I don't know why guys don't ask me out. :/

  • nickgonza

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    Jan 03, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    I don't know why guys don't ask me out?


    I'm a full time student at AAU
    Majoring in Industrial Design

    Recently came out September 2012

    I'm 21 years old
    Outgoing
    Funny
    Really down to earth

    Versatile


    I've tried the bar scene and clubs which isn't the best place to get to know someone

    Any suggestions on where I can meet guys?
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    Jan 03, 2013 11:12 PM GMT
    1. Start numerous threads asking the same question and you'll become the new darling of RJ. icon_razz.gif

    2. Take the bull by the horns and you do the asking.
  • Kriss

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    Jan 03, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    good sir the next time your in Atlanta would you like to go grab a cup of coffee?

    xD jk I see your in a complete different part of the world xD
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    Jan 03, 2013 11:15 PM GMT
    showme said...

    2. Take the bull by the horns balls and you do the asking.


    This. Slightly fixed.

    OP: If you continue to wait, you'll find that the dance is over, it will be time to go home, and you will not have had a good time. Get out there and grab for what you want!
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    Jan 03, 2013 11:47 PM GMT
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  • hanzo83

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    Jan 03, 2013 11:50 PM GMT
    It all has to do with what you attract with your thoughts. I know I don't get asked out because I'm just in a place now where it wouldn't be easy to do. Just relax and it should happen. Just don't worry about it.You look pretty good looking to me by the way.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    showme said
    Take the bull by the horns and you do the asking.



    +1000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:24 AM GMT
    aSK THEM IF THEY WANT TO GO FOR COFFEE U FUCKING COWARD
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:26 AM GMT
    I think you're quite handsome, so that's definitely not the issue. I agree with the other guys. Ask the next guy you like out. And be okay if he says no. Rejection makes you stronger. And acceptance is just awesome.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:28 AM GMT
    Become moar attractive then EVERYone will want You.

    Face facts...if You were just a little better looking You could be happy....

    STOP slacking and do something with Yerself!!!!!!

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    Jan 04, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    The smell of desperation repels men.
  • nickgonza

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    Jan 04, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    thank you for all your posts

    i guess i just need to grab what i want in life if i really want it

  • wellwell

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    Jan 04, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    Get the F–out of frisco; it's an overly saturated market !
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    nickgonza saidthank you for all your posts

    i guess i just need to grab what i want in life if i really want it



    Yep, don't wait for them to ask you out, try making the first move...
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:57 AM GMT
    nickgonza saidthank you for all your posts

    i guess i just need to grab what i want in life if i really want it



    Yes, you do. Now go out and grab.
    Keep us updated and informed.
    We want to know moar.
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    Jan 04, 2013 2:42 PM GMT
    Are you playing games with them, sending the wrong signals? Sometimes what we think is telling someone to look at us, is in fact scaring the person off before they can get close.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    Narciso saidThe smell of desperation repels men.


    Can't agree more, though it can attract women like food flies.

    Nickgonza - Your very handsome but I personally believe it's the hair.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    nickgonza saidI don't know why guys don't ask me out? Then i start thinking that i'm not attractive because no one wants to ask me out
    Any suggestions?


    Honestly I don't think its about your looks, I'd say you are attractive.
    It could be from things like the kind of "vibe" your setting off or something like that.
    Just generally, do people approach you or is it more that people do but nothing comes of it?

    Also depends what you're after I suppose (i.e. hook ups etc).
    If it's ltr kind of stuff I do see the catch 22 because half the people will say go look for it and others will tell you to wait and let it come to you, so I do understand the confusion sometimes because I'm a little bit the same.
    It might just actually depend on the medium or "scene" in which you are looking for something too.

    I suppose you can always just give it a go and just ask someone out, see what happens. Worse case scenario, they say no and you can happily smile and leave it at that. If they act like an idiot then be glad you saved your time discovering it at the beginning rather than in the middle.

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    P.S. Everyone has their particular taste in what they find aesthetically good looking. I think your hair is fine lol, just thought to say it so that you know there will be people who do and don't like it. If your hairstyle was the sole reason someone didn't want to go out with you then I'd say they weren't worth going out with from the get go.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    A- Ask men out you would like to go out with, waiting for someone to ask you out is boring.
    B- you appear, in your photo, to be a little too primped for my taste, not that it matters, but for me, the whole hair product and plucked thing is for the girls, but to each his own. Just saying.
    C- Questions like this scare the hell out of me.
    D- Always depends on where you are hanging out too. People rarely ask guys out on dates on apps and hookup sites, at least that's what I have learned on RJ.
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    Jan 04, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    You give very little information about yourself in this post other than you consider yourself attractive. Your profile gives even less info so I don't know how anyone here can give you any real meaningful advice other than that you should do the asking.

    Given the dearth of information you give about yourself in your profile, I highly suspect you don't "put yourself out there."

    Think of yourself as merchandise you are trying to sell. You have to advertise and make the product as attractive to your target audience.
  • BTBruce

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    Jan 04, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    This post is a bit pathetic. Do you need us all to tell you you're cute? OK, you are. Feel better? This reminds me of my mom, who sits around the house all day, everyday ... and then complains she can't meet anyone to date.
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    Jan 04, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    Maybe they think you're a top. Rumor has it that the bottoms think the top should do the asking.
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    Jan 04, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    Um probably because they are stupid.. or into themselves too much..lol No but seriously everyone has a type and surprisingly enough some types I just do not get. What may look good to one person may look unattractive to someone else. And just do not push it either.. You only live once.. enjoy your life.
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    Cash saidBecome moar attractive then EVERYone will want You.

    Face facts...if You were just a little better looking You could be happy....

    STOP slacking and do something with Yerself!!!!!!

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    This^^

    If you want them to come to you, then work towards improving yourself. And I'm not referring to only hair and clothes.
  • owen19832006

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    ask someone out then!! dont do anymore waiting to be asked pal!