bi guy friend issues

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    Jan 11, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    So first off i have this "friend' who at one point i wanted to be more than friends with, he went to no ends to prove that we were and could only be Just friends. He had even told me to stop thinking of him like that. Now that I've stopped. he's Pissed off at every person he thinks i'm interested in. yet still he tell me who he's interested in and who he'd love to try getting into bed. mind you if i'm asked about interests I've realized that weather at the time it's true or not the best answer is no-one.

    Now there is a girl who's come into the picture and she's really nice really pretty, The kind of pretty that can go without makeup and still turn your head, the kind of girl with a very career oriented head. i'm not sure if she'd figured out i'm bi, or if she just likes my company.

    thing is I've noticed that when he's made other plans me hanging with her is no problem. when he hasn't and i do spend time with her.he's pissier that a wet cat in a dog kennel. now he's make it clear, but yes i do still like him. but i would like to get to know her and not just be his 3rd option. But i do consider him a Great friend.

    How do i handle this guys?!?

    Keep all Nasty remarks to yourself
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    Jan 11, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    feed back GREATLY appreciated
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:23 AM GMT
    my experience is that a BI guy will always leave you for a pussy....

    the more socially/family acceptable option will always win in the long run.

    stick to the truly gay boys
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    Swinger couples are more common than you think among the "straight" population.
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    sure for hookups, but not LTR's
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    jonnyboy saidmy experience is that a BI guy will always leave you for a pussy....

    the more socially/family acceptable option will always win in the long run.

    stick to the truly gay boys


    I think op IS the bi guy :3

    But yeah, it sounds like either he regrets having pushed you away but don't wanna step on his pride by telling you, or he's using you as a throw-away friend. Just have a honest talk with him imo.
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:18 AM GMT
    I think he might have a thing for you but isn't in love with you yet. Most true friends, straight or gay, want you to hook up and want to see you meet someone who can make you happy. I know all my friends have felt that way.

    So there is a conflict of interest somewhere. But SOME guys are attracted to the chase. I'm sort of wired that way. If you make yourself too available to him, it takes out some of the thrill of the hunt. Some guys take a while to recognize how valuable another guy is until he is gone. I've learned that the "hard" way...sigh....

    My suggestion, be a little less available to him and meet other guys/girls and make plenty of friends. There's no guarantee that you and your bud would work out beyond friendship and having options is great for the self esteem and for building interpersonal skills. If you're worth his time, you're worth other people's attention too....
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    Wait, I thought there was no such thing as a bi guy. What the hell?
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidWait, I thought there was no such thing as a bi guy. What the hell?


    Whomever told you that information, he lied to you.
  • stratavos

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    Jan 11, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidWait, I thought there was no such thing as a bi guy. What the hell?


    Hue hue hue hue, I c wat u did thar :p

  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:58 AM GMT
    Sounds like a controlling asshole. Let him know that you aren't to be used like that.
  • hebrewman

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    Jan 11, 2013 10:41 AM GMT
    jesus. why the hell would you even put up with this kind of bullshit? he's a tosser in every manner of the word. you do not need that kind of crap in your life. my bullshit filter gets clogged just thinking about shit like this.