Do u try to act straight when ur in public? Do u hold hands with & kiss ur gay lover when u walk down a street?

  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 1:55 PM GMT
    Do u show public displays of affection (PDA) with ur gay love regardless of who's around or are u weary of ur surroundings & keep ur gayness to a minimum to prevent any altercation with homophobes who might be nearby? Do u try to act straight when ur out & about for ur own safety or do u let it all hang out for the world to see, proud of being gay, not hiding or letting anyone dictate how gay u can be when ur in public?!........
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    Dec 28, 2012 1:59 PM GMT
    I'm me inside or out I don't care.

    I'm not big on public displays of affection but if the guy I'm with grabs my hand I wont pull it away.

    Being bigger then the average douche bag and looking scary occasionally comes in handy.

    I've held hands with a guy and skipped down a busy lane way filled with straight pubs and clubs. I honestly couldn't give a flying F what others think

    and if someone doesn't like it.. well I got the capabilities to handle my self and still be able to walk away.. bruised maybe but I'll be walking.
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    Dec 28, 2012 2:06 PM GMT
    lilTanker saidI'm me inside or out I don't care.

    I'm not big on public displays of affection but if the guy I'm with grabs my hand I wont pull it away.

    Being bigger then the average douche bag and looking scary occasionally comes in handy.

    I've held hands with a guy and skipped down a busy lane way filled with straight pubs and clubs. I honestly couldn't give a flying F what others think

    and if someone doesn't like it.. well I got the capabilities to handle my self and still be able to walk away.. bruised maybe but I'll be walking.


    It's good that ur big so u can intimidate & those trying to pick a fight with u will think twice before they decide to start something.......But what if ur a scrawny gay guy? Would u still be adamant about being ur gay self in public or would u be weary for ur own sake?.......
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    Dec 28, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    spgemBut what if ur a scrawny gay guy?


    Yup, as a scrawny gay..

    I have done, but I have picked my time and place.. I've been called 'fag' for doing it - but nothing else bad has happened.

    More of us do, the better - lets get society used to it - we're not going anywhere ;)
  • rnch

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    Dec 28, 2012 2:45 PM GMT
    Excessive PDA's, from a str8 or gay couple, make me uncomfortable.

    Prolonged kissing, groping or stroking should be saved for private moments.

    However....

    A quick kiss, neck grab, one armed waist hug or hand across back caress is no problem for me.
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    Dec 28, 2012 2:47 PM GMT
    I just don't like PDA. Perhaps it's me trying to "act straight in public", but I don't feel like I act straight in public. I don't like the attention on me at all times.
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    Dec 28, 2012 2:55 PM GMT
    vla8 saidI just don't like PDA. Perhaps it's me trying to "act straight in public", but I don't feel like I act straight in public. I don't like the attention on me at all times.

    I will do no more nor less than a straight couple does, or should do in our Western culture. So no passionate lip-locks, no dry humping in public.

    But my partner & I do hold hands in public, put our arms around each other, and sometimes kiss, as the mood strikes us. And that's not limited to the gay enclave of Wilton Manors, Florida, but here in New England during our current trip.
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:02 PM GMT
    I was at a bunch of coworkers at a baseball game once when one of my very straight, very masc jock buddies grabbed my hand and held it while we walked through the crowd for about 3 min. I was in deep in the closet and was dating a girl at the time. Plus he was white. Nobody looked at us funny and the female coworkers we were with smiled at us. They always said we'd make a great couple. He is still one of my best buddies and was adamant in his support of me when I came out. There is ZERO attraction or anything remotely bi about him. Just a confident guy.

    I am not a fan of PDA but I think if you do it, you should stay focused on each other, not what others think.
  • musicdude

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:10 PM GMT
    when the first guy i ever dated tried to grab my hand in public i didn't let him. it made me feel extremely uncomfortable. now, i couldn't care less. in fact, with my last bf, it him who would put a stop to it if we weren't in the gay village.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:15 PM GMT
    musicdude saidwhen the first guy i ever dated tried to grab my hand in public i didn't let him. it made me feel extremely uncomfortable. now, i couldn't care less. in fact, with my last bf, it him who would put a stop to it if we weren't in the gay village.


