Young men "hungry" (SEX) for older men

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    Sep 23, 2008 12:54 AM GMT
    I have been reading a few post on a yahoo group. I deals with younger men wanting older men.

    Some say that younger guys have a hunger for older men.

    What do you say? Is there a "hunger" by the younger crowd?

    And what are you limits to the age. Either for a younger man dating and older man and older men dating a younger man?

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    Sep 23, 2008 1:33 AM GMT
    Until I left the dating scene for a partner last year, I wouldn't date men more than 5 years younger than me, with one disastrous exception at 10 years younger that only proved my rule. Here's why I have no hunger for younger men, and reject those who approach me:

    There's a generational disconnect that neither of us is likely to bridge. Most of the things we know are grounded in the era in which we lived, especially during our formative years. Certainly cultural things likes movies, music, TV, styles in every field, catch phrases & slang, celebrities and so forth become part of our personal fabric. Added to that are politics, world & national events, educational approaches and many more.

    That cultural snapshot we carry with us influences how we frame our references, view the world, and molds even the very manner of our thought processes. When those cultural references are seriously out of alignment, we have the infamous "generation gap" that my own generation made popular in the 1960s, and which can still exist today.

    As a result, a date that's something more than a trick with drinks thrown in will not work for me, if I can't communicate and relate to the other guy. He's talking 1990s and I'm talking 1970s, and those can be like foreign languages to each other.

    It's the classic idea of having something in common or not, and for me a fundamental of that commonality has always been shared experiences and outlook. I find it with my own age group, and a little older, but not much with the younger crowd.


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    Sep 23, 2008 2:18 AM GMT
    *sprinkles some chocolate covered coffee beans around and hides in the bushes with a net*
  • MuslDrew

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    Sep 23, 2008 3:46 AM GMT
    I seem to attract college guys and married men, neither of which i'm looking for. I was recently told at work the youngest age you should date is half your age + 7 years.
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    Sep 23, 2008 3:50 AM GMT
    Lost_Lover saidI have been reading a few post on a yahoo group. I deals with younger men wanting older men.

    Some say that younger guys have a hunger for older men.

    What do you say? Is there a "hunger" by the younger crowd?

    And what are you limits to the age. Either for a younger man dating and older man and older men dating a younger man?



    I dunno, you're a year younger than me. You have a hankering? icon_twisted.gif
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    Sep 23, 2008 4:10 AM GMT
    ruck_us said
    Lost_Lover saidI have been reading a few post on a yahoo group. I deals with younger men wanting older men.

    Some say that younger guys have a hunger for older men.

    What do you say? Is there a "hunger" by the younger crowd?

    And what are you limits to the age. Either for a younger man dating and older man and older men dating a younger man?



    I dunno, you're a year younger than me. You have a hankering? icon_twisted.gif


    Dirty bitch!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Sep 23, 2008 4:13 AM GMT
    I can definitely confirm that younger guys have a hunger for older men -- Thank GOD I live near ASU icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
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    Sep 23, 2008 4:15 AM GMT
    ShawnTX said
    ruck_us said
    Lost_Lover saidI have been reading a few post on a yahoo group. I deals with younger men wanting older men.

    Some say that younger guys have a hunger for older men.

    What do you say? Is there a "hunger" by the younger crowd?

    And what are you limits to the age. Either for a younger man dating and older man and older men dating a younger man?



    I dunno, you're a year younger than me. You have a hankering? icon_twisted.gif


    Dirty bitch!


    You should know. icon_twisted.gif

    I dunno about real life, but I sure get hit up by a lot of 18 year olds on RJ and other gay sites. I'm already a cradle robber, but I would have to say that late 20s/early 30s would be my hypothetical limit.
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    Sep 23, 2008 4:18 AM GMT
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    Sep 23, 2008 4:39 AM GMT
    Being 18 I'd have to admit that older guys are just attractive because they're mature...And usually aren't looking for hookups, and despite popular cliches...some of us youngin's just want some love.
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    Sep 23, 2008 4:43 AM GMT
    My partner of 6.5 yrs is 13 yrs my senior, and he is one of the younger guys that I've dated. I've never dated anyone under 30, not even when I was in High School.

    Now I'm nearly 30 myself. Oh well. You are what you eat!
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    Sep 23, 2008 5:00 AM GMT
    Jayyp16 saidBeing 18 I'd have to admit that older guys are just attractive because they're mature...And usually aren't looking for hookups, and despite popular cliches...some of us youngin's just want some love.


    Thanks for a fair and sincere observation. Sure you want some love, and I can empathize with you about maturity, because that's high on my list, too.

    The problem for older guys like me is that I'm working against the clock here; not much time left. I gotta plan for the REALLY old years, when no twink will care for me, but maybe someone my own age will stick by me, and we'll care for each other.

    A young fella can move on to another man when an old guy like me drops dead, or gets put in a home. But if a twink leaves me now, it's likely a little too late for me to start the partner process all over again. I'm on my own until the end.

    So that's another reason young men don't interest me: there's no future in it for me, and no future in it for them. Unless they think I'm gonna write them into my will, and that's the kind of guy I'd especially try to avoid.
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    Sep 23, 2008 5:42 AM GMT
    Oh god you have no idea what a good looken older guy does to me.. thats on a totally different level. It's beyond sexy icon_redface.gif

    I've gone on dates with a 35 yro and the oldest I dated was 40.
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    Sep 23, 2008 5:59 AM GMT
    I prefer not to eat while having sex, it stains the sheets.
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    Sep 23, 2008 7:14 AM GMT
    lilTanker saidI prefer not to eat while having sex, it stains the sheets.


    Beds were made to have cookies eaten on them. Fact.

