Jealousy is a bitch

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    Jan 06, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    A guy I know who calls me his friend recently told me he is getting engaged. His fiancé is this really good looking guy who is a some sort of therapist and apparently makes decent money. I'm trying to be happy for this 'friend' but a side of me is jealous. The only thing going for this kid is that he's eighteen ( which is interesting since apparently he's been dating this older guy for a year) because personality wise he's nothing special, he puts Zero effort into his appearance, he's kind of mean and when I look at his boyfriend I don't get it. Lol I've never actually seen a picture of them together and I've never actually meet this boyfriend.

    And I know it's none of my business but I just want to know why someone who looks like this fiancé and has so much going for him would want to be with someone like this guy I know. I know it's just jealousy and I know I'm being a bitch but for some reason I can't stop letting it bother me.

    Have you ever had a friend who got a guy and you didn't get it?
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    Jan 06, 2013 6:55 PM GMT
    Um if you never seen a pic of the fiance how do you know he is "hot"

    Also people are different around their significant others, you should not judge a couple unless you have seen them together for a while and see how they interact with each other.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidUm if you never seen a pic of the fiance how do you know he is "hot"

    Also people are different around their significant others, you should not judge a couple unless you have seen them together for a while and see how they interact with each other.


    I've never seen a picture of them together. I've seen plenty of pictures of them separate.

    You're probably right. But there's this voice in the back of my head going 'where's mine? Aren't I doing everything right? '

    I do everything possible to look physically attractive and then someone who doesn't catches someone who on paper sounds perfect for me just bugs me.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:02 PM GMT
    What ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
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    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.


    So he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. Either way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly a catch either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...


    #realtalk
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:11 PM GMT
    So my advice to you would be to surround yourself around ppl that will fill your soul w/ the energy that you want to reflect in the wrld.
    It could be that the guy whos searching for you is rt in front of you but your too busy by distractions of self.
    Quality will attract quality and those reading what quality is on paper are fumbling thru the pages....
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:18 PM GMT
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    MashogaNubianPrince said
    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.


    So he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. Either way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly a catch either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...


    #realtalk


    I'm not saying Im Christie Brinkley but hell I try.

    And yeah like I said I'm probably just being a hater but its hard for me not to be.

    It became sort of my business because he's so smug about it and now he's trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong and I'm like 'Oh hell no Lunell is not about to school me'. It's just annoying. I'm probably just going to avoid him and just give myself time to get over it.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:22 PM GMT
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    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.


    So he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. Either way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly a catch either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...


    #realtalk


    I'm not saying Im Christie Brinkley but hell I try.

    And yeah like I said I'm probably just being a hater but its hard for me not to be.

    It became sort of my business because he's so smug about it and now he's trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong and I'm like 'Oh hell no Lunell is not about to school me'. It's just annoying. I'm probably just going to avoid him and just give myself time to get over it.


    The thing is, you do need schooling. How many self loathing threads have you started about yourself?

    The thing is, I know people like you is real life. I had a friend in DC who was also a large, black, and extremely cynical person. He is pretty much your mirror image. Always complaining yet doing very little to fix the rut that he (and society) has put himself in.

    Let's face it, you are mad because the guys you want to attract by and large are not attracted to you. I believe that's where a lot if your esteem problems come from. But you bitching about it on RJ and constant need to fee you need to "get back" at others who do succeed is not an attractive look. It only makes people look at you in a worse light they already do.

    #threesnapsinazformation
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
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    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.


    So he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. Either way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly a catch either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...


    #realtalk


    I'm not saying Im Christie Brinkley but hell I try.

    And yeah like I said I'm probably just being a hater but its hard for me not to be.

    It became sort of my business because he's so smug about it and now he's trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong and I'm like 'Oh hell no Lunell is not about to school me'. It's just annoying. I'm probably just going to avoid him and just give myself time to get over it.


    The thing is, you do need schooling. How many self loathing threads have you started about yourself?

    The thing is, I know people like you is real life. I had a friend in DC who was also a large, black, and extremely cynical person. He is pretty much your mirror image. Always complaining yet doing very little to fix the rut that he (and society) has put himself in.

    Let's face it, you are mad because the guys you want to attract by and large are not attracted to you. I believe that's where a lot if your esteem problems come from. But you bitching about it on RJ and constant need to fee you need to "get back" at others who do succeed is not an attractive look. It only makes people look at you in a worse light they already do.

    #threesnapsinazformation


    But I'm not about to let someone who lucked the fuck out talk down to me like I'm an idiot. I mean hell I know I have physical and non physical issues that I work on but I don't appreciate someone like him acting like some romantic remedial. It's like if someone hit the lotto but then they wanna turn around and give financial advice.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:29 PM GMT
    Don't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.

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    MashogaNubianPrince said
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    Hillie saidWhat ever interaction he has w/ you might not be the same w/ his bf. Sometimes love will mask things we aren't ready to comfront about the other half.
    Jealously is human nature but if u value his friendship wish him well on his new chapter in his life and be supportive. When the time is rt love will leap into your path for all the wrld to see ;)


    We aren't really friends like that. He talks to me and usually I'm just nice and respond and we talk. Or if I'm out and I see him I will talk but I don't go out of my way to talk to him.


