Feeling some shame. :(

  • Breeman

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    So... I've been chatting with a much younger guy online for 3 days. He's pressing me to come to my place. I'm 50 and he's just 23. I feel really awkward about the age but he's is adorable!! Throw me in jail.. I've never been with a guy so young.

    If he's just after a hook up, I'm thinking why not? I've been alone for waaay too long -- why not have some fun? For me, guys as cute as him are hard to come by. icon_razz.gif

    Just want some opinions on this.
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    Jan 10, 2013 5:21 AM GMT
    First of all, you two are adults regardless of the age differences. Secondly, if you two consent to being together, there's no harm. Third, keep an open communication at all times. This way, you're upfront with this guy on what you want and your expectations will be met.

    Congrats on getting some fun!
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    Jan 10, 2013 5:29 AM GMT
    OMG, do it.... and if you don't, send him to me... icon_wink.gif
  • PR_GMR

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    Does he know you're 50? If he does and wants to come over, more power to you.
  • Breeman

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    Jan 10, 2013 6:05 AM GMT
    yes. he knows my age.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 10, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    Don't sell yourself short. I've been with guys older than you.
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    Jan 10, 2013 9:35 AM GMT
    I often prefer the hookups that I have had with older men because they are more experienced, kinder, and more open to conversation and communication in bed. I was clear that it was just for fun, as were they, and there are a lot of good memories in my head now icon_smile.gif Have fun, and make him love it icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 11:22 AM GMT
    As soon as I got my driver's license I was up to no good and on the hunt for cock. At 16 I opened a PO Box so I could correspond with a man twice my age who had a companion ad in some gay rag. In my teens & 20s I had plenty of fun with guys in the 40s, 50s and I'm sure 60s.

    For the past decade, one of my lines (I have a bunch) has been, "I used to like older guys, then I became one". Since turning 40 - which was about the time my goatee appeared and when I grew into this middle aged daddy look - I've been getting hit up on somewhat of a regular basis by some seriously hot young men in the 18-30 set who at least occasionally get the daddy fever. All they want is to use me sexually and treat me like a piece of meat which somehow I manage to endure. I never approach them - that would be creepy of course - so as long as they hit me up first I don't think I should be expected to resist. I tell them even after we've played the first time that if they want to get together again they'll still need to text me first. The younger ones - like the two 18 year olds who were still in high school - often remind me of *me* when I was young and fearless, so I do what I can to make them feel safe and definitely make it fun!
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    Jan 10, 2013 12:15 PM GMT
    hairyandym saidOMG, do it.... and if you don't, send him to me... icon_wink.gif


    .And then to me icon_biggrin.gif One thing I've learned as I've gotten older, don't pass things like that up because you might not have another shot.
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    Jan 10, 2013 12:23 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidDon't sell yourself short. I've been with guys older than you.
    Oouuu! Lmao icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 12:32 PM GMT
    Just do it and have fun. Remember the campsite rule. Leave things in better shape than you found them.
  • calibro

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    Jan 10, 2013 12:37 PM GMT
    if he's black, it's ok. if he's asian, you should go to jail. if he's latino, you have to hop around on one foot and give me money until an elephant sees its shadow.
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    Jan 10, 2013 1:26 PM GMT
    Breeman saidSo... I've been chatting with a much younger guy online for 3 days. He's pressing me to come to my place. I'm 50 and he's just 23. I feel really awkward about the age but he's is adorable!! Throw me in jail.. I've never been with a guy so young.

    If he's just after a hook up, I'm thinking why not? I've been alone for waaay too long -- why not have some fun? For me, guys as cute as him are hard to come by. icon_razz.gif

    Just want some opinions on this.


    Meet up somewhere public and neutral first before your home; you've only met online 3 days ago and know little about each other.
  • LuckyGuyKC

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    Jan 10, 2013 1:27 PM GMT
    My experience with guys under 30 is MEH..... they don't know what they want and are often into unilateral sex ..... mostly they just want to service a Daddy and I found that a little creepy.

    And then there was Anthony ... he also wanted a Daddy .... a sugar Daddy. He was pure hotness ... it only took him the second hook up to ask me to buy him a wardrobe and ask me if I had other friends my age that like younger guys. The third hook up I noticed he was driving a different luxury car with plates from different counties every time he came over. EWWW!
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    Jan 10, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    first of all, i agree that he's 23 and should be able to make reasonable, adult decisions. second, i've never heard of the campsite rule but i like it and agree with that too.

    what i'd add is that you should make sure you're making a reasonable, adult decision. make sure your expectations are reasonable. you said you've been alone for way too long. do you see this guy as dating material or just a hookup? it sounds like you might want more than a hookup......are you on the same page with him?
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    Jan 10, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    Meet up for a coffee or pint and scope him out. Make sure you both understand your and his expectations. Go figure but I get a lot of attention from younger men. I do not go looking for it. They seek me out. Must be myself morphing in to a later in his life Hemingway-esque (SP?) type and except for the aches and pains I am not minding being 50. The under 30 yr. olds and are a split group many looking for something but they dont know what and the minority have their shit together are mature, level headed and are more than hook up material. Good luck/report back icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 4:42 PM GMT
    Breeman saidSo... I've been chatting with a much younger guy online for 3 days. He's pressing me to come to my place. I'm 50 and he's just 23. I feel really awkward about the age but he's is adorable!! Throw me in jail.. I've never been with a guy so young.