    I put chocolate chips and blueberries in my Belgian waffles this morn, yum.
  • OptimusMatt

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    Sep 23, 2008 8:14 AM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI can definitely confirm that younger guys have a hunger for older men -- Thank GOD I live near ASU icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif


    When they are hot...who am I to discriminate? icon_twisted.gif

    Besides, as I've stated before - older guys have a tendency to know how to fuuuckk

    hehe

    Seriously though, I've always found the 30's age bracket rather attractive - they tend to have a rugged manliness that is incredibly hot. Personally, I think it's a sign telling me to look for a relationship when I'm in my 30's icon_biggrin.gif
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    Sep 23, 2008 9:50 AM GMT
    ***Virgin here***

    Obviously I have no experience when it comes to men- who is the better lover, someone older or someone younger.

    I differ I guess... I like guys adround my age and hope to settle down with one close to my age 5 yrs.

    I can picture myself being with someone older and someone younger, but that age range runs from 19-28 years old. I think dating guys in their 30's, 40's and so on would be difficult in a way-- different paths in life. I'm at a different stage in my life than a guy in his 40's. I want someone to relate to and who can relate to me. Also I find youth more attractive than middle age/old age.

    I think though that my preception may be off a bite. I suffered through an illness for six years and watched a large part of my young adulthood fly by me-- hence, I HATE getting older and thinking about getting older. I hate my birthday haha. I dunno like I'm not as horny as I used to be... and pretty soon things will start wearing down/breaking down/going slower within my body... no matter how much i work out.

    I guess I'm like Pater Pan... except a young adult Peter. I don't want to age, get wrinkles, lose my memory, have a slower metabolism.

    It is inevitable though and I'm working on excepting that fact lol

    Though, if I met the right guy and we totally clicked and loved each other... I wouldn't necessarily care about his age-- but I still "search" for boyfriends who are around my own age..... at least for now!

  • Sep 23, 2008 10:49 AM GMT
    Jayyp16 saidBeing 18 I'd have to admit that older guys are just attractive because they're mature...And usually aren't looking for hookups, and despite popular cliches...some of us youngin's just want some love.

    Kuddos to you Jayyp ..age is just a number and the maturity in what you just said does prove that you can be 18 but well aware of what you really want and a little wiser than a what most people think that age should be . Your right youngin's do want some love and i hope there are guys who recognize that us older guys need some too icon_smile.gif
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    Sep 23, 2008 11:19 AM GMT
    MuslDrew saidI seem to attract college guys and married men, neither of which i'm looking for. I was recently told at work the youngest age you should date is half your age + 7 years.


    I run into the same problem. But then again, I think it's my own hang-up why I'm not looking for a college guy. Married...it's their hang-up icon_razz.gif
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    Sep 23, 2008 11:30 AM GMT
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    lilTanker saidI prefer not to eat while having sex, it stains the sheets.


    Beds were made to have cookies eaten on them. Fact.

    I put chocolate chips and blueberries in my Belgian waffles this morn, yum.


    Girl, you bring a cookie near my perfect pristine wonderful sheets and I'll beat your arse to a pulp and then I'll eat your cookies!
  • RITS

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    Sep 23, 2008 11:48 AM GMT
    I'd agree. I am 20. Been out of the closet for 2 years and have never dated a guy. But the ones I have come close to dating were 26 and 35... all of my gay friends are from 21 to 35 basically... Older are mature, know what they want, and know where they are going..

    Sure I am young. But I have a goal in mind after college. and am maturing ahead for my age. My hand can do anything a guy can ;) so friends are my thing now. never did a slutty phase, probably never will.

    Older men just know what they want and what they have. Cuddling and movies with them and discussion is always a good thing
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    Sep 23, 2008 12:20 PM GMT
    Speaking for myself, I find the reasons I'm attracted to older men have nothing to do with looking for someone to take care of. I've had a stable, self-supporting job since I was 21. I actually have issues with someone 'taking care' of me. I don't like to rely on others. Mature men, who have a sence of themselfs, know who they are and what they want in life, thats the most attractive quality.

    And like BioMatty said, you don't have to worry about em in the bedroom. I mean, I've taught a guy a trick or two, but gernally the know what thier doing, as opposed to the younger kids.
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    Sep 23, 2008 12:22 PM GMT
    Being that I'm only 27 there isn't a ton that I could really call 'younger' when it comes to dating. I will agree with Red that there are a lot of generation issues that form and I've seen this enough with friends of mine (until I moved to Chicago, most of my friends were old enough to also have been my parents).

    Right now I'm seeing someone that's 22 however it's not working out well simply because of his age and how it relates to what I look for. I really don't find a vast age range attractive - right now I typically look for people that are 25-34 because the most important thing to me is that I need to connect with someone on a mental level and too much of a gap makes that all the more difficult. Stability is another thing. With an older guy, your chances are a lot higher than with someone younger. But with someone too much older, I find that the 'father' complex forms where it's the older partner being more in control vs. equality.

    Really, it just boils down to what you're looking for and your personality. Age is not a set scale on which to judge someone; life and all its experiences are what make each of us unique.
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    Sep 23, 2008 12:24 PM GMT
    lilTanker said
    Buckwheet said
    lilTanker saidI prefer not to eat while having sex, it stains the sheets.


    Beds were made to have cookies eaten on them. Fact.

    I put chocolate chips and blueberries in my Belgian waffles this morn, yum.


    Girl, you bring a cookie near my perfect pristine wonderful sheets and I'll beat your arse to a pulp and then I'll eat your cookies!


    aww Tanker. I eat in bed all the time. I love curling up with a book, some ice cold milk, and a stack of cookies at night.
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    Sep 23, 2008 12:46 PM GMT
    Reading this forum topic makes me feel old, horny and hungry all at the same time! icon_confused.gif