I've also written about us, but I'll do it again. In October 2012, we celebrated 20 years.
It has been a roller coaster at times, but not necessarily because of the drama or debates.
We met in a heck of a fun cruise bar. I gave him my number, he called the next day, set up a date and that was it.
We've had hurdles. At first, it was my insecurities. Being naturally shy, timid, and introverted, it took a lot of time for me to learn to trust. But, once I learned to trust him, my trust never faltered and I never questioned it.
Our obstacles have been health related. I've had 5 eye surgeries and will have at least one more, maybe two. In 2001, he was on the highway and hit head on by a 19 year old crossing the center line. It was a lengthy hospital stay, months of recovery, etc. He never fully recovered. He then overcame cancer. At about that time, his heart began to fail, to the point that the lack of blood flow now affects his kidneys. All this for a man not much older than me.
He can no longer do any physical labor. All the farm work is left up to me. If machinery breaks down, he can go after parts, or help me move machinery from one farm to another, or help move livestock, but actual labor is beyond him now. Even the walk to the mailbox and back is sometimes enough to exhaust him.
Neither of us thought he would be here to see our 20th anniversary. I have to tell you it was the teary eyed, special time of my life to see us both make it to 20 years.
So, yes, we've had obstacles, but nothing that couldn't be overcome by our commitment to one another. We may not always agree on things, but we are always supportive of one another.
Relationships last only until one person gives up or one leaves this life. I often see those around me that could make it work and don't because of petty drama and BS or because they lack the commitment.
It took a lot of hard work for us in the beginning, but I thank God everyday that we've had this long and I never take a single day for granted that we have together.
One last thing... I believe that there is a soul mate (partner, etc) for everyone. Sometimes we just qualify them out of the running or we don't have the level of commitment it takes to make it work.
The only thing I would change? For Kansas to have marriage equality.
I tell our story to show to those young men on here that are always asking about dating and relationships, and are less than optimistic.