How long did you date a guy for before deciding you're an item?

  • sbwlguy

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    Jan 01, 2013 9:56 PM GMT
    Would love to know out of interest. Could be your current partner or ex-partners.
  • Import

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    Jan 01, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    3 or 4 months
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    Jan 01, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    Three weeks--Epic ass must be put on lock down, post-haste.
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    Jan 01, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    It always varied, though 6 months was average for me. And to tie in with another related thread, dating to me is when we're just doing guy stuff together.

    It's doesn't have to be formal, certainly not going up to the door with flowers, a box of chocolates and a card. Just hanging is also a date.

    And when you've done it often enough, one day you say to yourself: "WOW! We've been dating!" And that's the best moment of all. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 01, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
    Current: Seven months

    Past: Less than a week which was a huge red flag for codependency
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    Jan 02, 2013 1:01 AM GMT
    1 month and it has resulted in a 3 year relationship thus far.
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    Jan 02, 2013 3:22 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop saidin the past i have always put out an ad for being my bf.

    answering the ad leads to an interview, so immediately.

    Don't you wait for his references to be confirmed?
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:02 PM GMT
    A few months
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:03 PM GMT
    Wow, maybe it's just me but 6 months of dating and still not considered a bf. NO WAY! Waste of time to me. Normally 2 months for me of consistent (avg 2 dates a week) dating. By then we know if we should take it to the next step or not.
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 02, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    About a month and we're now going on five and a half years, two years of dating and three+ living together. We went monogamous immediately but it was never discussed and we both knew there was something good going on in the first week that felt like more than lust and good will. In the past it has usually been longer but not this time and this time had more challenges, mainly the age thing. I'd recommend anyone interested in love, as opposed to just having a REAL GOOD time be receptive and not reluctant to think in terms of wow, I really like this guy. I think you can talk yourself out of a lot of happiness. You can't be shy in love. Nothing wrong with just having fun if you're not really done just having fun.
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:03 AM GMT
    3 months for me!
  • Thirdbeach

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    Jan 03, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    The current situation; we've been on/off for the past 8 years.

    I'm trying to figure out if we are more "Moonlighting" or "When Harry Met Sally".
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    Maybe 2 months before we went steady.I knew this one was a keeper.icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    Usually a few weeks of dating and actually getting along.
  • jwand09

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    Jan 03, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    90 days max
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jan 03, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    a few weeks, I do what feels righticon_biggrin.gif