Only "Looking for: Hot Friends"

  • RollDontWalk

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    Jan 06, 2013 9:16 AM GMT
    Why do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    Sometimes that's just how it is.
  • HPgeek934

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:50 PM GMT
    Because this is the Internet and its easy for people to lie and hide
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    You're obviously not emailing the right people.
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif

    Bitter much? icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    HPgeek934 saidBecause this is the Internet and its easy for people to lie and hide


    I totally agree
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    Jan 06, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    Who says you're not hot?
  • O5vx

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:56 PM GMT
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif


    +100
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:57 PM GMT
    There are plenty of people who message me who I am not attracted to at all. As long as they don't get pushy demanding my privates or getting on cam I will talk to anyone. If you want to carry a conversation then I am more than happy to chat till we have nothing else to talk about.

    I think something we need to get past, and something I personally am working on, is that not every gay guy who talks to me or that I talk to means that there is some sort of attraction or infatuation. It's tough to get past but if you can and make great friends, its worth it. Especially with a lot of guys here.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Jan 06, 2013 4:59 PM GMT
    RollDontWalk said

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif



    Actually, the REAL douches are the ones who only surround themselves with FUGLY friends to make themselves look hotter icon_wink.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:04 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ said
    RollDontWalk said

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif



    Actually, the REAL douches are the ones who only surround themselves with FUGLY friends to make themselves look hotter icon_wink.gif


    So many douchebags, everywhere!
  • in_this_corne...

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:06 PM GMT
    You can't swing a dead cat around this joint without hitting a douchebag or two.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid said
    I think something we need to get past, and something I personally am working on, is that not every gay guy who talks to me or that I talk to means that there is some sort of attraction or infatuation. It's tough to get past but if you can and make great friends, its worth it. Especially with a lot of guys here.


    Excellent observation! I think people sometimes think any type of communication means "I'm in love with you" or "I really want in your pants." Sometimes hello just means hello.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid said

    I think something we need to get past, and something I personally am working on, is that not every gay guy who talks to me or that I talk to means that there is some sort of attraction or infatuation. It's tough to get past but if you can and make great friends, its worth it. Especially with a lot of guys here.


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  • HottJoe

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:15 PM GMT
    Hmm, you must think friendship is cheap. A few email exchanges can make you an acquaintance, but friendship is a meaningful word that takes time to develop. The people I consider my friends on here are people I've had many exchanges with over the months I've been on here. They are people I know on the forums very well, and have gotten to know even better in emails. If someone I didn't know emailed, wanting to be my friend, I would think they're basing their desire on my pics.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    It comes down to the guy in question really, but if they aren't willing to respond to someone being polite and expressing friendship then they're not worth your time.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:21 PM GMT
    The fact that they dont respond is a GIFT, your seeing the real person so to hell with them.....their time will come when their looks fade and roles or reversed... Karma is a friend of mine...icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

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    You know, I think messages to others that I initiate are like tucking a message in a bottle and tossing it out to sea. If I get a reply, great. If not, no harm done. icon_wink.gif
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jan 06, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    Sorry, only looking for hot threads.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:34 PM GMT
    OP I wouldn't take much offense to it.
    Kind of what like HPgeek934 said.
    Some people are just strange in the sense that they'll say they're looking for one thing but search for a completely different thing altogether.

    It's could be just a coincidental string of bad people you happen to message.
    Think of it as a self filtering system. The people you shouldn't waste time on are the ones who won't respond.
    Kind of what like Sparks said.

    Lol basically I'm here to steal other people's answers and pretend that I've contributed. Like when there is a gift that everyone chips in for but you don't actually chip in and still write your name at the bottom of the card.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    Dunno... the only ones who mention that they've read my profile (without mentioning any specific thing in it, of course) are the ones who must delete their account in a few minutes, for security reasons, but whom I can contact on www.$4me.scam. I always just delete those.

    Everyone else just writes, "sup?" or "unlock?"
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    Myol said
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif


    Oh... I thought it was just because I was black....


    Or terrified of your good looks (people should stop and consider this more often, as well as shyness that someone who is out and public on the forums is paying attention to them, so they get awkward and at a loss for words). icon_wink.gif

    Anecdote: we contacted a fellow on here and heard zip back from him for months. When we DID get an email it was apologizing because he was floored we'd even want to talk to him and he was sure he'd make a complete ass of himself. ......and this was just platonic friendship.

    Another contacted us months after our 1st email and explained that he'd simply missed our email among others he'd gotten. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:48 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidHmm, you must think friendship is cheap. A few email exchanges can make you an acquaintance, but friendship is a meaningful word that takes time to develop. The people I consider my friends on here are people I've had many exchanges with over the months I've been on here. They are people I know on the forums very well, and have gotten to know even better in emails. If someone I didn't know emailed, wanting to be my friend, I would think they're basing their desire on my pics.


    I think you misread the OP. He said he doesn't get a response, not even when he writes things that they have in common. The "exchanges" that you mention that you've had with guys can't happen if you email them and they don't email back.
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    Jan 06, 2013 5:57 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

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    You know, I think messages to others that I initiate are like tucking a message in a bottle and tossing it out to sea. If I get a reply, great. If not, no harm done. icon_wink.gif
    I agree with you guys. It's definitely a crapshoot up in here. icon_smile.gif

    OP: it might be tempting to stop emailing guys on here because of the response rate, but if you are seeking conversation with folks you just might miss out on the guys who will respond. Something to think about.
  • mybud

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    Jan 06, 2013 7:28 PM GMT
    RollDontWalk saidWhy do people who say they are "Looking for: Friends" not respond to a simple hello, especially when you have some common talking points that you have gleaned from their profile and bring up in the message?

    Fucking superficial douches. They should just be honest and say they are only "Looking for: Hot Friends" icon_lol.gif
    Hot friends are over rated...These are the same guys you confide in ..you tell them how great your bf is...days later...they're fucking said bf...