What the hack of this open relationship

  • bobbyddadd

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    Jan 08, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    I met this guy on a party. Then we had sex and had a good time.
    He said he like me and I like him too. I am not really digging in kissing and cuddling. But I did very enjoyed kissing and cuddling with him. And he was very intense with me on that. We exchanged numbers, agreed to meet up another time.

    I was so fucked up. I can't stop thinking of him for the next day, So I text him to ask him out for a drink.

    Couple text later, he text me about should let me know, he has a bf but in an open relationship.

    What the hack!! For the first time I really want to have more than a good friendship with someone and turn out he has a bf but in an open relationship.

    What does that mean? What he wants? Just regular one night stand or friend with benefit?

    I am still so fucked up. Don't want to butt in this complicated open relationship thing. But I just can't stop thinking of him. I am hopeless.
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    Jan 08, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    It appears you just found out that this is the right guy for you but he's unattainable. Welcome to the gay community dude!!

    Seriously, he's definitely not looking for a relationship. He's just interested in the sex. He may see you again as a FWB but that's gonna be it. Unless you would like to have just sex with this guy again, I suggest you move on. Also, for the next guy you sleep with, ask him if he has a bf. Some guys with boyfriends will not disclose that in a hookup situation and asking them upfront will save you a lot of trouble.
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    Jan 08, 2013 8:12 PM GMT
    He isn't looking for a relationship as he isn't emotionally available. He is only sexually interested in you. And is telling you this to make it clear that he doesn't have and probably wont have feelings for you. His bf knows that he is having sex with others and is ok with it. He may or may not be still having sex with the bf.
  • bobbyddadd

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    Jan 08, 2013 8:35 PM GMT
    you guys are probably right.

    But i do like having sex with him. I gotta figure out this asap.
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    Jan 08, 2013 8:42 PM GMT
    If you are going to have feelings for him then I would suggest that you dont see him. Else you will only end up hurting yourself eventually.
  • bobbyddadd

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    Jan 08, 2013 9:19 PM GMT
    We are going to have a drink tomorrow. I will figure it out before that to see if I can withdraw my feeling for him. Otherwise, I won't see him.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 08, 2013 10:00 PM GMT
    Sometimes ... you just gotta take what you can get
    Let's face it ... after looking at the same person for a while, you sometimes wonder what it was that you first saw in them.

    Maybe he is into multiple bfs and multiple open relationships icon_twisted.gif
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    Jan 09, 2013 12:29 AM GMT
    TellMeMoar saidIf you are going to have feelings for him then I would suggest that you dont see him. Else you will only end up hurting yourself eventually.



    This.
  • bobbyddadd

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    Jan 09, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk said

    Maybe he is into multiple bfs and multiple open relationships icon_twisted.gif


    OMG what kind of hack is this. Mutiple bfs/open-relationships
  • BloodFlame

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    Jan 09, 2013 1:18 AM GMT
    I agree. If you are developing feelings for this guy, I'd leave him quickly before it gets worse. If he is in a relationship, chances are is that he is only looking for some extra something something on the side but nothing more.

    Just next time, ask the next guy if he has a boyfriend. It really does save the effort.