    If he's just after a hook up, I'm thinking why not? I've been alone for waaay too long -- why not have some fun? For me, guys as cute as him are hard to come by. icon_razz.gif

    Just want some opinions on this.


    Go for it, but don't get freaked out if he cakls you "daddy". ;-)
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 10, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    Just have fun and make sure your wallet is safe. I've met up with young guys and had a great time. They usually don't know much but are fun to teach. Believe it or not, some young guys just find older men more masculine. My partner is that way. He lusts over older men. Enjoy it and don't over-think it.
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    Jan 10, 2013 4:48 PM GMT
    Breeman said
    ...he's is adorable!! Throw me in jail.. I've never been with a guy so young.

    Just want some opinions on this.

    Be sure he's really of adult age, not a legal minor. In most of the US that's 18, not sure about Canada. In most US jurisdictions the legal responsibility to confirm age rests with the adult sex partner, not with the minor lying about his age. There are some tragic cases of US gays going to jail for believing the other guy's story.

    That aside, no reason you shouldn't meet him, if he knows your age, and has perhaps seen your photo. Feel no shame. Your stats and cropped RJ photo suggests you are a youthful 50. But if you haven't prepared him (and I believe in full disclosure before any online hookup, no matter what the ages are), then you might get a rude shock when you finally meet.

    Despite my caveats (or negativity if you prefer), I'm actually very happy for you, since you seem so happy yourself. And if sex should happen this first time, or later, make sure it's safe. At 23 he may not sufficiently understand & appreciate that requirement. And you WILL post about the outcome afterwards, right? icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    Okay...and? As already said: he's 23. He isn't jail bait. He isn't a child. He is an adult. I'm younger then him and can say I'm capable of making my own decisions. Nobody can put you jail for having sex with him. Now if you're doubting that he's 23 then I'd investigate further...

    What I'd be more concerned about is the hookup. Remember: protection and make sure you both understand it's just a hookup. Nobodies feelings needs to be hurt. icon_cool.gif Safety first.

    Though in hindsight, what your feeling isn't exclusive. I had been chatting with a man merely 9 years my senior that I really liked but he was very uncomfortable meeting me (we never did - it just never materialized) because of the age difference. It happens with us adorable 20 something year olds. icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidOkay...and? As already said: he's 23. He isn't jail bait. He isn't a child. He is an adult. I'm younger then him and can say I'm capable of making my own decisions. Nobody can put you jail for having sex with him. Now if you're doubting that he's 23 then I'd investigate further...

    What I'd be more concerned about is the hookup. Remember: protection and make sure you both understand it's just a hookup. Nobodies feelings needs to be hurt. icon_cool.gif Safety first.

    Though in hindsight, what your feeling isn't exclusive. I had been chatting with a man merely 9 years my senior that I really liked but he was very uncomfortable meeting me (we never did - it just never materialized) because of the age difference. It happens with us adorable 20 something year olds. icon_wink.gif


    Everyone's so afraid of being accused of liking adorableness. I'm not, and I want you to get your camera out and take some noodz. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 10, 2013 5:13 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    IceBuckets saidOkay...and? As already said: he's 23. He isn't jail bait. He isn't a child. He is an adult. I'm younger then him and can say I'm capable of making my own decisions. Nobody can put you jail for having sex with him. Now if you're doubting that he's 23 then I'd investigate further...

    What I'd be more concerned about is the hookup. Remember: protection and make sure you both understand it's just a hookup. Nobodies feelings needs to be hurt. icon_cool.gif Safety first.

    Though in hindsight, what your feeling isn't exclusive. I had been chatting with a man merely 9 years my senior that I really liked but he was very uncomfortable meeting me (we never did - it just never materialized) because of the age difference. It happens with us adorable 20 something year olds. icon_wink.gif


    Everyone's so afraid of being accused of liking adorableness. I'm not, and I want you to get your camera out and take some noodz. icon_wink.gif

    I don't show off the goods for free. icon_razz.gif
  • rnch

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    I find this thread most informative and appreciated.

    A (what-appears-to-be) cute, sexy, intelligent appearing guy in his mid-30's, some 20 years younger than me, keeps on texting me, emailing me and PMing me on FB, chatting, mildly to quite graphically flirting with me, sending me pictures of him (clothed and less), his car, his house, his family & friends, wanting me to show him around New Orleans later on this spring.

    He appears to be quite sane, down-to-earth and quite emphatic in what he wants. icon_exclaim.gif




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    Jan 10, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    ^ Mid-30s? And you're thinking twice about this? icon_eek.gif

    I wouldn't go so far as to say that age is just a number - the older we get the fewer people seem to be attracted to us, that's just how it goes. But I still get some nice attention from guys of ALL ages, which I never thought would happen. It makes me happy. The world is more whorish, but also apparently more egalitarian, "old creeper" threads notwithstanding. :-)
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jan 10, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
    If its just a hook up and you both have been truthful about all... what difference does it make?