    So he is more of an acquaintance than a friend. Either way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly a catch either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...


    #realtalk


    I'm not saying Im Christie Brinkley but hell I try.

    And yeah like I said I'm probably just being a hater but its hard for me not to be.

    It became sort of my business because he's so smug about it and now he's trying to tell me what I'm doing wrong and I'm like 'Oh hell no Lunell is not about to school me'. It's just annoying. I'm probably just going to avoid him and just give myself time to get over it.


    The thing is, you do need schooling. How many self loathing threads have you started about yourself?

    The thing is, I know people like you is real life. I had a friend in DC who was also a large, black, and extremely cynical person. He is pretty much your mirror image. Always complaining yet doing very little to fix the rut that he (and society) has put himself in.

    Let's face it, you are mad because the guys you want to attract by and large are not attracted to you. I believe that's where a lot if your esteem problems come from. But you bitching about it on RJ and constant need to fee you need to "get back" at others who do succeed is not an attractive look. It only makes people look at you in a worse light they already do.

    #threesnapsinazformation


    But I'm not about to let someone who lucked the fuck out talk down to me like I'm an idiot. I mean hell I know I have physical and non physical issues that I work on but I don't appreciate someone like him acting like im some romantic remedial. It's like if someone hit the lotto but then they wanna turn around and give financial advice.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Have you not ever read a thing the OP has wrote? His esteem issues certainly don't come from he. It's within himself.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:37 PM GMT
    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Thanks for that. But I have issues that have nothing to do with here, lol.
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:44 PM GMT
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    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Have you not ever read a thing the OP has wrote? His esteem issues certainly don't come from he. It's within himself.


    No I have not and what I wrote was not directed at you either. However i'm sure someone will see him and think he's gods gift frm the heavens.
    Jealously is an ugly character flaw.
    We all struggle to find, be heard and mostly to be acknowledged by others and we could all use some reinforcements frm those we seek solice frm when others are so easy to shun us away... Not much more to say but I hope u both have great sundays icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:50 PM GMT
    Hillie said
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    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Have you not ever read a thing the OP has wrote? His esteem issues certainly don't come from he. It's within himself.


    No I have not and what I wrote was not directed at you either. However i'm sure someone will see him and think he's gods gift frm the heavens.
    Jealously is an ugly character flaw.
    We all struggle to find, be heard and mostly to be acknowledged by others and we could all use some reinforcements frm those we seek solice frm when others are so easy to shun us away... Not much more to say but I hope u both have great sundays icon_smile.gif


    I would NEVER go out of my way to promote my shameless self interests or do anything to appear I just want attention. NEVER!
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
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    Hillie said
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    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Have you not ever read a thing the OP has wrote? His esteem issues certainly don't come from he. It's within himself.


    No I have not and what I wrote was not directed at you either. However i'm sure someone will see him and think he's gods gift frm the heavens.
    Jealously is an ugly character flaw.
    We all struggle to find, be heard and mostly to be acknowledged by others and we could all use some reinforcements frm those we seek solice frm when others are so easy to shun us away... Not much more to say but I hope u both have great sundays icon_smile.gif


    I would NEVER go out of my way to promote my shameless self interests or do anything to appear I just want attention. NEVER!



    Lmfao... U started a thread about yourself... And who's doing that?
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
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    Hillie saidDon't let anyone here or anywhere else define you. Beauty is subjective and who you might consider to be an Adonis is a troll to another, go figure. God knows some gorgeous faces on this very site say some of the most ugliest comments and how appealing is a mouth full of shit.



    Have you not ever read a thing the OP has wrote? His esteem issues certainly don't come from he. It's within himself.


    No I have not and what I wrote was not directed at you either. However i'm sure someone will see him and think he's gods gift frm the heavens.
    Jealously is an ugly character flaw.
    We all struggle to find, be heard and mostly to be acknowledged by others and we could all use some reinforcements frm those we seek solice frm when others are so easy to shun us away... Not much more to say but I hope u both have great sundays icon_smile.gif


    I would NEVER go out of my way to promote my shameless self interests or do anything to appear I just want attention. NEVER!


    Are you being sarcastic?
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    Jan 06, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    Getting back on topic he told me that his boyfriend, who I have never met, doesn't want me around because apparently I'm a bad influence because I said I like men with money or at least someone with drive and potential. Apparently now I'm a gold digger. Lol I'm just gonna block this 'friends' number and move on with my life.

    It's still gonna bother me but hey that's what therapists are for.

    Do any of you ever find it hard to be happy for someone else?
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:02 PM GMT
    Being happy is a choice that is made daily and that is for self and those who you choose to let into your life.
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    Jan 06, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    Hillie saidBeing happy is a choice that is made daily and that is for self and those who you choose to let into your life.


    I've read fortune cookies that were less vague, lol.
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    Jan 06, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
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    jmusmc85 saidEither way it's no business of yours. You aren't exactly ____ either so I wouldn't be so judgmental...
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