First gay date this Wednesday!

  • nickgonza

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    Jan 08, 2013 1:24 AM GMT
    grabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF

    I recently came out September of 2012 so i'm pretty new to the whole gay dating scene

    what to expect?
    any advice?
    ideas what to wear?

    UPDATE:
    Thank you all for the posts
    I definitely will take this first date nice and slow
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:35 AM GMT
    Cute! Just be yourselficon_smile.gif have fun!
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
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  • thatirishbast...

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    Jan 08, 2013 1:41 AM GMT
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF

    I recently came out September of 2012 so i'm pretty new to the whole gay dating scene

    what to expect?
    any advice?
    ideas what to wear?


    Don't come in expecting to like the bloke.
    Don't come in expecting a second date.
    Don't come in expecting chemistry or fireworks.
    Don't come in expecting to be laid.

    Allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised in all regards, and don't let possible disappointments chase you away.
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    Treat it like a casual hangout. Be yourself, wear whatever, don't expect anything to happen.
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:44 AM GMT
    When I go to dance clubs, I never have a bad time. Music, dancing, positive energy = Fun! Admittedly, though, it's been a while..
  • Fable

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    Jan 08, 2013 1:45 AM GMT
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF



    they sell food in a gay bar?!?!?!

    Go for the air salad.
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:46 AM GMT
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF

    I recently came out September of 2012 so i'm pretty new to the whole gay dating scene

    what to expect?
    any advice?
    ideas what to wear?



    Ha, ha . I have a date tomorrow too. I split with my first gay partner in Sept.

    Don't expect anything.

    Have an attitude that it is awesome to be gay and be able to
    Meet new hot guys

    Dressing up a bit has been working for me and is acceptable now in traditionally casual SF. Edwardian / steam punk Vest with skinny tie or hipster sweater with Bow tie.
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:51 AM GMT
    Nice! That's cool man. Just be yourself. And like someone else said, don't go in expecting a lot of things. Act like you're just hanging out with a friend if you're a bit nervous. He wouldn't be going out on a date with you if he didn't like you at least a little bit.
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    Jan 08, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    fable said
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF



    they sell food in a gay bar?!?!?!

    Go for the air salad.


    Haha

    With a side of air vinagerette. .
  • nomad4life

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:02 AM GMT
    Remember, don't give it away in one shot! Make him work for it. Like, at least a second date lol
  • buymeasoda

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    Slim2010 said
    fable said
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF



    they sell food in a gay bar?!?!?!

    Go for the air salad.


    Haha

    With a side of air vinagerette. .


    vinairgrette
  • Splendidus_1

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    thatirishbastard said
    nickgonza saidgrabbing some drinks and appetizers at a gay bar downtown SF

    I recently came out September of 2012 so i'm pretty new to the whole gay dating scene

    what to expect?
    any advice?
    ideas what to wear?


    Don't come in expecting to like the bloke.
    Don't come in expecting a second date.
    Don't come in expecting chemistry or fireworks.
    Don't come in expecting to be laid.

    Allow yourself to be pleasantly surprised in all regards, and don't let possible disappointments chase you away.


    +1
  • calibro

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    didn't you just post about how guys don't ask you out?
  • Kel_

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    Bring condoms.
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    Jan 08, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    do they still refer new bees as "fresh meat" ? icon_cool.gif, beware the sex troll
  • nickgonza

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    Jan 08, 2013 2:29 AM GMT
    calibro saiddidn't you just post about how guys don't ask you out?


    yeah lol i was just grabbing coffee downtown and minding my own business and a cute guy came up to me and asked if i wanted to grab a drink with him

    I guess when you stop looking things happen
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    Jan 08, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    nickgonza said
    calibro saiddidn't you just post about how guys don't ask you out?


    yeah lol i was just grabbing coffee downtown and minding my own business and a cute guy came up to me and asked if i wanted to grab a drink with him

    I guess when you stop looking things happen


    Work it!

    For the date- dress your best, smell your best, look your best, and just be amazing!
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    Jan 08, 2013 3:01 AM GMT
    If it doesn't seem to work out the first time, he's probably not the right guy for you. I'm all for giving a second chance, but usually if you aren't interested after meeting him once, it's not a second date that will change that.

    Try to stay open minded. Also, sleeping with him the first date is usually not a good idea if you want something serious.
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    Jan 08, 2013 3:03 AM GMT
    Awhh the young ones entering the dating scene, my 1st gay date was about 10 years ago. Have fun, be yourself! Don't reveal everything at once! Let him talk, have a conversation, don't monopolize or talk about yourself too much or dominate the conversation. icon_cool.gif

    If you like him at the end of the date, kiss him but don't f*** him unless you don't want to ever see him again.
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    Jan 08, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    Have fun and don't be nervous. You are a handsome guy, hope he holds up his end of the deal. icon_lol.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 08, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    Just be yourself and be honest! Those are the two most important things that I can think of! Good luck and I hope it goes well. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 08, 2013 3:10 AM GMT
    Advice:
    If you want a date do not plan/expect a fuck: otherwise it becomes a hook up date.

  • Jan 08, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    prepare for the worst, but hope for the best.
  • John6311

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    Jan 08, 2013 3:15 AM GMT
    A first date at a gay bar = he's expecting sex. Eat before you arrive, shower, bring condoms and breath mints.

    Have fun!