I still have strong loving feelings for the men, but not necessarily the relationships from decades ago.
Though it may be both of your honest intentions, rare is the relationship that stands the test of time...til death do us part. Accept that fact and you free yourself to simply enjoy the mutual love with a man who, like yourself, is less than perfect.
Acknowledge that love, regardless of how things ended, and you can keep it forever and still move on.
Import saidI'm sorry man, but sometimes the best way t get over ur previous relationship is getting into another one?.... or at least start dating again. . .
I agree here. Go on some dates as a pure exercise. Even casting the flakes aside, be warned that more than a few of the contenders are going to make you long for what you're missing. But don't get stuck there. A few of the others are going to excite and inspire you. Those may not go beyond first dates but they're at least going to turn the page for you. You'll see possibilities for the next chapter to be as good, or even better than the last.
I'm sorry you're hurting right now.