I dont mean to sound narcissistic...

  • Kromethius

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    Jan 07, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    Ive been evaluating some guys' reactions when i message them and cant help but wonder should i improve my body and hit the gym more? I dont mean to sound desperate just curious usually guys just ask for hook ups or just ignore so im just wondering.
  • Kromethius

    Posts: 156

    Jan 07, 2013 6:27 AM GMT
    Ive heard that before but everyome in my area is discreet and wants hook ips can be douche bags and prefer white or latino...
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    Jan 07, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    So much more will be said here....
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 07, 2013 6:37 AM GMT
    What is it that you hope to glean from messaging other people either here or on other sites/apps? Normal conversation or more in the way of meeting up for a date?

    These require different approaches from what I've learned.

  • MikeW

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    Jan 07, 2013 6:39 AM GMT
    MIS37 saidIve been evaluating some guys' reactions when i message them and cant help but wonder should i improve my body and hit the gym more? I dont mean to sound desperate just curious usually guys just ask for hook ups or just ignore so im just wondering.

    Well, what do you 'message' them? What is it you're hoping will happen?
  • MikeW

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    Jan 07, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    SilverLion said
    Hillie saidSo much more will be said here....


    This is RJ after all so most of the dumb guys here are trying to combat being gay by playing a dumb straight guy stereotype. Sex and sports are the only relevant topics.

    Wow, you've given this a lot of thought, haven't you?
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    Jan 07, 2013 6:41 AM GMT
    Simple equation really, more torso = more messages
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    I think it helps to say you're masc. No one can tell either way, so if you're fem you can just lie about it.icon_lol.gif
  • Kromethius

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    Jan 07, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    What im essentially trying to ask is what am I doing wrong is it my body my personality or what? I know I have goals and aspirations and im motivated but what is preventing me from attracting/meeting guys
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    MIS37 saidWhat im essentially trying to ask is what am I doing wrong is it my body my personality or what? I know I have goals and aspirations and im motivated but what is preventing me from attracting/meeting guys


    D e s p e r a t i o n
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 07, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    MIS37 saidIve been evaluating some guys' reactions when i message them and cant help but wonder should i improve my body and hit the gym more? I dont mean to sound desperate just curious usually guys just ask for hook ups or just ignore so im just wondering.


    You should go to the gym for yourself.. to look and feel great, for yourself. Going just so you can 'get with guys' it's a very bad idea. Men reject men for a whole bunch of reasons other than a fit body. Get fit for your own longterm benefit.
  • MikeW

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    Jan 07, 2013 5:40 PM GMT
    MIS37 saidWhat im essentially trying to ask is what am I doing wrong is it my body my personality or what? I know I have goals and aspirations and im motivated but what is preventing me from attracting/meeting guys

    Obviously we may not know the answer any more than you do. Some of the replies you'll get here are just being fun or silly. Some will be more serious. But it really is difficult to know.

    What I know from my own experience is one doesn't have to be "perfect" in some "ideal" sense to meet guys and have relationships. I certainly wasn't. BUT what you do have to do is be willing to put yourself out there and MEET (in real life if possible) a LOT of guys. In my case it was literally hundreds before I had my first relationship. I had a lot of friends but the relationship was different.

    What I discovered is MOST guys didn't really interest me all that much. That's not a statement about *them*, it is a statement about *me*. It has to do with my personality type. I can be physically attracted to someone but that isn't enough to base a relationship on or even a friendship for that matter. I have to LIKE them and vice versa.

    So, who knows. Maybe for you getting out in RL will be better than trying to meet guys online.
  • Kromethius

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    Jan 07, 2013 5:46 PM GMT
    Thats the plan but everyone in my area is discrete so no hanging out in public, doesnt like blacks, or just want hookups.