subtleties of attraction- how to flirt with and nab guys in public?

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    When I go out, there seem to be hot guys in all directions. grocery store, car next to me at the stop light, UPS man. Just today I was at Trader Joe's and this cute dude was shopping with a cute girl, however, I got the vibe that they were just friends. In that situation, I don't know how to approach him. And it seems like all situations where I meet guys that I am attracted to are those types of situations. there's always some asshole in the way!! And It's never in a place where they are sure to be gay.

    So, what is the hint to flirting and getting a guy's number out in public? If it were me, I would be balls to the wall flattered if a guy approached me like that, so, I know it would work, it's just getting them into a situation where it wouldn't be so awkward.

    Prob. just me sitting here bored typing out loud..
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:49 AM GMT
    I assume it's the same rules as the Internet. Send him noodz.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:06 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidI assume it's the same rules as the Internet. Send him noodz.


    you mean those things dangling between me legs
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:14 AM GMT
    I think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
    single guys can be found in the frozen pizza aisle around midnight... just saying
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:43 AM GMT
    mindgarden saidsingle guys can be found in the frozen pizza aisle around midnight... just saying


    then the gay ones are definitely in the booze aisle. I like your thinking.
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    Please, if you find a way to hit on guys in public besides the gay bar or any other lgbt events let me know. I'll even read a book on it if had good reviews
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    Good question, I would just get his attention by bumping into him, then say I'm so sorry and start a conversation from there. Of course adding a few flirtatious signals to see if he's straight and go on from there.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:00 AM GMT
    Two rounds of awkward eye contact.

    If after the second time he looks away uncomfortably, it's a no-go. If he looks again curiously, smile - and you've probably got it.

    It worked a grand total of twice for me, but it worked nonetheless. icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:00 AM GMT
    I use to have this fantasy as a young teen that I would meet the man of my dreams in the Gay/Lesbian section of Barnes & Noble. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:04 AM GMT
    Jett saidGood question, I would just get his attention by bumping into him, then say I'm so sorry and start a conversation from there. Of course adding a few flirtatious signals to see if he's straight and go on from there.


    I crashed into a cute guy while I was entering the change room and he was leaving. I was soo embarrassed. I almost kissed the guy while stepping on his toes *face-palm. All I could say was "Woahhh, I'm sorrrrrryyy"
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:07 AM GMT
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:19 AM GMT
    Good question. I wish I knew!
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:02 AM GMT
    TheBizMan saidI think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.


    i ve done it twice already !

    first with a girl, second with a guy, dont be a time waister and hover around, just get straight to the person,

    sure they can say no or take u for a crazy one, but if you dont try you wont know

    you cruise you lose.
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    Jan 06, 2013 9:06 AM GMT
    sweetbilla said
    TheBizMan saidI think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.


    i ve done it twice already !

    first with a girl, second with a guy, dont be a time waister and hover around, just get straight to the person,

    sure they can say no or take u for a crazy one, but if you dont try you wont know

    you cruise you lose.


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    Jan 06, 2013 9:31 AM GMT
    sweetbilla said
    TheBizMan saidI think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.


    i ve done it twice already !

    first with a girl, second with a guy, dont be a time waister and hover around, just get straight to the person,

    sure they can say no or take u for a crazy one, but if you dont try you wont know

    you cruise you lose.


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    Jan 06, 2013 1:11 PM GMT
    sweetbilla said
    TheBizMan saidI think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.


    i ve done it twice already !

    first with a girl, second with a guy, dont be a time waister and hover around, just get straight to the person,

    sure they can say no or take u for a crazy one, but if you dont try you wont know

    you cruise you lose.

    That's encouraging. yeah I see many hot guys around in supermarkets, public transport etc. Never had balls to go ask them out.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 06, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    Shagglot said
    sweetbilla said
    TheBizMan saidI think it's far-fetched to even think that straight guys can pick up chicks in a grocery store.


    i ve done it twice already !

    first with a girl, second with a guy, dont be a time waister and hover around, just get straight to the person,

    sure they can say no or take u for a crazy one, but if you dont try you wont know

    you cruise you lose.

    That's encouraging. yeah I see many hot guys around in supermarkets, public transport etc. Never had balls to go ask them out.

    Because normal people don't do that.
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:14 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said
    Because normal people don't do that.

    We are gay icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:15 PM GMT
    Shagglot said
    TheBizMan said
    Because normal people don't do that.

    We are gay icon_rolleyes.gif


    And.. you're point? I consider myself a normal human being.

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    Jan 06, 2013 1:18 PM GMT
    TheBizMan said

    And.. you're point? I consider myself a normal human being.

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    That was just to stress the fact it isn't written or documented anywhere that normal people don't do that. sweetbilla is not normal in your opinion then.
    Since he had done it? Right?
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:23 PM GMT
    Shagglot said
    TheBizMan said

    And.. you're point? I consider myself a normal human being.

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    That was just to stress the fact it isn't written or documented anywhere that normal people don't do that. sweetbilla is not normal in your opinion then.
    Since he had done it? Right?

    That is what I was implying. Yes.

    A normal, sane, individual will realize that a supermarket is in fact a place to purchase groceries not shop around for ass. As a matter of fact I think it's a little invasive to so callously approach somebody who is minding their own business, picking out produce, in an attempt to flirt.
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    Making eyes and lick your lips. When you send signal, he knows he is down with youicon_smile.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:30 PM GMT
    As a wise Realjocker once said to me: 'I assume everyone is gay until proven otherwise'.

    Just go and talk to them.
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    Jan 06, 2013 1:48 PM GMT
    You guys don't do the Bend and Snap??? Works every time! icon_eek.gif