Actually fall for someone's personality?

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 06, 2013 3:30 AM GMT
    I know a lot of threads have been about how many people think that their personalities can't get them dates or get them whatever it is that they want but my question is this...

    Has anyone here actually fallen for someone because of their personality, even if at first there was no initial physical attraction towards that person?

    If so what was it about this person that made you fall for them?
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 06, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    No ... never
  • TroyAthlete

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    Jan 06, 2013 3:46 AM GMT
    Yes, twice, and both times it was because 1) he was smart -- intelligence is the #1 aphrodisiac, 2) we laugh and have fun together and 3) we had so much in common. All these things are related and its all personality. When you can plan to go out with someone and instead end up sitting up till 6am laughing and playing music for each other ("I LOVE that song too!" "Oh my god, what is this song?! I have to download it!") looks just don't matter.

    With the dude I am "seeing" now, it's something similar. Physically he is um, not as fresh-faced as what I like, but he laughs a lot, is so much fun in and out of bed, and is smart/successful that it makes him that much hotter.
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    Jan 06, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
    Nope...if they ain't as hot as the OP, I ain't even gonna grace their computer screen with the word "sup."
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 06, 2013 3:52 AM GMT
    Personality is the most important thing about a guy.
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    I think personality is awesome! I would like to throw in my two cents though and see if anybody agrees/disagrees...

    I think the attraction is the main part of a relationship. I think personality adds a lot to it, but my initial attraction is judged by the guys looks. That sounds a bit shallow when it comes down to it, but I have to feel some type of attraction with the person otherwise it's not going to work. In the end, looks DO matter (as that what grabs me at first), but personality is what's going to keep me around.

    Does that make sense?

    And luckily for me I'm attracted to guys that the majority of gay men just don't seem to seem attracted to. Well, more for me I guess! icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    HottJoe saidPersonality is the most important thing about a guy.

    Agreed! That and his heart......
    Definitely his heart! That's the tastiest part of a guy!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    wow ... so you gusy fell for a guy's personality without first being physically attracted to him? ... interesting icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    HottJoe saidPersonality is the most important thing about a guy.

    Agreed! That and his heart......


    I third this..

    I mean I have met guys that were so beautiful but their personality was so ugly I didn't find them attractive at all, but vice versa a guy who (I never call anyone ugly cause that's not right) isn't the most attractive actually became more beautiful right before my eyes, and I liked him.

    I love to get to know a guy. A sense of humor, genuine and sincere feelings and good conversation gets me everytime.
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:50 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidwow ... so you gusy fell for a guy's personality without first being physically attracted to him? ... interesting icon_confused.gif
    It's kinda like a mud puddle...aka, hogwash.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    Just because you think someone is cute..doesnt mean you fall in love with them...I mean gee willikers.

  • TroyAthlete

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:05 AM GMT
    paulflexes said
    AMoonHawk saidwow ... so you gusy fell for a guy's personality without first being physically attracted to him? ... interesting icon_confused.gif
    It's kinda like a mud puddle...aka, hogwash.


    Not complete hogwash. For example, you can think a guy has a banging body and find his face sort of repulsive, but hookup with him anyway because you need to get laid, and then discover an amazing personality that makes you physically attracted to him where before you were just horny.

    #speakingfromexperience
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:15 AM GMT


    "Actually fall for someone's personality?"

    Go on. Guys do that? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:14 AM GMT
    I enjoyed 10 years of having it all: our personalities were very close, our humor identical and sexually we just clicked, always enjoyed him, we often orgasmed simultaneously throughout our relationship, even when we brought others into the mix. We even had one time in a hotel when all three came at the same time and the fucking bed broke right then. What a trip.

    A few years later I enjoyed another 10 years but this time with a guy who did not turn me on sexually at all. Very good looking guy just not my type and sexually incompatible. But spiritually and emotionally and intellectually we clicked completely, well, other than that he was a Republican but that made things interesting (& they're usually a lot more liberal by the time I'm done with them anyway). There was no intimacy missing from our relationship and in some ways it was even more intimate than was my 10 years with the love of my life. For sex we simply played with others.

    Great to have it all but I know that's rare so not a deal breaker for me.

    I think that gay people need to allow for this if they want some happy in their lives. We are only a small percentage of the population. We are very good at excluding others from our lives for the slightest of reasons. There's another concurrent thread I perused which touches on asexuality. These are all valid relationships. Whether the sex is great or you're not having sex at all or you are having sex with others, if you find a guy who you want to share your life with, hold on to that. It's a wonderful ride.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    Absolutely! I've said it in many threads, but I've crushed on the most ordinary, and unconventionally attractive men solely based on how they present themselves.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidAbsolutely! I've said it in many threads, but I've crushed on the most ordinary, and unconventionally attractive men solely based on how they present themselves.


    This and same, I just really dig nice guys.
    Okay to be honest, granted that if you identify yourself from that same "pool" of people then yes I suppose you like to "fight for the underdog", so to speak, because you think of yourself as one of them. Fine I am in some ways guilty of that.

    Still, I know it's been said before but beauty is very subjective and people often will find beauty in someone in different ways.
    Yes it's a very sugar coated answer, but I think it's true.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 06, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidNope...if they ain't as hot as the OP, I ain't even gonna grace their computer screen with the word "sup."


    Aww Paul <3 you!
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    Jan 06, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    I actually do fall for nice guys.
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    Jan 06, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidPersonality is the most important thing about a guy.

    +1 , well, one of the top-most important things about a guy ;-)
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    As nerdy as it sounds I really fancied this guy because he was so much smarter than me. But then the attraction wore off when I started getting better grades than him. So that doesn't count but it's what first came to mind.

    But there have been times when I liked someone just because they had an amazing personality and a sense of humour like mine.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:14 PM GMT
    actually, i can't i have fallen for them but i did want to have sex with them. ha ha ha does that count?
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:17 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI've crushed on the most ordinary, and unconventionally attractive men solely based on how they present themselves.


    Same here... Sweet, funny guys make me week in the knees!
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    Jan 06, 2013 10:55 PM GMT
    An apple can be red as a firetruck and shiny as the sun, but ain't nobody gonna bite with a worm inside.
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    Jan 06, 2013 10:59 PM GMT
    Were they hawt?
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    Jan 06, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor said
    HottJoe saidPersonality is the most important thing about a guy.

    Agreed! That and his heart......


    +1