Hot for Roommate - An oldie but goodie

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    Jan 01, 2013 11:42 PM GMT
    My roommate of two years wanted to take his acting/fitness modelling career back to LA and needed to sublet his bedroom.

    We interviewed a bunch of guys and it was mostly down to who I'd get along best with. So I choose this one guy, close in age, grounded and super cute.
    He's one of these guys who has premature grey hair, your basic silver fox.

    As soon as the old roommate moved out we started rearranging the apartment, buying new things, rugs, art work, kitchen appliances. Turns out that we both had the same taste in so many things. And through this whole process I was getting increasingly more attracted to this guy with all that we had in common and just his general demeanor and how fun it was to "play house" together. For the first time I was one of those couples who shopped at Ikea together deciding on what pillows would match the couch. (yuck!)

    However... he is strongly only attracted to very young Asian and Latino guys.
    In fact, he is currently rotating about 4 or 5 different guys. This past week, each of them came over and stayed the night. 5 nights in a row. Different guys.

    When he'd mention "so and so" was coming over, he always seemed embarrassed a little. Or when he'd tell me how this one was only 23.
    Which, was awkward.

    I'd greet them, shake their hands and basically hate them instantly. They all had that deer in headlights look. The two of them would hang out in the living room for a bit and then head into his bedroom eventually, which is of course, right next to mine. All the while I was home and in my bedroom. I'm not in college? It's not an option for me to hang out in Starbucks while my roommate has sex with someone. Oddly though, I never actually hear anything? Nothing.

    The holidays have never been easy for me. To add to my normal stress, Silver Fox was having all his various dramas over one guy or the other. He'd say to me, "tonight I'm breaking up with (insert name here)." Only the next morning I'd be saying good morning to (insert name here) as they existed the bathroom on my way in. Awkward.

    So I can't stand judgment on him for who he is attracted to, but it's getting more painful because the more I open up to him about things in a friendly way and he to me, I feel we're getting closer. And we have to live together.

    Sure, I could try to turn off my feelings towards him and go out and try to date other guys to get my mind off of him. But, it ain't easy. And telling him will only make things more stressful. I need a distraction.

    I know!! 2013 is the year I get into competition shape!!
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    Jan 02, 2013 3:34 AM GMT
    moral of the story,do not date older white men if u r asian and latino,unless u want to suck a white cock and having sex till he tired of u and dump u afterward.icon_razz.gif

  • reptile18

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    Jan 02, 2013 3:40 AM GMT
    Cooper87 saidmoral of the story,do not date older white men if u r asian and latino,unless u want to suck a white cock and having sex till he tired of u and dump u afterward.icon_razz.gif



    mmmm.... still worth it, imo.
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    Jan 02, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    Ahaha invite me over a few times, we could have a threesome icon_wink.gif And I wouldn't get attached to him so yall can get married afterwards icon_razz.gif

    But on a serious note, he sounds like a good roommate in the sense that he keeps quiet. If it really does bother you, you should try talking to him about having 5 different guys over and awkwardly bumping into them the next day icon_smile.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 02, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    He's not interested in you other than as a roommate. He is acting friendly and playing house because he needs a place to stay. Sorry, try to treat him like a roommate and not bf. If he has a revolving door on his bedroom, he is not your type. You want to settle down, he wants to roam around. Join a club and try making some real friends, this guy probalby isn't one.
  • ESL_Asian

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    Jan 02, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    Cooper87 saidmoral of the story,do not date older white men if u r asian and latino,unless u want to suck a white cock and having sex till he tired of u and dump u afterward.icon_razz.gif


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    Jan 02, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    reptile18 said
    Cooper87 saidmoral of the story,do not date older white men if u r asian and latino,unless u want to suck a white cock and having sex till he tired of u and dump u afterward.icon_razz.gif



    mmmm.... still worth it, imo.


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  • mybud

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:25 AM GMT
    Dogs don't shit where they sleep....We can all learn from this primal code....
  • CityofDreams

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:35 AM GMT
    Obviously he is too busy with his twinks to even notice you. You are looking for water in an empty desert. I don't think this guy is looking for a meaningful relationship with anyone. Harsh, I know, especially when you have developed feelings for the guy :/
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:39 AM GMT
    If you don't get a handle on your feelings...yes, it sounds like jealousy...you'll turn your roommate relationship into something very ugly and regrettable. Get a hobby and/or a boyfriend and get yourself under control. He's not into you...trust all of us here!
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHe's not interested in you other than as a roommate. He is acting friendly and playing house because he needs a place to stay. Sorry, try to treat him like a roommate and not bf. If he has a revolving door on his bedroom, he is not your type. You want to settle down, he wants to roam around. Join a club and try making some real friends, this guy probalby isn't one.


