Are the number of bi guys increasing OR are just more coming out?

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    Dec 29, 2012 8:30 PM GMT
    I am starting to really attract a lot of "openly bi" guys recently on dating sites (Match, OK...) Like A LOT more and I'm finding a much higher level of compatibilty with them, particularly on the interests and communication. A handful of them are formerly divorced with kids. Do you think that more guys are just admitting that they're also into dudes because of the increasing acceptance or are there a lot more bi guys than gay guys?
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    Dec 29, 2012 10:52 PM GMT
    More are coming out.
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    Dec 29, 2012 11:05 PM GMT
    I think more of them are coming out of the closet. A part of me wishes they'd pick a side though, lol. I always feel weird about bisexual men.
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    Dec 30, 2012 2:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidMore are coming out.

    Hooray for bisexuals!!!! icon_biggrin.gif
  • Machina

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:04 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidMore are coming out.



    Hooray for guys coming out!!!!
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    Dec 30, 2012 3:05 AM GMT
    Yaaaay! icon_biggrin.gif

    I wish there were more bi guys in my area. :/
  • turtleneckjoc...

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:19 AM GMT
    I have also seen an uptick on my OK profile of bi guys...and str8s too....visiting.

    Now if some gay guys would look at it, life would be much better.........
  • motivated

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:23 AM GMT
    My vote is that more are coming out.
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    Dec 30, 2012 3:25 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidMore are coming out.


    They are and it's awesome to talk to more bi men out there.
  • docbailey2005

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:32 AM GMT
    This younger generation is much more open and bisexual in my opinion. Why come out not sure what the purpose is anymore when you consider how many gay men aren't committed or don't seem very interested in committing.
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    Dec 30, 2012 3:34 AM GMT
    MashogaNubianPrince saidI think more of them are coming out of the closet. A part of me wishes they'd pick a side though, lol. I always feel weird about bisexual men.


    I've never understood this stigma against bi guys. Personally I think they're great, and I don't see why anyone would feel weird around them. Does that make MNP a half a homophobe?
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:38 AM GMT
    docbailey2005 saidThis younger generation is much more open and bisexual in my opinion. Why come out not sure what the purpose is anymore when you consider how many gay men aren't committed or don't seem very interested in committing.



    I didn't know you were the spokesperson for young gay people. FYI there are a lot of married gay couples, sooo... you're flat out wrong. I think half the guys on here would say they're looking for a commitment.
  • Bicuriouscool

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:43 AM GMT
    Roll out, bi guys. We gonna take over the world. :-P i think more are choosing to be bi. That way ur chances of having sex raises to 120%. Assuming u have 90% chances of hookup with guys if u r gay, and only 30% if u r straight(becoz gurls are bitches and deny sex for every little mistake, like farting)
  • wellwell

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:53 AM GMT
    I expect more than is realized, taking advantage of genuine Liberty. Don't forget, many believe that All are bi––
    (I'm not 1 of them tho.)
  • docbailey2005

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    Dec 30, 2012 3:56 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    docbailey2005 saidThis younger generation is much more open and bisexual in my opinion. Why come out not sure what the purpose is anymore when you consider how many gay men aren't committed or don't seem very interested in committing.



    I didn't know you were the spokesperson for young gay people. FYI there are a lot of married gay couples, sooo... you're flat out wrong. I think half the guys on here would say they're looking for a commitment.


    did you bother to notice "MY OPINION" i wrote in my reply? Yes there are a lot of married gay couples i'm aware of that i live in Iowa where gay marriage is legal.Men in general are afraid of commitment gay or straight. I never mentioned anything about "young gay" people. In my experience for some odd reason i tend to attract mostly the bi or bi curious types to include many bi married men so of course this is going to be my experience.
  • 2PecanDeBeurr...

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    Dec 30, 2012 4:00 AM GMT
    We, bi, are accepting who we are, what we feel, and taking responsibility for our

    choices regardless of external pressure to be "politically and socially correct."

    j.c.

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    Dec 30, 2012 4:06 AM GMT
    Next stop after "Sister Wives" is .......icon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 30, 2012 4:13 AM GMT
    I think with the increasing acceptance of homosexuality, alot more people are willing to experiment with their sexuality.

    My personal belief is that not everyone is either gay or straight, but some people either like to mess around, or are willing to accept love in whatever form it comes in.

    I think everyone has a bit of bi in them, they just don't act on it.
  • spunkywasabi

