Gay love is hard to come by

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    Jan 02, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    Oh ha--haaa!! Don't make fun of the title the pun is intended

    So my point is that gay love is difficult to find. Gay sex is easy but I think it's because of the sex and stigma of being whorey and shit, the fear of STD, the fear of being alone, the fear of not looking the best, not being the youngest, not being the most in shape, and the fear of other gay guys in general more slutty, that makes a true gay love very hard to find.

    What thinkst thou?
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    Jan 02, 2013 2:55 AM GMT
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    Jan 02, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    Um, hate to tell you the bad news but your original post applies to all types of people and not just gay guys. I know many straight women and men who are single and they have the hardest time finding a date/love. One straight guy my partner works with has a profile on match.com and he said all the women he's met from the site are crazy!
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    Jan 02, 2013 3:51 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidUm, hate to tell you the bad news but your original post applies to all types of people and not just gay guys. I know many straight women and men who are single and they have the hardest time finding a date/love. One straight guy my partner works with has a profile on match.com and he said all the women he's met from the site are crazy!


    This pretty much sums up your post and posts like it on threads like these.

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/2887918/

    DEKIRUMAN saidThis happens a lot, even on RJ.

    If someone brings up an issue that is especially relevant in the gay community, rather than engage the issue, some people just bring up that the issue also exists to some degree in the straight community. I don't really understand what argument they are trying to make.

    It's like saying

    "why don't gay people even pick up their dogs poops"

    only to hear

    "well some straight people don't pick up their dogs poop!"


    It's frustrating because if I'm gay, and I'm talking to another gay person, then I don't care what straight people are doing. I'm talking about us and how it impacts us. I remember as a child if I would do poorly on the assignment, I would come home and tell my mom that the WHOLE CLASS did poorly on that assignment. And she would say "the whole class isn't my kid, I want to know why YOU did poorly"

    Why can't we talk about our issues without having to validate our cultural pathologies by looking for instances where straight people falter too?

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    Jan 02, 2013 4:30 AM GMT
    ^

    No. Just no.

    This is not a straight like problem. This is a gay specific problem. Okay so true love is hard to come by in straight world

    But it's especially difficult to come by in gay world.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:31 AM GMT
    Claystation saidgay


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    Jan 02, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    Claystation saidgay


    This thread is gayer than the OP's profile pic.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    yesterr said
    Claystation saidgay


    +1


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    Jan 02, 2013 4:35 AM GMT
    JOOU saidOh ha--haaa!! Don't make fun of the title the pun is intended

    So my point is that gay love is difficult to find. Gay sex is easy but I think it's because of the sex and stigma of being whorey and shit, the fear of STD, the fear of being alone, the fear of not looking the best, not being the youngest, not being the most in shape, and the fear of other gay guys in general more slutty, that makes a true gay love very hard to find.

    What thinkst thou?


    Maybe it's just you.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    Just wait until you are my age ... you may as well hang a sign around your neck
    "Property Condemned"
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    Still gay
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidUm, hate to tell you the bad news but your original post applies to all types of people and not just gay guys. I know many straight women and men who are single and they have the hardest time finding a date/love. One straight guy my partner works with has a profile on match.com and he said all the women he's met from the site are crazy!


    Sorry OP, Erik's got this in the bag. I used to think that way and realized that a lot of the girls I'm friends with have the same problem.

    The only difference is that it's easier for me to have sex if I wanted to have any kind of sex, no matter how sketchy and dangerous it may be.

    The ONE thing that I TRULLLLLLYYY dislike or find as an advantage about being gay is that I can't publically hit on a guy that I find attractive or that maybe looking at me at any social events unless we're in a gay bar.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    JOOU said^

    No. Just no.

    This is not a straight like problem. This is a gay specific problem. Okay so true love is hard to come by in straight world

    But it's especially difficult to come by in gay world.


    IT'S SO TRUE!
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    True Love is so difficult to attain. But it IS attainable.
    And if somebody figures it out let me know!
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    Oh+you+don+t+care+about+haters+please+te
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    OP has posted meaningless psychobabble like this before. Wasn't "the sadness in gay men's eyes" his?
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    As some one who found true love late in life 39 let me give a suggestion.I am far from an expert.Get out a pad and write down a list of non negotiables that will apply to men you might date.I don't mean stupid things like must be over 8 inches.For example...I lucked out in that I have an incredibly sexy talented man.My mother married a nasty idiot who although book smart he could not screw in a lightbulb.I am not too handy myself.So I like a man who can do things.If my fiancée drank a lot that would have been a no go from day one. So lets say you are 28 and financially independent,You might be willing to accept someone who is poorer than you but has other qualities you love.Setting some absolutes before you go out searching is a good first step.icon_smile.gif Nothing wrong with being choosy but gay men need to be a little more realistic .Ryan
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    I don't look for love. I don't even think I look for potential dates icon_eek.gif

    I was raised to be an independent person.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:45 AM GMT
    sonicpower19 saidI don't look for love. I don't even think I look for potential dates icon_eek.gif

    I was raised to be an independent person.


    well hoooraaaayyy for youuu.......
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidJust wait until you are my age ... you may as well hang a sign around your neck
    "Property Condemned"


    Sorry...

    BUT


    FALSE.

    There are MANY Guys who would be into You.

    Yer a decade ahead of Me.

    TRUST Me...I will not be "condemned" any time soon.


    You KNOW I am a HUGE fan of Yours...but why perpetuate this dumb concept???

    I recently posted pics of Myself unshaven, unkempt and looking like a 40-something living in a cardboard box on the street.

    I recieved more than 300 e-mails from Guys under 24.

    It's all in the eye of the beholder.

    BEHOLD Yerself Dude.

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    Jan 02, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    WickedRyan saidAs some one who found true love late in life 39 let me give a suggestion.I am far from an expert.Get out a pad and write down a list of non negotiables that will apply to men you might date.I don't mean stupid things like must be over 8 inches.For example...I lucked out in that I have an incredibly sexy talented man.My mother married a nasty idiot who although book smart he could not screw in a lightbulb.I am not too handy myself.So I like a man who can do things.If my fiancée drank a lot that would have been a no go from day one. So lets say you are 28 and financially independent,You might be willing to accept someone who is poorer than you but has other qualities you love.Setting some absolutes before you go out searching is a good first step.icon_smile.gif Nothing wrong with being choosy but gay men need to be a little more realistic .Ryan


    Can you and your partner just adopt me as a protegé and just raise me to be the perfect guy who finds love, because I could use a lot more of that brilliance...
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:47 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidUm, hate to tell you the bad news but your original post applies to all types of people and not just gay guys. I know many straight women and men who are single and they have the hardest time finding a date/love. One straight guy my partner works with has a profile on match.com and he said all the women he's met from the site are crazy!
    ha ha ha I would have to agree with Erik101 This is not a gay thing this is a human being thing. I know just as many straight people who have a hard time finding love as well
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:49 AM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    sonicpower19 saidI don't look for love. I don't even think I look for potential dates icon_eek.gif

    I was raised to be an independent person.


    well hoooraaaayyy for youuu.......


    I think he's just speaking on behalf of all the gay guys who may not be all that bothered about "finding love" and acting desperate.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:52 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidJust wait until you are my age ... you may as well hang a sign around your neck
    "Property Condemned"



    I thought you were smarter than to buy into that crap. icon_mad.gif