Stories of relationships that worked out

  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 09, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    I think we all need a pick-me up here. Are there any stories out there you may want to share about how your relationship did work out? Did you overcome any obstacles? Did people work on their issues and got together? We need some stories from those who have been lucky. I want to hear 'em. Please share!

    (And we have all heard the meninlove story. icon_razz.gif )
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    Jan 09, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    Over 10 years together, open and honest and loving - all that sappy shit you read about in non-gay fiction. We have an open relationship, but once we decided that instead of ever creeping around and cheating on our super monogamous relationship, we would have this super honest open relationship, neither of us have found any fun in that, so we have been super boring about being monogamous.
    Everyone of our friends hate us because we are madly and passionately in love, the kind of thing that just drives people crazy. We make eye contact at parties and smile crazy loving smiles at one another, like we just met. We hold hands while walking down the street, anywhere, whenever we feel like it and we both travel a lot for work and pleasure and never think twice about when we show affection (like hand holding or pecks on the cheek) because we are both tough motherfuckers.
    Plus, we never take our hands off one another, after 10+ years of being into one another. So, there. Haters gonna hate, but we have not had to seek counseling, no major hurdles, no addictions no games, no silliness or back stabbing because a slight bit of honesty can go a long long way.
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    Jan 09, 2013 7:27 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidOver 10 years together, open and honest and loving - all that sappy shit you read about in non-gay fiction. We have an open relationship, but once we decided that instead of ever creeping around and cheating on our super monogamous relationship, we would have this super honest open relationship, neither of us have found any fun in that, so we have been super boring about being monogamous.
    Everyone of our friends hate us because we are madly and passionately in love, the kind of thing that just drives people crazy. We make eye contact at parties and smile crazy loving smiles at one another, like we just met. We hold hands while walking down the street, anywhere, whenever we feel like it and we both travel a lot for work and pleasure and never think twice about when we show affection (like hand holding or pecks on the cheek) because we are both tough motherfuckers.
    Plus, we never take our hands off one another, after 10+ years of being into one another. So, there. Haters gonna hate, but we have not had to seek counseling, no major hurdles, no addictions no games, no silliness or back stabbing because a slight bit of honesty can go a long long way.


    Aaaawwwwwwww! Adorable story, smartmoney.
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    Jan 09, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    My current bf and I have been together for 3 years and prior to him, I have never been with anyone for more than 9 months. I use to tell people that once a guy has my baby, it's all over....there's the door, see ya! But with my bf, he taught me how valuable a relationship is and what we need to do to make it work. To make a long story short, he made me a better man. He showed me that there's a sensitive, caring side to myself that I refused to show in previous relationships. And I love him for that!

    The last 3 years has been awesome and I'm looking forward to the next 3 years with him...and so on....and so on.....
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    Jan 09, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    PR_GMR said

    (And we have all heard the meninlove story. icon_razz.gif )


    icon_wink.gif ...and 'bump'.
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    PR_GMR said

    (And we have all heard the meninlove story. icon_razz.gif )


    icon_wink.gif ...and 'bump'.


    And.. bump some more!

    So.. this is it?! There are no more happy stories out there? Come on. There have got to be more...

    ..for all our sakes! icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 6:15 AM GMT
    Relationships are hard work.In our case we had an instant spark the minute we met.I am lucky to have a genuinely good sweet guy.Sometimes I pinch myself.Relationships can only work when both people care about each others feelings.It is hard to resist the allure of hot looks and muscles but there is so much more to a man.Young people in particular have very Rosie eyed ideas about what love is.Any couple worth their salt who have been together for many years can tell you that true loves gets deeper with time but relationships based on sex or good looks are doomed to die a quick death.
  • thegaymessiah

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    Jan 10, 2013 9:53 AM GMT
    Relationships only work when both people care about each other's feelings....

    Yep. That's it in a nutshell.

  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:31 PM GMT
    Sweet profile picture, WickedRyan. Thanks for posting!
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    Jan 10, 2013 7:23 PM GMT
    I think I've got a good relationship that works. It's funny because most people see the differences more than the compatibilities. I'm liberal, he's conservative, I cook, he cleans, I like a broad range of movies, he likes a narrower selection, I'm not really a 'car' person, he can name make model and year of almost any car in any shot of a movie (and also know if the car had been jacked with), we each grew up in vastly different environments. This how people often see us.

    The issue is really, at least to me, what I get from the relationship. While there's no such thing as a perfect relationship (except at the beginning of most when you're in the 'pink cloud' of happy oblivion) the success comes from having more happiness than strife in your day to day life. I have that. I look at it and balance it over the long term. I compare the relationship to others I've had (and I mean comparing the relationship, not the men) I see that I'm happy, and that it's good.

    Do we agree on everything? No, but we shouldn't have to.
    Do we support each other? Yes, even if it's something the other may not agree with.
    Does he make me smile more often than frown? Yes.
    Am I happier with him than i was with my exes? Yes.

    I think it's a matter of understanding what's important to you, what will you accept and what you won't you, balance, and compromise.

    Am I happy? Yes. While I won't speak for him, he seems pretty happy too.
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    Jan 10, 2013 8:34 PM GMT
    Me and my bed have been going strong for the last 6 years. Always there for me when I need to rest my weary head and unload the weight of the world, perfect to snuggle on a cold winter's morn. And despite having been with each other for a while still great for a shag. We have an open relationship though, there's another bed I use during term time (but its strictly business)
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    Jan 10, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    bgcat57 saidI think I've got a good relationship that works. It's funny because most people see the differences more than the compatibilities. I'm liberal, he's conservative, I cook, he cleans, I like a broad range of movies, he likes a narrower selection, I'm not really a 'car' person, he can name make model and year of almost any car in any shot of a movie (and also know if the car had been jacked with), we each grew up in vastly different environments. This how people often see us.

