Is this guy expecting sex?

  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    So I got this app called Jack'D on my phone (I like to believe it is better than Grindr~) and this guy messages me "cute icon_smile.gif"

    I replied back saying "Thanks. How are you doing?"
    For several hours we talked about work and how we were both off work for a couple of weeks. We talked about having a drink and he said to me "It would be cool if you could stop by". I replied with "And have a drink perhaps?". He says "It's a deal icon_smile.gif"

    I don't usually use online apps to meet people and would only use it if I am bored, so I don't know how I am suppose to react or do.

    Is it naive of me to expect a good time with an older guy with wine and simple conversation without sex? What are your views when it comes to online apps like Jack'D?
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 4:51 AM GMT
    But it's not like we talked about it, so why bother asking and open a can of worms(?)

    It would be such an awkward conversation, no?
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    Jan 04, 2013 4:53 AM GMT
    Yep. He wants sex. He wants you to "stop by".

    Come on, dude.
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:14 AM GMT
    IceBuckets saidYep. He wants sex. He wants you to "stop by".

    Come on, dude.


    That's very likely true, or else he would've asked you to meet him at a public place.
  • Kriss

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    he wants to boink ya xD jk but no he wants you...in his bed...after wine....you get the picture..lol
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:17 AM GMT
    If you haven't talked about sex, then it's safe to assume it's not going to happen when you meet. I met my ex on Scruff, and we went on a very sweet, romantic date with no mention of 'taking it to the house'.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:18 AM GMT
    He probably is. A guy worth meeting and getting to know off of a dating app is the guy who won't bring up hanging out until after you have talked for a few days via app and texting, maybe a phone call or two, and the topic of sex or someone's body or appearance doesn't come up.
  • Kriss

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:20 AM GMT
    not_superman saidIt is possible to direct your own dates. It's kind of like the choose your own adventure book I was reading at the bar the other day.


    I LOVE THOSE BOOKS! goosebumps started my facsination with them as achild. Totally of topic but had to share lol
  • to626n

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    Never meet anyone online at their place for the first time.

    Meet in public, it's a lot safer and if he wants sex it'll be a lot easier to say no.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    to626n saidNever meet anyone online at their place for the first time.

    Meet in public, it's a lot safer and if he wants sex it'll be a lot easier to say no.


    Pshhh...icon_rolleyes.gif
  • MikeW

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:30 AM GMT
    Yeah, meeting in public is probably a good idea. But FWIW, I'm an old guy who does, occasionally, meet up with younger guys and I'm NOT looking for sex. I just like being around young people! icon_smile.gif Helps me feel young again myself.
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    to626n saidNever meet anyone online at their place for the first time.

    Meet in public, it's a lot safer and if he wants sex it'll be a lot easier to say no.


    Pshhh...icon_rolleyes.gif


    Elaborate~
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:50 AM GMT
    Naaaah he just wants to drink
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:00 AM GMT
    Yeah, the way he used "stop by" indicates that there is a high chance he just wants to hook up. I wouldn't be surprised if it leads to that if you take him up on the invitation. Other than that, given the real possibility of him being a psycho murderer, you probably don't want to meet a complete stranger at their home as a first meeting.
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    squally saidSo I got this app called Jack'D on my phone (I like to believe it is better than Grindr~) and this guy messages me "cute icon_smile.gif"

    I replied back saying "Thanks. How are you doing?"
    For several hours we talked about work and how we were both off work for a couple of weeks. We talked about having a drink and he said to me "It would be cool if you could stop by". I replied with "And have a drink perhaps?". He says "It's a deal icon_smile.gif"

    I don't usually use online apps to meet people and would only use it if I am bored, so I don't know how I am suppose to react or do.

    Is it naive of me to expect a good time with an older guy with wine and simple conversation without sex? What are your views when it comes to online apps like Jack'D?


    Very naive!
  • mybud

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    Jan 04, 2013 6:36 AM GMT
    squally saidSo I got this app called Jack'D on my phone (I like to believe it is better than Grindr~) and this guy messages me "cute icon_smile.gif"

    I replied back saying "Thanks. How are you doing?"
    For several hours we talked about work and how we were both off work for a couple of weeks. We talked about having a drink and he said to me "It would be cool if you could stop by". I replied with "And have a drink perhaps?". He says "It's a deal icon_smile.gif"

    I don't usually use online apps to meet people and would only use it if I am bored, so I don't know how I am suppose to react or do.

    Is it naive of me to expect a good time with an older guy with wine and simple conversation without sex? What are your views when it comes to online apps like Jack'D?
    He wanna drink in DAT ASS....
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:40 AM GMT
    It's a hook-up app.

    So yeah, if you're not open to sex, just let him know. LEading on is bad, mmmm'kay? icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    Lemme guess, was his profile pic of him half naked spread eagle?
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    ohboy saidNaaaah he just wants to drink


    Thank you! Or are you being sarcastic? icon_razz.gif
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    jmusmc85 saidLemme guess, was his profile pic of him half naked spread eagle?


    No his profile pix has a face and clothes on. No nude or half nude pix at all.
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:46 AM GMT
    Try actually picking up a phone and having a conversation with him, for starters.

    Likely he DOES want sex, given the interaction (or, really lack thereof) you had.
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 6:46 AM GMT
    not_superman said
    intensity69 saidIt's a hook-up app.

    So yeah, if you're not open to sex, just let him know. LEading on is bad, mmmm'kay? icon_eek.gif

    Most guys that are just looking for sex will have already asked if he is cut or uncut and if he's top or bottom; If they're really savvy, they just ask for "Stats".


    No we did not discuss "states", btm/top, cut/uncut or any jargon of that matter.
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:49 AM GMT
    Dude. There is a high likely hood he wants sex.

    If you don't want to put out, it would be wise of you to make that clear.
  • squally

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    Jan 04, 2013 6:50 AM GMT
    I don't get it though, if the likelihood of wanting sex is so bad why haven't he make sure I am this or that? Isn't people looking for sex usually get to the point pretty quickly?
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    Jan 04, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
    Wait, isn't every guy expecting sex icon_twisted.gif.