What would you do in this situation?

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    Jan 10, 2013 7:31 PM GMT
    I've been going to the same therapist for almost a year now. I really made some breakthroughs with her on my issues about my dad, the OCD and my eating habits and so on. However I have a lot of sexual/relationship issues I want to talk about but I don't feel comfortable talking about to her. I've thought about getting another therapist for a while because although I really like her.

    She never answers any of my questions directly or rather the questions I really want answered. I end up dominating most of the sessions with my talking and I really feel like she should be contributing more. I don't really feel as if she gets what I'm talking about sometimes when I do briefly bring up some of my sexual issues. I feel very uncomfortable there when I do even start to hint at them.

    On the same token I like that with some of my other issues we've really been making headway and I wouldn't want to abandon that now.

    What would you do?
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    Jan 10, 2013 7:53 PM GMT
    What's her official job title/degree?
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    Jan 10, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    Some questions aren't for her to answer. Maybe they're not as important as they seem to you; a lot of questions are for you to answer. Since you're dominating the conversation, you're already setting a premise for your expectations with her. If you come from a place of understanding, you'll seek to understand her position, and in turn you'll both understand your situation. Though, it sounds more like you've benefited from Talk Therapy, rather than actually full psychotherapy. I know, I actually did benefit from listening to my talk therapist, and applying what he told me every day after out talks. It helps to clear your head for an hour or so. Get off the computer and talk a walk. Walking is a great form of therapy itself, and helped me find my center. I am a rock.

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 10, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    I know you like her but if you really want help with your issues then you should seek a different therapist. Otherwise you're going to continue getting the same results.
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    Jan 11, 2013 12:08 AM GMT
    Not all therapists are good for all topics. I used to get really bad panic attacks and went to a therapist for help. She ended up telling me about her depression and anxiety she was going through during our sessions. She had a little dog that she would bring into the office and the damn dog was going through depression and separation anxiety. I kept looking for a hidden camera to tell me I was on a prank reality show or something.

    My suggestion for the OP is to find a therapist that specializes in rape and sexual abuse recovery. They are more equipped and aggressive at getting you to figure out your true issues.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jan 11, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    Dude. You need to check into a place.We're really over reading your posts over and over and over and over and over. But I like you, So I'm sending this.
    There are people who can help you better than a bunch of pathetic gay gays on RealJock can.
  • Timbales

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    Jan 11, 2013 2:07 AM GMT
    confront her and see what she says

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    Jan 11, 2013 2:13 AM GMT
    You become her therapist and then charge her at the end.

    Turn the tables on her without her ever really realizing it. Steal her identity! Live the life of luxury that all the-rapists do!
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    Jan 11, 2013 3:43 AM GMT

    I think that's a rule of therapists. "I am the one that asks." The more you know about psychology, the more you can sabotage your own progress. It's annoying but for the best.

    Would it be uncomfortable to tell her that you're really uncomfortable talking about sexuality with her? It would be relevant. I wouldn't imagine it would offend her. It might make things better by relieving tension, or even prompting her to refer you to someone else.
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:52 AM GMT
    Isn't her job to let you come to your own conclusion. Her job is to listen. You have the answers
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    Hillie saidIsn't her job to let you come to your own conclusion. Her job is to listen. You have the answers


    Well I feel like I shouldn't be the one coming to all the realizations on my own. I feel like she should be more involved in our sessions. But anyway I had a session and after reading what some you guys said I brought it up with her about some of the stuff I wanted to talk about. She asked me if I felt more comfortable with a man and I told her I would but I would still like to talk to her about my other issues. So for our session she turned around when I had to say the more difficult stuff and didn't want to feel like I was being judged while saying it. It went well enough. Apparently I'm too aggressive while approaching men and I'm SO desperate to have sex or be with someone that I try to jump from 'Hi how are you' to 'what colors should we paint the bedroom' with no buffer inbetween.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:09 AM GMT
    You should masturbate more so you're not chompin at the bit with actual men. That's my professional opinion.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    No offensive but we already had this discussion in another one of your threads...

    Dump the therapist and get a new one...
  • Medjai

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    Jan 12, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    RadRTT saidNo offensive but we already had this discussion in another one of your threads...

    Dump the therapist and get a new one...


    It can be as much the patient not committing or holding back as the therapist. He even said he was holding back because he had his own reservations.

    They aren't psychics. They can't help with what they aren't told.