    The issue is really, at least to me, what I get from the relationship. While there's no such thing as a perfect relationship (except at the beginning of most when you're in the 'pink cloud' of happy oblivion) the success comes from having more happiness than strife in your day to day life. I have that. I look at it and balance it over the long term. I compare the relationship to others I've had (and I mean comparing the relationship, not the men) I see that I'm happy, and that it's good.

    Do we agree on everything? No, but we shouldn't have to.
    Do we support each other? Yes, even if it's something the other may not agree with.
    Does he make me smile more often than frown? Yes.
    Am I happier with him than i was with my exes? Yes.

    I think it's a matter of understanding what's important to you, what will you accept and what you won't you, balance, and compromise.

    Am I happy? Yes. While I won't speak for him, he seems pretty happy too.


    I needed to read this. Loved it. Thank you icon_smile.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 10, 2013 11:18 PM GMT
    bgcat57 saidI think I've got a good relationship that works. It's funny because most people see the differences more than the compatibilities. I'm liberal, he's conservative, I cook, he cleans, I like a broad range of movies, he likes a narrower selection, I'm not really a 'car' person, he can name make model and year of almost any car in any shot of a movie (and also know if the car had been jacked with), we each grew up in vastly different environments. This how people often see us.

    The issue is really, at least to me, what I get from the relationship. While there's no such thing as a perfect relationship (except at the beginning of most when you're in the 'pink cloud' of happy oblivion) the success comes from having more happiness than strife in your day to day life. I have that. I look at it and balance it over the long term. I compare the relationship to others I've had (and I mean comparing the relationship, not the men) I see that I'm happy, and that it's good.

    Do we agree on everything? No, but we shouldn't have to.
    Do we support each other? Yes, even if it's something the other may not agree with.
    Does he make me smile more often than frown? Yes.
    Am I happier with him than i was with my exes? Yes.

    I think it's a matter of understanding what's important to you, what will you accept and what you won't you, balance, and compromise.

    Am I happy? Yes. While I won't speak for him, he seems pretty happy too.


    Love this post! Very much thanks for sharing!
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said(And we have all heard the meninlove story. icon_razz.gif )

    I haven't heard it. I'm a good listener and reader too.
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    Jan 11, 2013 12:44 PM GMT
    Really nice stories! Thanks for sharing )
  • Iakona

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    Jan 11, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    My husband and I have been together for 7 years and going.... I am not going to sugar coat it....it wasn't always easy....we've been through many ups and many downs....but behind all of it is love.....we truly love each other and can not see ourselves with anybody else....I think that is the sign of a true soul mate. Not someone you always agree with, but someone whom you can't see yourself without.
    We still hold hands down the street (sometimes in countries that it is frowned upon). We still always greet each other with a kiss and give each other a kiss goodnight before we go to bed.
    So far.....so good!
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    Jan 11, 2013 2:31 PM GMT
    I've also written about us, but I'll do it again. In October 2012, we celebrated 20 years.

    It has been a roller coaster at times, but not necessarily because of the drama or debates.

    We met in a heck of a fun cruise bar. I gave him my number, he called the next day, set up a date and that was it.

    We've had hurdles. At first, it was my insecurities. Being naturally shy, timid, and introverted, it took a lot of time for me to learn to trust. But, once I learned to trust him, my trust never faltered and I never questioned it.

    Our obstacles have been health related. I've had 5 eye surgeries and will have at least one more, maybe two. In 2001, he was on the highway and hit head on by a 19 year old crossing the center line. It was a lengthy hospital stay, months of recovery, etc. He never fully recovered. He then overcame cancer. At about that time, his heart began to fail, to the point that the lack of blood flow now affects his kidneys. All this for a man not much older than me.

    He can no longer do any physical labor. All the farm work is left up to me. If machinery breaks down, he can go after parts, or help me move machinery from one farm to another, or help move livestock, but actual labor is beyond him now. Even the walk to the mailbox and back is sometimes enough to exhaust him.

    Neither of us thought he would be here to see our 20th anniversary. I have to tell you it was the teary eyed, special time of my life to see us both make it to 20 years.

    So, yes, we've had obstacles, but nothing that couldn't be overcome by our commitment to one another. We may not always agree on things, but we are always supportive of one another.

    Relationships last only until one person gives up or one leaves this life. I often see those around me that could make it work and don't because of petty drama and BS or because they lack the commitment.

    It took a lot of hard work for us in the beginning, but I thank God everyday that we've had this long and I never take a single day for granted that we have together.

    One last thing... I believe that there is a soul mate (partner, etc) for everyone. Sometimes we just qualify them out of the running or we don't have the level of commitment it takes to make it work.

    The only thing I would change? For Kansas to have marriage equality.

    I tell our story to show to those young men on here that are always asking about dating and relationships, and are less than optimistic.

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    Jan 11, 2013 2:38 PM GMT
    The only ones I know of are meninlove, and yourname2000 and intensity69.
    There was one thread a while back where someone asked what kind of engagement ring he should get but I can't remember who or what happened afterall.

    Oh and there is Charlitos and his man (not sure if his partner is from RJ too) but yeah that's all I can come up with from the top of my head.
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    Jan 11, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    None have worked out for me to date after 4 ranging between 4 and 8 years.....

    Always another chance ahead.... :-)