College Counseling Center

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    Dec 30, 2012 7:51 AM GMT
    How many of you have gone or are currently talking to a counselor on your campus about your sexuality and how to deal with the whole coming out process? Did the sessions actually help? I am thinking about signing up for weekly appointments this coming semester. I think having someone whom I can confide in about my sexuality would be very helpful at this stage in my life. Let me know what you think.
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    Dec 30, 2012 8:36 AM GMT
    In my final year of college, I went to weekly group sessions specifically offered to LGBT students through my school's counseling center. It was the first of its kind. One of the counselors was from the counseling center and specialized in LGBT issues while the other counselor was the director of the school's LGBT and Ally Education Program.

    Anyway, I started going to group sessions mainly to deal with the breakup of my first serious relationship. At the time I was already out for years and comfortable with it, so my issue was different from the rest of the group. However, most of the others in my group were definitely dealing with their gay/bi feelings and coming out.

    All in all, I really enjoyed the meetings. I looked forward to them every Friday afternoon. I was probably the only one, haha! But in the end, I feel I only benefited from it. I got over my broken heart. It was a success for me.

    My advice is to set up a consultation or screening if you haven't done so already. From the first meeting, you'll find out if counseling can be of service to you. The counselor will probably tell about various counseling options and let you decide which ones appeal to you and make you most comfortable. It never hurts to give it a try. If you don't seem to be getting anywhere after 5 or so sessions, you can ask to be switched to another counselor or consider other options.
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:00 PM GMT
    I went to counseling. If anything, it helped me with other personal issues but not so much with coming out.
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:32 PM GMT
    I think it is very useful. I don't really have gay friends so it is a good place for you to vent. It is also helped me with my coming out process and overcame my fear of first time attending an LGBT meeting.

    If anything, counseling is the place for you to reveal information and talk about issues that you normal can not talk to people close to you without fearing them judging you nor they can use the secret to hurt you in real life.
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:42 PM GMT
    Any person whether its a resource like a counceling center or a friend you trust is worth talking to. The best thing about a counceling center is they are there 100% for you. You won't have that fear that they might take things the wrong way like a friend MIGHT.
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:44 PM GMT
    Nicodegallo what were the group sessions like? Were they just open discussion and people shared their stories?
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:47 PM GMT
    Never, ever! The one time I went to a "counselor", I ended up "counseling" him........icon_wink.gificon_biggrin.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Dec 30, 2012 5:48 PM GMT
    vla8 saidI went to counseling. If anything, it helped me with other personal issues but not so much with coming out.

    This.

    Even if you don't have any pressing issues, I'd suggest on going. It's bloody free therapy. You know how expensive therapy is after college?
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    Dec 30, 2012 6:01 PM GMT
    Sounds like therapy is a good idea then icon_biggrin.gif. I guess the worst thing that could happen is I waste an hour of my day by talking to someone. Did you guys find it easy to open up to your therapist? I'm not generally a very open guy when it comes to expressing my feelings.
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    Dec 30, 2012 7:47 PM GMT
    deejay914 saidNicodegallo what were the group sessions like? Were they just open discussion and people shared their stories?


    The group therapy was suggested to me by the first counselor I saw as it was a brand new thing they were offering in partnership with the school's LGBT/ally program. I had initially signed up 1-on-1 counseling sessions, but I figured I'd give the group a shot since it was specifically targeted toward LGBT students

    The sessions themselves were pretty free and open. We basically talked about whatever was on our mind both good and bad. While I think most meetings provided a good amount of time for everyone to speak, admittedly some meetings were more about one or two individuals with particularly pressing issues. But it was fascinating to hear all the different stories and perspectives.

    At times I felt my issue was put on the back burner because I was the only one in the group not dealing with gay feelings or coming out. I had already been there done that. But in a way it was a good thing to hear how other people dealt with those issues because it taught me how many young people struggle with those feelings. For me it wasn't a struggle at all, so I suppose I learned to be more patient and compassionate with others who aren't lucky to deal with it easily. Eventually my previous relationship did become a main headline of some meetings, so I wasn't screwed over, lol.
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    Dec 30, 2012 7:52 PM GMT
    Most schools these days have some sort of GLBT or Diversity center for students. See if they have that and they might be better able to point oyu in the right direction.