Boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me

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    Jan 07, 2013 11:50 AM GMT
    So my boyfriend doesn't seem to be interested in sex with me. I ALWAYS have to initiate it and even then it seems to be the same routine. I've tried to get him to tell me what turns him on but he just won't. Whenever I bring it up he gets defensive about it and states he just doesn't have the same sex drive. thoughts?
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    Jan 07, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
    What's his age, physical condition? How long have you been together?

    Are you monogamous or open?

    Any particular stresses he's experiencing these days that might be lowering his self confidence?

    Is his confidence in you been tested lately?

    NONE of the above may be relevant but if you tell the guys here more about your situation, you'll likely get better answers to consider.
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    Jan 07, 2013 3:50 PM GMT
    GeorgeLifts saidWhat's his age, physical condition? How long have you been together?

    Are you monogamous or open?

    Any particular stresses he's experiencing these days that might be lowering his self confidence?

    Is his confidence in you been tested lately?

    NONE of the above may be relevant but if you tell the guys here more about your situation, you'll likely get better answers to consider.


    And I'd like to add, would he consider the low drive a problem and would he be willing to seek professional help?
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 07, 2013 4:04 PM GMT
    Sounds like he's a submissive bottom who hasn't figured out how to own his sexuality. You need to dominate him as a top--even maybe humiliate or spank him--and just fuck the living shit out of him. He needs to be walking funny the next day.... That'll help him figure it out.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 08, 2013 2:59 AM GMT
    So he is 50 and i'm 40. I do think part of the issue is related to aging but what i fear is that he's just more interested in sex with other guys. We do not have an open relationship. I think he likely messes around but i don't want to invade his privacy by going through his stuff. He's a very private person and seems to have a hard time opening up to me about some stuff for some reason.