Is gay sex more complicated than straight sex??

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    Jan 10, 2013 8:22 PM GMT
    I'm a new bottom and I've been having trouble "preparing" properly for sex with the guy I've been seeing. There is always a little bit of a mess when he pulls out even when I douche before hand or try to eat lots of fruit and fibre in preparation. (He's very very well endowed if that matters?) Apparently I should have a bowl movement shortly before sex, but I eat frequently for weight training and have BMs like twice a day; so how am I supposed to time my BMs and make sure my bowels are clear for sex? Especially for spontaneous sex?? Is gay sex always this complicated, or am I just not douching/cleaning properly?

    My recent struggles have made me curious to try sex with a woman. Is straight sex easier because they can fuck spontaneously without prep or lube? Does fucking a vagina feel similar to fucking an asshole?
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    Jan 10, 2013 8:35 PM GMT
    Unless you think that unwanted pregnancy is a "complication."

    Lots of threads/debates on here about enemas and bottom prep.
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    Jan 10, 2013 8:44 PM GMT

    complicated? NAH, icon_lol.gif

  • HottJoe

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    Jan 10, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    Does it happen every time? Because I think it gets better with experience... Also straight sex can make a mess, just a different kind. /:
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    Jan 10, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidDoes it happen every time? Because I think it gets better with experience... Also straight sex can make a mess, just a different kind. /:

    Sometimes he throws away the condom before I see it; but whenever I've seen the condom, there is usually some "dirt" on there. Sometimes are worse than others. But, now he always makes a point to not pull out (even when switching positions) until he is ready to cum. So I guess he has noticed the mess too. It's really embarassing and the last time we fucked a couple of days ago was particularily bad. We still work out together, but he hasn't suggested fucking since :$
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    Jan 13, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    OMG! Thank you so much for such a thorough response!!!! =)
    Yep I definitely do get the “open up more feeling”; I’m quite sure he is reaching my colon.

    As for the shower head attachment, I am a little worried about some of the concerns brought up in the thread you referenced. I don’t want to overdo things and upset the balance in my intestines. I have been using a colt anal douche
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    4 or so times until the water comes out clear. I usually hold the water in my ass for about a minute before trying to force it out. So I am pretty sure I do get a little back-leak for a colonic clean. What has happened in the past though, is I just end up having really watery poo in my colon that ends up on his dick once he starts “opening my colon”. Maybe I need to allow more time for back-leak to get a better colon cleaning?

    My diet is good though. Huge bowl of oats and fruit every morning and I usually try to eat an extra banana or 2 if I know I’m gonna bottom later in the day.

    He hasn’t complained about the shit, I’m just sure that he’s aware of it. That makes me embarrassed and it’s hard to relax.

    As for fucking a girl; I am experimenting with bottoming, but I already know I love the feeling of sticking my dick in something. I’m not particularily attracted to women the way I love men, but I thought it might feel nice anyways; especially if there are no shit surprises spoiling the mood. But great point ... having sex with women might be easier in some ways, but living with them is not. Bitches be cray! icon_razz.gif
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    Jan 13, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    Caught in the middle (guess as bisex can say):

    Men: everything is more erratic but sexy as u do not have a purpose (apparently cum in her vagina)

    Women: it is hard o find some horny and bitchy woman as men are.... It gets more mechanic ...

  • thegaymessiah

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    Jan 14, 2013 10:41 AM GMT
    Sex is linked to our brains so basically if you want something to feel really good then it probably will be.

    I've heard a lot of conflicting evidence. Pussy feels way better, no ass - 'I fucked a lot of chicks but the first time I fucked a dude's ass it was amazing- and I felt conflicted by it.' "I fucked a lot of guys then I fucked pussy and was surprised at how much I liked it, maybe I'm not really gay."

    Some guys are actually into scat, so shit on the dick would be a huge rush for them because how 'gross' they are being and what a nasty pig boy they are. For a lot of people if they aren't 100% clean though it would be a disgusting turn off.

    Gay sex isn't more complicated than straight sex, LIFE is complicated- and if you are turned on enough you could orgasm just by thinking about something - w/o touching your dick.

    Also idk why im answering this seriously as I have the sneaking suspicion this is a troll post written under the clever guise of genuine help lmao. Why the hell would knowing men's assholes have shit in them make you curious about straight sex. In straight sex, a woman has period blood that smells worse than dead raccoon flesh, and that's being nice to dead raccoons. It doesn't stop straight men from craving the pussy.
  • maax223

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    Jan 15, 2013 2:40 AM GMT
    Yes straight sex is easier. You dont need lube, or preparation. No concern whatsoever when you pull out.
    The only concern that you add is pregnancy... My ex was taking the pill and we were using condoms so no problems there.

    And yes a vagina does feel somewhat similar to an asshole.

    Guys are better though, as a general statement... still some exceptions of course.
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    Jan 15, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    jrmdavis saidIs gay sex more complicated than straight sex??
    No, just the relationship part.

    The sex is only a tiny fraction of being gay.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Some of us can't read. Just send pics of the issue and we'll go from there.
  • thegaymessiah

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    Jan 15, 2013 2:35 PM GMT
    I guess the only thing wrong about male-male intimacy is the very fact that two guys just do not KNOW how to be intimate with a guy, instead they probably go straight into sex too soon. Of course if you just ram a guy up the ass when he's not in the mood you're going to have problems. Of course if you don't do anything to relax them or build up emotional connection, they aren't going to like anal much. But men are highly immature- they see something hot on a porno and want to replicate that in real life right away.

    If you don't have true connection with somebody, a deep sensual connection - then it doesn't matter how clean your asshole is. Yeah the only thing wrong with it being two men is funnily enough - it's two men. They block their emotions out and tend to objectify each other.

    instead of self-consciousness try other-consciousness with the awareness that 'the other' includes yourself too. that should help u build deeper connections with people so you are not so hung up on gimmicks.

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    Jan 15, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    thegaymessiah saidSex is linked to our brains so basically if you want something to feel really good then it probably will be.

    I've heard a lot of conflicting evidence. Pussy feels way better, no ass - 'I fucked a lot of chicks but the first time I fucked a dude's ass it was amazing- and I felt conflicted by it.' "I fucked a lot of guys then I fucked pussy and was surprised at how much I liked it, maybe I'm not really gay."

    Some guys are actually into scat, so shit on the dick would be a huge rush for them because how 'gross' they are being and what a nasty pig boy they are. For a lot of people if they aren't 100% clean though it would be a disgusting turn off.

    Gay sex isn't more complicated than straight sex, LIFE is complicated- and if you are turned on enough you could orgasm just by thinking about something - w/o touching your dick.

    Also idk why im answering this seriously as I have the sneaking suspicion this is a troll post written under the clever guise of genuine help lmao. Why the hell would knowing men's assholes have shit in them make you curious about straight sex. In straight sex, a woman has period blood that smells worse than dead raccoon flesh, and that's being nice to dead raccoons. It doesn't stop straight men from craving the pussy.


    I was already curious about straight sex; I'm just slightly more curious to try it if it is "cleaner" (I'm not into scat) than the gay sex that I already enjoy. I wondered if the added wet sensation fucking a pussy more than compensates for the looser grip. I'm sure nothing can replace the psychological thrill of fucking a strong, hot man though.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:21 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    jrmdavis saidIs gay sex more complicated than straight sex??
    No, just the relationship part.

    The sex is only a tiny fraction of being gay.

    Agreed. Sex is the less important part to me. Would be nice if it could just be part of the relationship at any time though, without having to think and plan so much. Still, I guess physical intimacy can always happen, even if penetrative anal sex can't always be as spontaneous.