He probably is incapable of having a successful relationship with anyone as long as he is like that. Life is too short. Find someone who does not need to be retrained how to live.
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    Jan 03, 2013 8:01 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidUnless he comes to terms with himself, there will be no future for you two.


    Sad but true. Maybe I should stick with being friends until he comes to terms with himself.
    Thanks guys! (:
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    Jan 14, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    Well, random update. I had sex with him this weekend, surprisingly he texted the next morning icon_eek.gif.