So this is what the friend-zone looks like.

  • miraboreas

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    Jan 07, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    Not quite. So you meet this one guy, and he's not really that special. You talk, and realize that maybe you like him...quite a bit. Then you talk some more and start to get a feeling that you want to be around because you want to take care of him and make him smile. And then....and then he says "Yea, sorry, I don't think I can ever like you as more than a friend."
    How to feel about this?
    Am I just stuck in the emotional maturity of a 14 year old for feeling like crap?
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 07, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    miraboreas saidNot quite. So you meet this one guy, and he's not really that special. You talk, and realize that maybe you like him...quite a bit. Then you talk some more and start to get a feeling that you want to be around because you want to take care of him and make him smile. And then....and then he says "Yea, sorry, I don't think I can ever like you as more than a friend."
    How to feel about this?
    Am I just stuck in the emotional maturity of a 14 year old for feeling like crap?


    How to feel about this? Like crap. What to do about this? Move on.

    Be strong and move on. This happens.. and quite regularly. Don't just stay latched on in there.. like some undead zombie (with no mouth to bite you) hanging onto your leg.
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    Jan 07, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    miraboreas saidNot quite. So you meet this one guy, and he's not really that special. You talk, and realize that maybe you like him...quite a bit. Then you talk some more and start to get a feeling that you want to be around because you want to take care of him and make him smile. And then....and then he says "Yea, sorry, I don't think I can ever like you as more than a friend."
    How to feel about this?
    Am I just stuck in the emotional maturity of a 14 year old for feeling like crap?

    Now imagine that same scenario except he forgets to tell you that he isn't interested in even being your friend or anything at all. What zone is that called? Dunno but it's pretty bad. Thats my zone. icon_razz.gif

    In all seriousness, move on to someone else who will appreciate you.
  • miraboreas

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    Jan 07, 2013 8:06 PM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    miraboreas saidNot quite. So you meet this one guy, and he's not really that special. You talk, and realize that maybe you like him...quite a bit. Then you talk some more and start to get a feeling that you want to be around because you want to take care of him and make him smile. And then....and then he says "Yea, sorry, I don't think I can ever like you as more than a friend."
    How to feel about this?
    Am I just stuck in the emotional maturity of a 14 year old for feeling like crap?

    Now imagine that same scenario except he forgets to tell you that he isn't interested in even being your friend or anything at all. What zone is that called? Dunno but it's pretty bad. Thats my zone. icon_razz.gif

    In all seriousness, move on to someone else who will appreciate you.


    Hahaha, actually, I think I've been where you are forever, which is why this whole "friend" thing lost me.

    Well, sounds like moving on is the right thing to do. Sometimes I forget that I'm a boy and give into little girl feelings.
  • DinoBarbarino

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    Jan 09, 2013 10:17 AM GMT
    It really depends how long you've known him for.
    If this is in the range of weeks, I think you're jumping the gun a bit in expecting a relationship from him. However, if this occurred over a period of months, with him leading you on repetitively, then it's understandable for you to be annoyed with his response.

    Either way, move on. He's rejected you once, drop him.
    Theres loads of other guys around who will want you, you just have to be active in finding them.
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    Jan 09, 2013 10:36 AM GMT
    Uh be an adult, man up, and move on
  • miraboreas

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    Jan 09, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    OmegaOne saidUh be an adult, man up, and move on


    Yea, I feel like I need a slap in the face and stop being a 13 year old girl.
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    Jan 09, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    OmegaOne saidUh be an adult, man up, and move on

    THIS^^^ No matter what. An inexperienced heart will fool any wisdom and experience you have otherwise.
    Note: there is a difference between what you dick says, what your heart says, and what your head says. Sometimes they can agree, and its heaven when they do, but for the most part, expect that they go in different directions.
  • jake2016

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    Jan 09, 2013 8:52 PM GMT
    Try to distance your self from him. I have recently found myself in this situation, accept they haven't said anything. Try to hang out with other people, and do things to keep your mind off of him. Eventually the feelings will subside. It may take a while, and you might find it hard; I am. But, eventually things will look up for the better.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 09, 2013 8:59 PM GMT
    Yeah, total friend zone. Sorry!
  • miraboreas

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    Jan 10, 2013 3:32 PM GMT
    Awww, you guuuys, thanks for all your bro-ly advice. Even if some of them feel like slaps in the face. icon_surprised.gif