Lets be honest: how many of you are flakes?

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    I've seen probably about 3 threads about flakes pop up in the past day - all with the same response: the guy is a flake and you should move on.

    So I have a question to you my lovelies: are you a flake?

    How many of you have simply "stopped talking" to a potential "partner in a relationship" without informing the other party that you are simply no longer interested? I'm not talking about he tries to talk to you via email or something and you just ignore it. I'm not clear cut, you've been on one or two dates and everything was going well and then you lost interest for whatever reason and fell off the face of the Earth.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 04, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    I've not flaked out on a potential partner, but I'll confess that I've flaked out on one-time hookups that wanted more. Recently, a young twentysomething bottom dude wanted more after a one-night stand. He wasn't my type.. so I kept going after the hookup. He kept texting for weeks afterward. In his last text, he actually offered me money for sex. I never responded to any of his texts. I'm not proud of it, yeah, I flaked out on him.
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    I think it goes without saying I have flaked (in my distant past), but honestly, each and every time, they had it coming.
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    Jan 04, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    Proudly not a flake. I like things well defined. I respond to people when they write me and don't mind the conflict route on the way to conclusion. I've been on the other end and don't want to add more of that to the world.
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:00 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidI've not flaked out on a potential partner, but I'll confess that I've flaked out on one-time hookups that wanted more. Recently, a young twentysomething bottom dude wanted more after a one-night stand. He wasn't my type.. so I kept going after the hookup. He kept texting for weeks afterward. In his last text, he actually offered me money for sex. I never responded to any of his texts. I'm not proud of it, yeah, I flaked out on him.

    If someone starts offering money then it's perfectly justifiable. icon_eek.gif

    smartmoneyI think it goes without saying, but honestly, each and every time, they had it coming.

    If I may ask, please expand? How did they have it coming? Was it like they were throwing money at you like above? Or was it just that you "didn't want to hurt their feelings"?
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    Jan 04, 2013 6:10 PM GMT
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    PR_GMR saidI've not flaked out on a potential partner, but I'll confess that I've flaked out on one-time hookups that wanted more. Recently, a young twentysomething bottom dude wanted more after a one-night stand. He wasn't my type.. so I kept going after the hookup. He kept texting for weeks afterward. In his last text, he actually offered me money for sex. I never responded to any of his texts. I'm not proud of it, yeah, I flaked out on him.

    If someone starts offering money then it's perfectly justifiable. icon_eek.gif

    smartmoneyI think it goes without saying, but honestly, each and every time, they had it coming.

    If I may ask, please expand? How did they have it coming? Was it like they were throwing money at you like above? Or was it just that you "didn't want to hurt their feelings"?

    No, it was more like, a booty call that had expanded into a texting relationship, with no expectation of anything more. This was when I was younger and less interested in honest communication, so instead of actually saying "you have a nice tight hole, but you are as dumb as a sack of rocks," I would just disappear.
  • weneedlovetoo

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    Jan 04, 2013 7:03 PM GMT
    I don't think i'm a flake, I normally send them a text after saying that we're not compatible etc.... always reply to texts. but yeah i don't know why most of the time the guy keeps telling me that they are looking to hang out as friends so I didn't bother telling them that i don't think it will work out since we're nothing more than friends!
  • Generaleclect...

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    Jan 04, 2013 7:46 PM GMT
    Flakier than a dry scalp on a winter day. icon_razz.gif

    (But seriously, I've been guilty of doing it before - got what I deserved though.)
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    Never considered myself a flake.
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Not a flake at all. I carry out all my plans to the best of my ability. In fact, I'm usually one to get annoyed by someone who isn't as diligent as I am.
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:54 PM GMT
    I am not a flake. But unfortunately my career makes me have to cancel things at the last minute. It makes me appear as a flake even though I honestly want to meet people and know people in person rather than just online.
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    Not me, no matter what Clay says
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
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    I don't flake --- it's def not My thing.
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    I can be flakey. icon_confused.gif

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    So not flaky here, I am more crunchy.

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    Only because I dont wanna hurt anyones feelings or be around for the fall out.icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:16 PM GMT



    I'm defiantly not a flake! If I say i'm going to do something I do it. I follow all the way thorough, especially if it's meeting someone or going out with a friend. I hate flakes, and I personally don't like it when someone flakes on me. If they flake on me, they obviously didn't care enough to meet me or to be friends. So they get written off right away. I'd prefer someone to be upfront and tell me if they weren't interested or if they couldn't make it, it's really not that hard to do. icon_neutral.gif
  • He_Man

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:17 PM GMT

    Simple! I don't want anyone flaking on me, so I don't flake on others. There's no excuse to treat people so poorly. Be a man and tell them that you're not interested, that it's not working, or that you're bored, etc, but don't leave people hanging. Flakes are COWARDS! icon_twisted.gif
  • OptimusMatt

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:26 PM GMT
    I've never been a flake. If I'm not interested in someone I put on my man-pants and tell them that.

    I treat people the way I would like to be treated - with respect.
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    Well I'll admit I've done this a couple of times but only because "I'm not interested anymore" didn't really register in his mind.
  • Kriss

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:34 PM GMT
    I have never just failed to respond. But I have let a lot of guys have the last word. As in they say, "I had a great time... let me know if you want to hang out again" and I respond "Will do" and I never reach back out again.

    In truth, most guys that I've hooked up with had a chance and that's why we hooked up, but our interactions just didn't have enough chemistry. Sometimes it was my flaws or inability to see certain things at the time. Some of those guys email me out of the blue like a year later to check in and I do respond.
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:38 PM GMT
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    I don't flake --- it's def not My thing.


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    Jan 06, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    Hillie saidOnly because I dont wanna hurt anyones feelings or be around for the fall out.icon_eek.gif

    Question then: you don't think that perhaps it hurts their feelings even more because you didn't respect them enough to give them the dignity of a clear answer?
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    Jan 07, 2013 12:34 AM GMT
    Ahh, the perils of the dating years. The games people play, all the BS that goes on. I am SO GLAD those days are over for me. Flakey behavior is another way of describing selfish behavior, which is always annoying. I feel for the younger people who will have to go through all this crap. Hang in there, you'll find a decent person eventually.