Improving your "gaydar"


  • Jan 03, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    Im sure this isnt the first time somebodys posted a question like this, but as a younger gay guy, I was wondering if anybody had tips on finding other gay guys in real life (not just online or some app). Are there any signals I should be looking for? Should I be the first guy to make a move even if I'm not sure hes gay?

    Any help would be GREATLY appreciated
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    If at first you don't succeed, try someone else.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:53 AM GMT
    Try being in a mixed crowd of only men. Then uninhibitedly look around and take a guess at whom is what, and ask out the one you think is straight acting masc bro.
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:21 AM GMT
    I just pull down my pants and start stroking my cock in front of guys to see if they're gay.
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:25 AM GMT
    You can tell a guy's gay if he has his penis inside another man's butt.
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    Jan 03, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop said
    Neight saidYou can tell a guy's gay if he has his penis inside another man's butt.


    Or his dick tastes like shit


    Or his shit tastes like cum.


    ...what?
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:16 AM GMT
    Narciso saidI just pull down my pants and start stroking my cock in front of guys to see if they're gay.


    Hahahaha.....


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    On a less sarcastic note, well you could just smile but there's nothing you can do to be a 100% sure.

    That's why we should all come up with a gay/gangsta signal something like wink twice, scratch your nose once and raise your left arm shit.
  • Machina

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    Jan 03, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    A_X91 saidThat's why we should all come up with a gay/gangsta signal something like wink twice, scratch your nose once and raise your left arm shit.


    ^^This^^
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:22 AM GMT

    Unless your usual danger detector isn't working (like knowing not to walk in front of an oncoming truck), start treating the scene the way hets do -- if you find a guy jacking your pheromones go and make the move on him. If he's gay and not interested you'll get the same response as if he were straight anyway.

    If he pulls homophobic shit, stand up to him and wish him well -- you don't have to take that on for him.
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I saw that there's an article in psychology today about "What does your face say about you?" The front cover had a picture of a woman's face with different adjectives on it including "gay". Maybe you should pick up a copy and find out.
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    Narciso saidI just pull down my pants and start stroking my cock in front of guys to see if they're gay.


    Why not pull down your pants and bend over?
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:43 AM GMT
    gayusasian82 said
    Narciso saidI just pull down my pants and start stroking my cock in front of guys to see if they're gay.


    Why not pull down your pants and bend over?


    I wanna see if they'll kneel down so I can shoot on their face. If they do then I have plausibly convincing evidence they may indeed be gay.
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    Narciso said
    gayusasian82 said
    Narciso saidI just pull down my pants and start stroking my cock in front of guys to see if they're gay.


    Why not pull down your pants and bend over?


    I wanna see if they'll kneel down so I can shoot on their face. If they do then I have plausibly convincing evidence they may indeed be gay.



    Hahaha, even women want to be gay when they see you doing that!
  • MikeW

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    Jan 03, 2013 4:50 AM GMT
    dude, we should meet up sometime since we're in the same 'hood'.

    my gaydar has never worked well but it mostly is just a matter of paying attention and picking up clues. and some are more 'out' or 'obvious' than others.
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    Jan 03, 2013 4:51 AM GMT

    here are some things i found, however helpful


    The Walk
    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20762841/ns/health-mental_health/


    The Hair
    http://nymag.com/news/features/33520/


    Men Seeking Men
    http://www.gaydatingsuccess.net/gay-body-language-advice-for-men-looking-for-men/
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 03, 2013 4:51 AM GMT
    Narciso said
    waterloonicetop said
    Neight saidYou can tell a guy's gay if he has his penis inside another man's butt.


    Or his dick tastes like shit


    Or his shit tastes like cum.


    ...what?


    Dude you guys are so nasty. Haha
  • jsman65

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    Jan 03, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    mattfromoakland saidIm sure this isnt the first time somebodys posted a question like this, but as a younger gay guy, I was wondering if anybody had tips on finding other gay guys in real life (not just online or some app). Are there any signals I should be looking for? Should I be the first guy to make a move even if I'm not sure hes gay?

    Any help would be GREATLY appreciated





    I had this exact same question cros my mind within the last couple weeks I really want to know too cause I have no clue how to tell if a guy is gay, I have my assumptions but I never realy know
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    Jan 03, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    No one can tell. The only gaydar is based on stereotypes.
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    Jan 03, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    gaydarfc0.gif

    It's very accurate.
  • Saffron69

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    Jan 03, 2013 9:59 AM GMT
    scruffLA said
    here are some things i found, however helpful


    The Walk
    http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20762841/ns/health-mental_health/


    The Hair
    http://nymag.com/news/features/33520/


    Men Seeking Men
    http://www.gaydatingsuccess.net/gay-body-language-advice-for-men-looking-for-men/


    thanks a lot I'll have a look at them this topic never gets old because we all still need help finding our own
  • Angelix90

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    Jan 03, 2013 10:12 AM GMT
    For gaydar to work, both members have to reciprocate. When I sense someone is gay and I want to avoid the awkwardness of being mistaken, I would put myself out there instead and drop hints about me being gay.

    I would steer the conversation about gay stuffs to let him know. My most used tactic is to ask him what does he like to do in weekends and I would talk about going clubs or beaches most frequented by gay men and etc.

    If everything fails, I'll just whip out my dick and hope for the best.
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    Jan 03, 2013 10:45 AM GMT
    waterloonicetop saidFollow the eyes. Str8 guys stare at big tits. If a girl walks by and a hot guy doesnt notice you found your man.


    bahaha i do this but more because when a girl walks by thinking she is hot shit in skimpy clothes...i am like BITCH you aint hot shit...and walk by her as if she doesnt even exist...granted i would have dont it anyway but i do it more obviously. #sorryboutit #notsorryboutit....as for that gaydar thing...#clueless I am going to just ask them out icon_razz.gif best way of doing it at this point.


    I wish there was an app for that.. icon_sad.gif it would sell like hot cakes.
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    Jan 03, 2013 10:46 AM GMT
    Angelix90 said

    If everything fails, I'll just whip out my dick and hope for the best.


    classy icon_biggrin.gif me gusta
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    Jan 03, 2013 11:50 AM GMT
    Narciso said
    Or his shit tastes like cum.

    ...what?


    LOL!!!
    Hahahaha that was so good!!

    Seriously though I need to improve mine also considering I'm not into bars and clubs, I don't know if it's solely because my gaydar is crap but outside of those scenes it's really hard to tell.
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    Jan 03, 2013 12:00 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery said

    LOL!!!
    Hahahaha that was so good!!

    Seriously though I need to improve mine also considering I'm not into bars and clubs, I don't know if it's solely because my gaydar is crap but outside of those scenes it's really hard to tell.

    I won't say my gaydar is good but its pretty decent. I think approaching guys outside of gay place/bars is bit difficult. There is this guy who comes to my office and he is definitely gay. Also I can say for sure he is bottom. But then I never got the courage to ask him out. He didn't either even though he pretty much was dropping all kind of signals. One day I gathered courage and waited outside of my office to ask him out but finally I couldn't. He doesn't work in my office but he comes over sometime.