Sending false signals

  • gumbosolo

    Posts: 382

    Sep 22, 2008 4:39 PM GMT
    Hey folks,

    So I want y'all's thoughts on an experience I had yesterday. I was meeting someone at my former university center, getting lunch. I was standing in line and made eye contact with a handsome little navy guy I remembered from when I was an undergrad. I smiled; he looked back, no expression, but he held it. I moved away a minute later and he followed me. His eyes burned onto my neck like a lover's caress, blah blah, anyway, I got the impression he was interested. Not important. The important bit is this:

    A little girl, no more than three, was running around, making noise, tackling inanimate objects, being toddlerish. I laughed at something she did and he says, "That's why I'm never having kids."

    I reply, "Really? That's exactly why I would have kids." We debate her cuteness for a minute before he grabs his food, says farewell and goes.

    Now I'm pretty new at getting hit on, or at giving it, so it took me a minute to wonder-- was that a "friend of Dorothy" opener? Did I step into a trap and mistakenly identify myself as a breeder (I don't like the term, but it's appropriate here)? Have any of you ever used or known someone to use a loaded question/statement like that to find out "is he or isn't he?" It's not something I would do and yes, I know there are plenty of gay men out there who want kids. Just curious if it happens.
  • HndsmKansan

    Posts: 16308

    Sep 22, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    I think its kind of hard to tell anything from your comments, I think you almost have to have been there to really give you good input here.

    I'm not the best at analyzing these kind of things. He might have found you interesting (I've even looked at someone because they remind me of someone else and I'm trying to determine if they happen to be the person I know).. it might have been totally platonic. Its too bad you didn't have more time to determine it one way or another. If you knew him from your undergraduate days, that would have been a great opening for a discussion.
  • gumbosolo

    Posts: 382

    Sep 22, 2008 5:08 PM GMT
    Thanks guys--

    Appreciate the feedback-- I'm not hugely into this guy and not terribly concerned whether he was interested in me-- mainly just wondering if this is something people do-- defuse the risk by using a secret code.
  • Koaa2

    Posts: 1556

    Sep 22, 2008 5:10 PM GMT
    I think you should have reached over and grabbed his crotch, and gave a little squeeze!

    Honestly, hard to say, having not been there. There are times though, that following an interaction, gay and straight, I had wished things had happened differently. Lessons to learn from.
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    Sep 22, 2008 9:39 PM GMT
    Navy guy? I thought they were called "Sailors". The cool thing about a sailor's uniform is, the fly, it has thirteen patriotic buttons and opens up like a flap. Damned good idea.

  • GQjock

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    Sep 22, 2008 10:13 PM GMT
    I dunno...

    didn't sound that way to me
    I would have needed to hear how he said it and I would have to have seen his body language too
  • drakutis

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    Sep 22, 2008 11:22 PM GMT
    Come on, he's in the NAVY!!! He likes to be around and probably plays with se(a)men all the time!! 'Nuff said!!!
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    Sep 22, 2008 11:36 PM GMT
    I agreewith muchmorethanmuscle...its all about the body language and the way he said things. Was he being sarcastic when he said it, was he talking to you as one guy to another, or did he kept his eye on you as you told him where you stood in the issue? Plus there are so many other ways to hit on a guy that doing the children approach seems a bit off. Maybe h just doesnt know how to have fun. You should teach him how to!