Bottom double standards?

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    Jan 02, 2013 4:34 AM GMT
    Dear diary,

    So I don't know if its just me, but has anyone noticed a double standard when it comes to the way bottoms are treated compared to tops? If a top on here posts about a guy he just slammed he will generally be seen as some stud. But when a bottom recounts his night getting plugged by some guy, he gets ridiculed or called a slut. One guy seems to be praised while the other gets his ass handed to him, pun intended.

    Am I alone in this? Am I being too sensitive? Do I need something new to complain about?

    Discuss....
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
    Quit being a whiny slut bottomicon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said But when a bottom recounts his night getting plugged by some guy, he gets ridiculed or called a slut.


    The only bottom slut on RJ I can recall is that lovernotfighter dude, whose every single post, absolutely every single post, was a variation of "fuck my hole".
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    Bottoms should be seen from the back and not heard...their opinions don't matter
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    So much for me trying to start a serious discussion.

    I will stick to talking about my sex life and making fun of people. icon_neutral.gificon_neutral.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:45 AM GMT
    Where's the thread in which the bottom is ridiculed and called a slut? I'm in the mood for a good read.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    The Musk can do no wrong.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    unfounded7 saidWhere's the thread in which the bottom is ridiculed and called a slut? I'm in the mood for a good read.


    It's not one particular thread but a combination.

    Oh, and in the "How much do you pay for your gym" thread, somebody totally cussed you out for giving me 'tude on him much I paid. Don't know if you seen it yet. That bitch be mad at you..
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    Hmmm I don't I've seen any concrete evidence of a bottom being slut shamed.
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    Jan 02, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    I think I get the idea that the OP is getting at here.

    Even though not everyone might agree, a lot of gay guys love the whole "straight acting- muscle top" type of guy more than the "effeminate nelly bottom". I'm not saying that all tops are straight acting and muscle heads nor am I saying that all bottoms are all twinky and girly, but those are the general characteristics and images that pop into most guys minds' when they hear the word "bottom" or "top".

    And many guys tend to give more attention or interest to those "straight acting- muscle tops" and their recent sexual conquers.

    That's what I got out of the OP.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 02, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    It's only mean when another bottom calls you a slut... If a top calls you a slut, you're getting romanced.icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    KKim11 saidI think I get the idea that the OP is getting at here.

    Even though not everyone might agree, a lot of gay guys love the whole "straight acting- muscle top" type of guy more than the "effeminate nelly bottom". I'm not saying that all tops are straight acting and muscle heads nor am I saying that all bottoms are all twinky and girly, but those are the general characteristics and images that pop into most guys minds' when they hear the word "bottom" or "top".

    And many guys tend to give more attention or interest to those "straight acting- muscle tops" and their recent sexual conquers.

    That's what I got out of the OP.


    Partially. There ain't no shame in my game. It takes two to tango and if there were no bottoms in the world tops would just be SOL.

    Despite my colorful appearance on here,I wouldn't consider myself a flamboyant guy by any means. I have absolutely no problem with finding a willing hot top guy to turn me out. It's just bottoms tend to get labeled stuff like "whiny bottom slut" while top icons like Alpha and Bizman get a free pass.


    Come to think of it, I'm the bottom equivalent of Alpha and Bizman....icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidSo much for me trying to start a serious discussion.
    Maybe, just maybe don't start a "serious thread" with "hey bitches" LOL
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidIt's only mean when another bottom calls you a slut... If a top calls you a slut, you're getting romanced.icon_twisted.gif


    Lol yes!!! This Italian muscle dude whispered in my ear tonite "you're going to be my little bottom slut tonite,right?" And I was like, ahhhhh how sweet!!!
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    To some degree, I think you're right. Tops get to drone on and on ad nauseum about their conquests, and everyone high-fives them. Bottoms who do the same thing are view as slutty and loose. I don't think I've ever seen a slutty top get insulted, but slutty bottoms get ridiculed all the time.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    KKim11 saidI think I get the idea that the OP is getting at here.

    Even though not everyone might agree, a lot of gay guys love the whole "straight acting- muscle top" type of guy more than the "effeminate nelly bottom". I'm not saying that all tops are straight acting and muscle heads nor am I saying that all bottoms are all twinky and girly, but those are the general characteristics and images that pop into most guys minds' when they hear the word "bottom" or "top".