    I act very straight in public unless I'm in a gay environment. When I'm around a lot of straights I don't want them knowing my orientation. I've always been that way.
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:17 PM GMT
    If you are truly in love w your guy then you won't give a crap.. If you merely just fancy him then you will give a crap
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:20 PM GMT
    My guy and I aren't big on PDA in public, sometimes it frustrates me, because he can act totally disconnected when among the heteros. Whereas I say, you know what, you all do nothing short of have sex in public, F U if you think me holding my guys hand in public is an "abomination"

    While I still have reservations about kissing in public period, always have, I don't see the problem with holding hands, cause like I said, if you go to some places, people damn near have sex in public.

    Just my two cents.
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:21 PM GMT
    Like anything, there's an appropriate time for everything. PDA in public has it's place and time. Groping someone in a public store is not the place but touching, hand holding and a peck of a kiss can be very appropriate. I watch where I am as I'm not interesting in attention, I share PDA because I care for my partner and that's how I show it but again, when appropriate. If someone doesn't like it, too bad, deal with it.
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:25 PM GMT
    I'm not feminine at all when I'm out in public so.. I suppose so.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:29 PM GMT
    I'm always weary of my surroundings. I'd rather avoid any confrontation with homophobes that might escalate into something more. Although if straights can PDA where they so choose, we should too.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:33 PM GMT
    sc69 said
    spgemBut what if ur a scrawny gay guy?


    Yup, as a scrawny gay..

    I have done, but I have picked my time and place.. I've been called 'fag' for doing it - but nothing else bad has happened.

    More of us do, the better - lets get society used to it - we're not going anywhere ;)


    That's true. The more of us that aren't afraid to show PDA with our love one, the more straight society will get accustomed to it & think nothing of it......
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:34 PM GMT
    lilTanker said

    and if someone doesn't like it.. well I got the capabilities to handle my self and still be able to walk away.. bruised maybe but I'll be walking.


    fuq that hot, I wanna do it with you, so bad, right now, mmmm,

    I don't care either I will do it, but initiate it b/c I am a little shy in pubic...er public
  • musicdude

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:36 PM GMT
    there's a time and a place for certain things. when it comes to holding hands i don't think it should matter where you are. i would be comfortable giving him a little kiss hello or goodbye but i wouldn't make out with him in public unless we're drunk at a gay club or something. if we were at a park or a concert or something that sort, i wouldn't mind being close, contact other than just holding hands, maybe sitting back into him and having his arms around me but that's not any different than what straight people do. i would only do what i find appropriate for straight people to do. why should i not be allowed to act the same way i deem acceptable for straight people act?
  • Medjai

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:39 PM GMT
    I agree with most here. My bf and I have nothing to hide, but excessive PDAs are inappropriate for anyone, gay or straight. We'll hold hands or give a quick peck sometimes, but beyond that, not really.
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:40 PM GMT
    It takes one wrong time around the wrong people & what was innocent & a given right & minding ur own business & doing ur own thing can go downhill......
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:42 PM GMT
    Yes I have done and its very commonly seen here in Madrid. Gays walking holding hands or their hand wrapped around each others waist, kissing etc.
    Even though I am not very big on PDA but I used to do those things with my ex-bf.
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:43 PM GMT
    I usually skip down the street, tossing multi-colored glitter in every direction.icon_razz.gif
  • TannerMasseur

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:45 PM GMT
    Shagglot saidYes I have done and its very commonly seen here in Madrid. Gays walking holding hands or their hand wrapped around each others waist, kissing etc.
    Even though I am not very big on PDA but I used to do those things with my ex-bf.


    In some societies, straight same sex friends who are very close hold hands or put their arms around each other's shoulders as they walk in public......
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    Dec 28, 2012 3:46 PM GMT
    When/if I get a partner, boyfriend, lover, yes, PDAs definiely. If straights can do it, so can gays. As to the exent of the display -- again, whatever straights do in public, gays should be able to do.

    I have made out with a gay guy in a gay bar, even with straights present -- kissing, stroking, crotch-rubbing, nipple play, etc. Loved doing it, and so did he.
  • Medjai

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    Dec 28, 2012 3:47 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidI usually skip down the street, tossing multi-colored glitter in every direction.icon_razz.gif


    That was you?!