    This is my thought as well. With that being said however, the guy is a fool if he can't see all the value in you. Based on your profile, and the way you write - - - I see a hell of a lot of quality and value in you. You'd be far, far more interesting than his little 20-something dalliances.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    I wouldn't mind tutoring him, if he looked like Anderson Cooper. icon_cool.gif
  • EricLA

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    I learned this lesson long ago -- do not have a guy you're attracted to as a roommate. It just becomes too messy.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    i think you have answered your own question. i think you know that you need to move on. if he is not attracted to you than telling him how you feel will only make things awkward. i suggest you find you someone who is into you
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    EricLA saidI learned this lesson long ago -- do not have a guy you're attracted to as a roommate. It just becomes too messy.
    if there is no attraction from the other party than its just a mess because you make it a mess
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 said
    AMoonHawk saidHe's not interested in you other than as a roommate. He is acting friendly and playing house because he needs a place to stay. Sorry, try to treat him like a roommate and not bf. If he has a revolving door on his bedroom, he is not your type. You want to settle down, he wants to roam around. Join a club and try making some real friends, this guy probalby isn't one.


    This is my thought as well. With that being said however, the guy is a fool if he can't see all the value in you. Based on your profile, and the way you write - - - I see a hell of a lot of quality and value in you. You'd be far, far more interesting than his little 20-something dalliances.


    I never thought about it that way, but yeah I agree. He's a blind fool.
  • EricLA

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    Jan 02, 2013 6:07 AM GMT
    tuffguyndc said
    EricLA saidI learned this lesson long ago -- do not have a guy you're attracted to as a roommate. It just becomes too messy.
    if there is no attraction from the other party than its just a mess because you make it a mess


    Absolutely. In my case, there was just enough attraction, but I was a convenience to him. He still dated other guys, but we'd mess around.

    It was my first gay roommate situation, and we had other roommates.

    I learned a lot during that time, but it wasn't easy.

    I agree that telling the roommate of lifecast's attraction is not the answer. Lifecast needs to find someone with whom he shares a mutual attraction.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 02, 2013 6:10 AM GMT
    Cooper87 saidmoral of the story,do not date older white men if u r asian and latino,unless u want to suck a white cock and having sex till he tired of u and dump u afterward.icon_razz.gif



    hahaha love this comment! +1
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    Jan 02, 2013 6:21 AM GMT
    Jay1922 saidI wouldn't mind tutoring him, if he looked like Anderson Cooper. icon_cool.gif


    He must be really dumb to have that many tutors, one for each subject. I think you're better off without him because hes a man whore.
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    Jan 02, 2013 6:51 AM GMT
    I'm asian... he might like me. Introduce me please.... and then, i'll do my work to make him like you. In other words, hire his BF to make Silver Fox like you. ;-)
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    Jan 02, 2013 7:24 AM GMT
    Sounds like the roommate has the best of both worlds:
    1. A homebody at home who he can play husband with...but not have sex.
    2. An endless throng of Asian and Latino trollops from which to get his biological twitchings.

    For your own sanity, wouldn't it be better to either live alone so that you can potentially date and bring home the right guy? Or, get another roommate who you are not attracted to and who will not continually parade men in and out of your home?

    Just some thoughts on how to resolve the situation.

    Good luck unwinding it.
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    Jan 02, 2013 7:25 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus saidI'm asian... he might like me. Introduce me please.... and then, i'll do my work to make him like you. In other words, hire his BF to make Silver Fox like you. ;-)


    Um. That's kind of cold. OP is already losing the roommate to Asian guys. Why would OP want to torture himself even more by bringing in RJ Asian guys?
  • Kel_

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    Jan 02, 2013 8:07 AM GMT
    KKim11 said
    Jockbod48 said
    AMoonHawk saidHe's not interested in you other than as a roommate. He is acting friendly and playing house because he needs a place to stay. Sorry, try to treat him like a roommate and not bf. If he has a revolving door on his bedroom, he is not your type. You want to settle down, he wants to roam around. Join a club and try making some real friends, this guy probalby isn't one.


    This is my thought as well. With that being said however, the guy is a fool if he can't see all the value in you. Based on your profile, and the way you write - - - I see a hell of a lot of quality and value in you. You'd be far, far more interesting than his little 20-something dalliances.


    I never thought about it that way, but yeah I agree. He's a blind fool.


    First off, they're roommates. Neither does the OP or his roommate ever said anything about being attracted to each other, face-to-face. If that was the case, it could either go on two directions or this thread wouldn't have existed in the first place.

    Secondly, why would you guys judge his roommate and call him a fool? What if he's not interested in the OP? And just wants this in a platonic level without compromising their state of living. It's not like the roommate is doing anything that's causing any real problem (like noise level, as the OP stated there was none when his roommate brings guys over) or the fact that at least the roommate is nice enough to give the OP a heads-up.

    Seriously guys, stop condemning people so easily and try to see it from their perspective; both the OP and the roommate.
    My advice for you lifecast, is to just treat him as a friend and try to keep your business out of his, because I'm sure that's what he would wanted it to be.