To give or not give Face

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    Sep 19, 2008 7:19 AM GMT
    Like Madonna say's " Give good face". In Vogue song
    I won't show my face on a profile. Want to, just don't have the guts to let anyone print my profile out on paper at work or some other fear. I can't get on alot of personal sites because they require a face. If someone asks, I email it. I think if I showed my face, I would only post info as if someone at work would expose it. I was Honorably Discharged from the Military for stating I had been with a man, at a time I really wanted to build a career. So this is not a baseless fear. My reason for posting this would have to be to gain some courage to be able to show my face.











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    Sep 19, 2008 7:25 AM GMT
    I thought this was about some hitherto unknown sexual practice...

    You are fuzzy. Suppose it comes in handy with them Eastern winters.
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    Sep 19, 2008 9:15 AM GMT
    Buckwheet saidI thought this was about some hitherto unknown sexual practice...

    You are fuzzy. Suppose it comes in handy with them Eastern winters.
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    yeah you gotta shave good before giving face LMAO
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    Sep 19, 2008 11:35 AM GMT
    Are you in the army now?

    Maybe you just need to grow up and then grow some balls.
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    Sep 19, 2008 1:08 PM GMT
    Come on now Redheadguy..the man asked for some support not for you to put him down. He has his reasons and opinions on the subject and as much as you expect others to respect yours, respect his. If someone wants to see his face, let them ask for it. Fullknob you are free to do what ever you want buddy, its your profile, show/ or dont show what ever you want.
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    Sep 19, 2008 1:23 PM GMT
    es2577 saidCome on now Redheadguy..the man asked for some support not for you to put him down. He has his reasons and opinions on the subject and as much as you expect others to respect yours, respect his. If someone wants to see his face, let them ask for it. Fullknob you are free to do what ever you want buddy, its your profile, show/ or dont show what ever you want.


    Ditto.

    Degrees of coming "out" are individual, personal journeys. Don't feel obliged to be on any one else's schedule.
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    Sep 19, 2008 1:41 PM GMT
    bryanedwardclark said

    Degrees of coming "out" are individual, personal journeys. Don't feel obliged to be on any one else's schedule.


    Word!
  • SanEsteban

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    Sep 19, 2008 6:37 PM GMT
    I used to think the same way and avoided putting my face on sites. I don't worry about it anylonger since you can restrict your page so that it is only seen by RealJock members - nonmembers cannot view them! So, if someone found your page on this site then what were they doing here too? Hmmmmmm... on a gay website.... hmmmmmm?????? I would certainly hope that you could trust anyone on this site to respect your anonymity since they are in the same situation you are in.

    Anyway, you have to be comfortable with what you choose to do. Certainly don't feel pressured by anyone to move outside your comfort zone.

    I hope this helps!
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    Sep 19, 2008 6:50 PM GMT
    Fullknob saidMy reason for posting this would have to be to gain some courage to be able to show my face.

    Let me tell I have been showing my face since I joined and I have not noticed that it got me anywhere! ... icon_lol.gif .... I would say it is a highly overrated experience. .... icon_rolleyes.gif

    Now flexing some muscle is an entirely different matter! .... icon_wink.gif

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    Sep 19, 2008 6:56 PM GMT
    Your boss just called and he said that it's ok with him and your co-workers if you show your face. They already know what you look like.
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    Sep 21, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3UBQFXQUqxE

    3:35 and 4:02 are good time areas to hear the related humor.
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    Sep 21, 2008 9:30 PM GMT
    I find it strange that the original poster has no qualms about joining the army where you are employed to shoot people and then gets all shy when it comes to putting a profile picture in a harmless gay website. I mean what's the worst that can happen to you in your home town? People go, "oh, there goes the gay soldier."

    Weird.
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    Sep 21, 2008 9:38 PM GMT
    I understand where your coming from. I was petrified to show my face in my profile. I thought someone would see me and out me. With time I just said "Fuck It" If they see me, they see me. So my face pic's are in my public shots. Still dont put my face in my main profile pic though. Im working on it. Baby steps.
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    Sep 21, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    One of the intriguing things about working in a gay bathhouse, was lots of people went there because it was not a public venue where someone could just walk in off the street, and get a drink.

    So I meet lots of people in the military there, police too, as they did not want to show there face. Or it been seen in a gay venues.
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    Sep 22, 2008 12:50 AM GMT
    redheadguy saidI find it strange that the original poster has no qualms about joining the army where you are employed to shoot people and then gets all shy when it comes to putting a profile picture in a harmless gay website. I mean what's the worst that can happen to you in your home town? People go, "oh, there goes the gay soldier."

    Weird.


    And I find it shocking, when a whinging pom comes along and gets all rude but you don't see me complaining about it now do ya sweet pea so get off your high f*cking horse and go live your own life!

    To the OP, Mate, its your choice, you can show your face, or you don't have to, its up to you, I've met some nice guys who haven't and some who have and then the share of arse holes on here...

    if someones going to take a problem to you wanting your privacy they aren't worth your time!
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    Sep 22, 2008 1:15 AM GMT
    Pattison saidOne of the intriguing things about working in a gay bathhouse, was lots of people went there because it was not a public venue where someone could just walk in off the street, and get a drink.

    So I meet lots of people in the military there, police too, as they did not want to show there face. Or it been seen in a gay venues.


    yo pattison, do you ever get tired of lying?
    Cos i sure get tired of yours. Please stfu and make your way out.

    and @ op:

    I didn't use to show my face but honestly, who's gonna be visiting a gay site?
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    Sep 22, 2008 1:44 AM GMT
    Fable said
    yo pattison, do you ever get tired of lying?
    Cos i sure get tired of yours. Please stfu and make your way out.


    What's your problem?
  • BeNiHiKoU

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    Oct 23, 2008 6:59 PM GMT
    It seems to me that sharing about your sexual history while you were in the army - and given your professional ambitions at the time - was a very brave move.. Unless it was a careless slip of your tongue, that is!!..icon_smile.gif !! You appear to have learnt from it and readjusted your behavior - i.e. the 'no-face-shots' policy for public profile... You're doing just fine, buddy... and like someone else wrote, do you on your own terms and schedule, alright?!... Just be sure to act with integrity towards yourself and others... icon_smile.gif
  • GQjock

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    Oct 23, 2008 10:19 PM GMT
    Unless you're a career professional in the army
    or a senator from the Midwest
    I'd say you're blowing this WAY out of proportion

    People have a lot more things to worry about than your sex life
    What the hell would your str8 friends be doing combing gay websites for you picture???