art90 saidThis may be digressing from the topic, but I'm cool with it evolving. But do you think it is possible to have short-lived emotional experiences? That are fulfilling in and of themselves - without necessarily bridging the gap into relationship land?
I ask this because I was in a place not too long ago where I could have maintained a relationship, but my ambition got in the way. Which I don't regret, because I have a lot of personal goals and am not willing to sacrifice them.
Or should I (to some extent) abstain from the idea of sex until I'm ready to explore situations where commitment is a possibility?
The last part, the abstain because you may want to wait to explore commitment possibilities is where I usually offer people advice, only because my limited experience in all things gay has been that many gay guys become quite cynical about the rampant sexual ease and lack of much more. So you can hook up any time with hot guys, or at least I can, but if you want more, good luck.
So, if you want my advice, and really who doesn't? I'd steer clear of the online meat markets and focus on whatever it is that is keeping you for being 100 percent available to a fully engaged relationship. That removes the danger, the STI's and the emptiness of hookups, leaving up less battered and bruised for a bigger picture type relationship down the road.