How to love someone

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    Dec 28, 2012 10:02 AM GMT
    I'm new at being gay and just wondering how can I love some one, off this site because I'm a virgin and all the guys that try to talkin me never see me as I am they just see me as someone who can be easy to get..just wondering is it my profile pic? Bc I have so much to give other than sex just wish someone will see that. Please help me :/
  • ESL_Asian

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    Dec 28, 2012 11:22 AM GMT
    virgin +1
    How to find a real lover?icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif
  • Bunjamon

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    Dec 28, 2012 12:54 PM GMT
    You're actually not new at being gay, you were gay the whole time. icon_wink.gif You're just new to the gay community. Don't think of it as something you've become, but something you've come to realize.

    Your main profile pic could be considered a little bit suggestive, if only because you're sticking your tongue out in a way that doesn't convey "nah nah nah nah boo boo." Your profile is serious and it doesn't say you just want to hook up, so guys can't be getting the wrong idea from there. The only thing I can think of is that older, more experienced guys might try to take advantage of you because of your age. Don't be foolded! You're only 19, and you have plenty of time to figure out what it is you want, find a guy your age that you like, who likes you back, and explore this big wide world a little bit.

    You're not going to be with the first guy you sleep with forever, and every guy you meet will turn out to not be a perfect fit UNTIL you meet a guy who is. A lot of people, gay and straight, find this to be very disconcerting ("Why do all of my relationships fail?!") but EVERY relationship you're in will fail, until one doesn't. That could be in a year, 5 years, 10 years, or 20 years, you just can't know. It's important to be comfortable with yourself first and to love yourself first, got it?
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    Dec 28, 2012 6:31 PM GMT
    Thank you and I know I was gay just didn't have the right words at the time.
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    Dec 28, 2012 10:44 PM GMT


    "all the guys that try to talkin me never see me as I am they just see me as someone who can be easy to get"

    This is really rather easy. They want you for sex, which means you're in the driver's seat. So...drive. If you want more than sex, then lead them in that direction. If some of them bail on you, then they aren't what you want. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 29, 2012 12:06 AM GMT
    Thank you so much your right I should go ou with them but just not move to fast right?
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    Dec 29, 2012 12:54 AM GMT
    Jett saidThank you so much your right I should go ou with them but just not move to fast right?


    You are the one who determines how fast it goes, and more importantly, where it goes. If you want romance, then be romantic. If they're not responding romantically, then let them go. icon_wink.gif
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    Dec 29, 2012 2:09 AM GMT
    So true, I just need to show them Im fun!icon_smile.gif
    I'm sort of one of those geek/jock I want to get him so I need to go out and explore and one day we might happen, right?