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    Dec 30, 2012 4:18 AM GMT
    My vote is for more are coming out. Bisexuals are often not only ostracized by the heterosexual community, but the gay community as well. As we, hopefully, are becoming accepting of everyone's differences, I feel we will see more and more bisexual persons coming out. It will be interesting to see.
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    Dec 30, 2012 4:19 AM GMT
    Hmmmmmm......I am pretty skeptical about the idea of a "bi" guy.....the few I know spend a lot of time looking for dudes, but not also looking for woman. I suppose there really are true bi guys, but I think that there are far fewer than it appears. In my path of life, I called myself bi, that was during my married days. I think it was in part to deny what I was, it was also in part to attract other masculine men, it's sort of like the term or phrase, "men who have sex with men" which seems to be used to describe guys who don't want to be labeled gay.
    As for married guys looking for guys ( a phase I went through), again, the few I know who did or still do this, I believe really are gay, but only in the sense of sex, not that they want to live with a dude, etc. It may be somehwat instinctual and just basic sexual urges. I know that for me, at first I didn't understand that the fellowship I developed with a bud was a strong part of the attraction. I think that this is also a factor. AND when your bud is a regular guy, then you connect, talk about sports, or whatever, and your'e just dudes haning out.
    If you are finding a larger no. of married guys making themselves available, well, I think that this can be also attributed to the better acceptance, even the bi guys are less threatened today. Sadly though, I think you can also attribute this to the degredation and loss of values in our society. We are becoming a society where there's no right and wrong, we justify what we do as being ok, becuase we think it's ok no matter what is truly right or wrong.
    Oh, by the way, I am quite guilty of justifying my actions, I am not juding. But I did learn to take responsibility for my actions and it wasn't just words, it was doing the right thing by the people I love.
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    Dec 30, 2012 4:20 AM GMT
    Myol saidDo you think that more guys are just admitting that they're also into dudes because of the increasing acceptance or are there a lot more bi guys than gay guys?

    I don't think these two options are exclusive of each other. Bi dudes have probably always out numbered gay dudes. They may even out number 100% straight dudes. We're seeing more of them now because they are coming out in greater numbers.

    I think any time guys are able to admit their true sexuality, it's a good thing. They can lead happier lives. It also seems, and this is completely anecdotal, that closeted guys are more likely to cheat to fulfill their secret desires and take bigger risks when seeking out sex.
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    Dec 30, 2012 4:23 AM GMT
    ^ Circa, The Kinsey Studies.

    Lots of guys, especially in the fitness realm, seem to be o.k. with guy on guy stuff. They're hot. They like being hot, and dig a hot guy now and then, and....a decent prostate massage / fucking. I have met LOTS of guys that are incredibly good looking, in great shape, great jobs, and willing to go either way over the last few years. I think once a lot of guys find out you're o.k. with it, they open up about it.

    Lots of athletes are know are pretty open about going either way, and, a lot of times, downright forward ("Damn, Chuck, you hot and pumped up today!") They aren't queeny, whiney, etc, but, typical guys who happen to get down with guys sometimes. They know they are hot...and have a good time with it.

    This, of course, still doesn't mean the jerk off test doesn't apply. If you're gay, you probably jerk of to guys, and vice versa, but, in my personal experience, lots more guys are ok with getting with another guy to pleasure each other.

    I had a friend who told me he was mostly straight who begged me to hit the sack with him, several times. I did. A month ago, he got married to beautiful gal. I told him that I hope he gets at least the 58 years my parents had.

    I think gay for pay is kinda' bullshit, but, many a gay man has said "Here, exploit me."
  • HottJoe

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    Dec 30, 2012 4:39 AM GMT
    docbailey2005 said
    HottJoe said
    docbailey2005 saidThis younger generation is much more open and bisexual in my opinion. Why come out not sure what the purpose is anymore when you consider how many gay men aren't committed or don't seem very interested in committing.



    I didn't know you were the spokesperson for young gay people. FYI there are a lot of married gay couples, sooo... you're flat out wrong. I think half the guys on here would say they're looking for a commitment.


    did you bother to notice "MY OPINION" i wrote in my reply? Yes there are a lot of married gay couples i'm aware of that i live in Iowa where gay marriage is legal.Men in general are afraid of commitment gay or straight. I never mentioned anything about "young gay" people. In my experience for some odd reason i tend to attract mostly the bi or bi curious types to include many bi married men so of course this is going to be my experience.


    Saying gay men aren't committed in their relationships is a tired stereotype, and it implies we don't fall in love. Excuse me if I've heard that b.s. before.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • docbailey2005

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    Dec 30, 2012 5:08 AM GMT
    HottJoe said
    docbailey2005 said
    HottJoe said
    docbailey2005 saidThis younger generation is much more open and bisexual in my opinion. Why come out not sure what the purpose is anymore when you consider how many gay men aren't committed or don't seem very interested in committing.



    I didn't know you were the spokesperson for young gay people. FYI there are a lot of married gay couples, sooo... you're flat out wrong. I think half the guys on here would say they're looking for a commitment.


    did you bother to notice "MY OPINION" i wrote in my reply? Yes there are a lot of married gay couples i'm aware of that i live in Iowa where gay marriage is legal.Men in general are afraid of commitment gay or straight. I never mentioned anything about "young gay" people. In my experience for some odd reason i tend to attract mostly the bi or bi curious types to include many bi married men so of course this is going to be my experience.


    Saying gay men aren't committed in their relationships is a tired stereotype, and it implies we don't fall in love. Excuse me if I've heard that b.s. before.icon_rolleyes.gif

    For the last time.The inability for men to commit isn't exclusive to one particular group. MEN in general have a issue with being monogamous whether they're gay or straight. Yes there are many or some who have the ability to love or be loved but for the most part most are promiscuous that's just the nature of man.
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:12 AM GMT
    The Kinsey Studies quantified, through scientific method, that sexuality is shades of gray and is variable from very gay to very straight.

    Golly, ain't anyone here educated?