    And many guys tend to give more attention or interest to those "straight acting- muscle tops" and their recent sexual conquers.

    That's what I got out of the OP.


    Partially. There ain't no shame in my game. It takes two to tango and if there were no bottoms in the world tops would just be SOL.

    Despite my colorful appearance on here,I wouldn't consider myself a flamboyant guy by any means. I have absolutely no problem with finding a willing hot top guy to turn me out. It's just bottoms tend to get labeled stuff like "whiny bottom slut" while top icons like Alpha and Bizman get a free pass.


    Come to think of it, I'm the bottom equivalent of Alpha and Bizman....icon_twisted.gif


    Alpha is hardly ever on here anymore, and I thought Bizman was a bottom.icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:09 AM GMT
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    jmusmc85 saidSo much for me trying to start a serious discussion.
    Maybe, just maybe don't start a "serious thread" with "hey bitches" LOL


    Fixed!
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:09 AM GMT
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    RadRTT said
    jmusmc85 saidSo much for me trying to start a serious discussion.
    Maybe, just maybe don't start a "serious thread" with "hey bitches" LOL


    Fixed!
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    Too sensitive. Maybe there is a double standard (I have not noticed) but you sound like a female complaining about being called a whore/slut.

    However, there is a double standard between muscle tops and non-muscle tops icon_surprised.gif. One is expected to be a top and often times is not, while the latter is expected to be a bottom and the same holds true. Fuck.
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidOh, and in the "How much do you pay for your gym" thread, somebody totally cussed you out for giving me 'tude on him much I paid. Don't know if you seen it yet. That bitch be mad at you..


    OMG, thank you! That's the best laugh I've had in days. I've been waiting for years to be cussed out on this site!

    The best is that he thinks I'm some fattie who eats at Wendys, and doesn't realize I just like to pick on you. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:11 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidToo sensitive. Maybe there is a double standard (I have not noticed) but you sound like a female complaining about being called a whore/slut.

    However, there is a double standard between muscle tops and non-muscle tops icon_surprised.gif. One is expected to be a top and often times is not, while the latter is expected to be a bottom and the same holds true. Fuck.


    Yes, the women analogy did come to mind when I wrote this thread.


    And hot joe thinks your a bottom Biz!!! You going to stand for that?
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidToo sensitive. Maybe there is a double standard (I have not noticed) but you sound like a female complaining about being called a whore/slut.

    However, there is a double standard between muscle tops and non-muscle tops icon_surprised.gif. One is expected to be a top and often times is not, while the latter is expected to be a bottom and the same holds true. Fuck.


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    Jan 02, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidTo some degree, I think you're right. Tops get to drone on and on ad nauseum about their conquests, and everyone high-fives them. Bottoms who do the same thing are view as slutty and loose. I don't think I've ever seen a slutty top get insulted, but slutty bottoms get ridiculed all the time.


    This is what I see too. I'm not saying its an epidemic or anything, just a casual observation...
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidToo sensitive. Maybe there is a double standard (I have not noticed) but you sound like a female complaining about being called a whore/slut.

    However, there is a double standard between muscle tops and non-muscle tops icon_surprised.gif. One is expected to be a top and often times is not, while the latter is expected to be a bottom and the same holds true. Fuck.


    Yes, the women analogy did come to mind when I wrote this thread.


    And hot joe thinks your a bottom Biz!!! You going to stand for that?

    My advice: Don't be a female.

    And also hot joe can sit on my dick for all I care. We'll see who's a bottom. icon_mad.gif
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    Jan 02, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    jmusmc85 said
    TheBizMan saidToo sensitive. Maybe there is a double standard (I have not noticed) but you sound like a female complaining about being called a whore/slut.

    However, there is a double standard between muscle tops and non-muscle tops icon_surprised.gif. One is expected to be a top and often times is not, while the latter is expected to be a bottom and the same holds true. Fuck.


    Yes, the women analogy did come to mind when I wrote this thread.


    And hot joe thinks your a bottom Biz!!! You going to stand for that?

    My advice: Don't be a female.

    And also hot joe can sit on my dick for all I care. We'll see who's a bottom. icon_mad.gif


    Don't be a female? You see!!! You're doing it!!!


    I'm not saying it bothers me or that I'm losing sleep over it, it's just a casual observation.

    Ill continue to post about my sexploits the way tops do. No shame!!!