Depression and Anxiety: What way do these colour your thoughts :?:

  • mindblank

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    Jan 06, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    For guys who have been diagnosed with either or both of the above, I am interested in your experiences with these conditions. I am coming to the conclusion that I may come under the radar for both of these. Not only that we have a family history of depression. Seems to affect about half the members of one branch of my family. I'm worried that if I admit to myself that I may have these, speak to a doctor, and am then told that yes I do have one or both of the above, that I will have resigned myself to a miserable life. Whether I have these or not, I was wondering what your experiences were: before, during, and after diagnosis icon_question.gif Are meds worth it icon_question.gif I'm terrified to take meds and that is partly why I am putting off going to a doctor. I have the utmost of respect and compassion for all people especially those suffering, but I just genuinely don't want to be diagnosed with depression. If I do or ever did have depression I would hope that I would recover fully without ever having gone down the road of medications/treatment, that I fear may reinforce that I "have" this condition. The thought of knowing for real whether I have depression is something I may be happier not knowing. I've always struggled to cope even when I was a kid, I really don't know any different. I'm also wondering how you (depression/anxiety sufferers) cope in general. Doesn't depression, and anxiety make life difficult in simply coping with all the unplanned things that happen, the sometimes vicious world of employment, and keeping up hobbies, socialising, etc at the same time. Do you still have bad periods despite being on meds icon_question.gif Does motivation change before or after diagnoses icon_question.gif

    Thanks guys.
  • 1blind_dog

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    Jan 06, 2013 3:19 AM GMT
    Depression runs in my moms side of the family. Supposedly my great aunt attempted suicide at one point in her life. My sister has taken meds twice in her life. Once in HS for I don't know why, then during/after her divorce. I've been pretty sure I would be diagnosed with depression if I took the time to see a doctor/psychiatrist which is why I highly recommend that you do. If you have insurance they may even take care of a few sessions with a psychiatrist. I understand that some things shouldn't be as difficult to cope with as I make them and that it's all in my head, which is what actually helps but it certainly is not a solution. It's just not severe enough to truly affect my daily functioning. If you don't take the time to see if your thoughts are confirmed, you're just going to assume you have it, but without confirming you're not going to do anything about it. Confirm and you'll be more likely to have the motivation to do something. See someone and review your options. Not knowing for sure will def hurt you in the long run.
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    One doesn't have to live with depression and anxiety all your life nor be enslaved to meds. There are many causes for it, and if you're able to address those causes you can indeed live an empowered, transformed life. The medical model of depression does not allow for such transformation.

    I was depressed in my early 20s (and frankly, earlier, just got worse later) and was able to find healing in my mid- to late-20s. That took some grueling self work, but it is possible. My faith played an enormous role in that. For that, I praise God.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    Every person experiences depression in varying degree so I guess by familiarising yourself about the signs amd symptoms would lead you to counseling. Remember, don't let your madness control you because if that happen, you might hurt yourself and accept that everyone has their limits... if situation does not conform to what it should be, be flexible. icon_wink.gif
  • tautomer

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:23 AM GMT
    I have General Anxiety, Dysthymia, and Asperger Syndrome. All are well managed through therapy, meditation, and self-awareness. I don't medicate. Most of the time I do my best to prevent it from coloring my thoughts. When I am down though, it colors my thoughts heavily. My imagination can be very daemonic, and I have to fight out quite bad images (suicide is part of it at times) from my head. My saving grace is taking a look at how I feel when I am neutral, and not to judge it at all. Take it as is and nothing more. Even if I don't understand it, it's often enough to help me ride the waves to the other side.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:48 AM GMT
    I have mixed thoughts about medication for anxiety or depression - I've been prescribed meds for both in my life. I still take some once or twice a month.

    If you suffer from anxiety or depression then you know how it can suffocate you. When you can barely get through life then a combination of meds and talk therapy can help. Even self medicating with weed can help you make it through the day. So in that case I think it's acceptable to get help from drugs or therapy.


    Drugs and psychotherapy probably can't fix you unless you have some legit brain chemical dysfunction. In most cases you are depressed or anxious about specific things in your life (abuse, addiction, self identity issue, PTSD) and you have to find some way to make peace with it. Drugs can help you calm down and sleep - but you have to take action to address the underlying problems.

    I don't think you should be afraid to talk to a dr. You can have a rich, full, happy life despite being diagnosed with either issue. They affect a lot if us. But you should be afraid of the drugs. They are aids that can help you get through difficult times but they are not going to fix the underlying problems. Dont get hooked on them. They can destroy your life just as easily as untreated depression can.

    Good luck and please reach out to someone when/if things get really rough.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:22 AM GMT
    mindblank said...but I just genuinely don't want to be diagnosed with depression.

    Being diagnosed with either doesn't change anything. If you have it, you have it before the diagnosis. Don't be afraid of giving it a name. Most people who seek help for either issue do get relief. You don't need to just live with it.