How do YOU meet guys?

  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:41 AM GMT
    Sure everyone asks for advice on how they should meet potential guys for dating, but how do YOU meet guys? Which way works best for you and why?

    - Online and then meet up somewhere
    - At a bar
    - At a club
    - Introduction from a friend
    - Some kind of club like a running club, book club, AA
    - Online and never meet up
    - At a gay gym like the ones in LA
    - Bathhouse
    - Sex Theatre
    - I still don't know how to meet guys.

    I like to meet guys at a club/bar setting because they know exactly what I'm like upfront. I also get to see how they are like as well. If we don't like each other then that's cool because it's not like we came as a date and we can both go our separate ways.

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    Jan 11, 2013 8:02 AM GMT
    I've never not met someone online. Ever.
  • calibro

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    Jan 11, 2013 12:42 PM GMT
    i don't care because i'm not desperate to meet people
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:33 PM GMT
    thsese are the places i go

    Book Stores
    library
    I also check online for charities and community events
    online is good too
    nice bars


    idono maybe im a bit nerdy icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:37 PM GMT
    TheAlchemixt saidHow do YOU meet guys?
    By going up to them and starting a conversation.

    Works almost every time. icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 1:57 PM GMT
    i think its hard to meet guys, but maybe as I been out the dating game for 14 odd years. Online didn't exist then.......

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  • ThatSwimmerGu...

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    Jan 11, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    Online usually. I just met a guy a few days ago, he was cute, nice, and easy to relate to.
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    I think something is fundamentally different about meeting guys online. For one thing, if someone sends you a message you almost immediately know they're interested in you. And while this MIGHT be analogous to someone walking up to you at a bar and offering to buy you a drink, that's a pretty gutsy move, whereas messaging a guy online might be the easiest thing ever. There is something to be said for the "rituals" of courtship. Meeting online has precious few of those, mainly because we're guys and usually get straight down to business. That said, I don't really "meet" people at bars, and get on sites like this way too much. But the best relationships I've ever had were the ones that started out as friendships and then evolved. And I think that's pretty universal, straight or gay.

    I've really come to think a lot of guys (myself included) use these sites as a crutch. They made perfect sense, and were obligatory, back in the days when going out and "meeting" guys was impossible. But now that dude-on-dude action is closer than ever to mainstream acceptance, I think we need to be honest with ourselves and admit that online "dating" sites and Grindr are just a crude imitation of the real thing. That's why I like this site, and the guys on here, because it's not really a "dating" site. Oh well, that's my two cents. Hope it made sense.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Jan 11, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    Whole Foods.
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:29 PM GMT
    Assuming they're straight or closeted. icon_neutral.gif
  • Kel_

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    Jan 11, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    When I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

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    It works 100% of the time.
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    ^^^^ SLUT icon_mad.gificon_mad.gificon_mad.gif
  • rdberg1957

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    Jan 11, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    I did meet a guy playing Scrabble on Facebook. He instant messaged me after playing Scrabble. We dated for a couple of months. I really like him, but so far it hasn't worked as a relationship, but we still see each other for social events now and then.
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    only way I've met guys so far are from manhunt. Sadly thats the only option i have ; (
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:36 PM GMT
    I host large orgy parties at my house...hoping one person will ask me out on a date. =( It hasn't worked.

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    Jan 11, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    If you are out, there are quite a few gay events. Maybe only in big cities like here in Sydney and Melbourne: there are many gay sport clubs, gay gigs, gay community groups, gay radio, gay festivals (like this Sunday--Midsumma@Melbourne).

    If you are not out, then it will be more limited--I guess only online and no face...so nobody wants to chat to you.

    I see there is no trouble in terms of meeting others. To make a connection, even a causal conversation, is the problem--gay guys seem to NOT believe that other gay guys can be just normal human beings. Or at least that's the problem I experience because of being not hot. icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:53 PM GMT
    I don't. icon_eek.gif
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    Jan 12, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    Kel_ saidWhen I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

    tumblr_lly6eubhZP1qija35o1_500.gif

    It works 100% of the time.


    Is the hair flip required or an option? "Cause I'm gonna have to get some extentions if its a requisite.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 12, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Kel_ saidWhen I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

    tumblr_lly6eubhZP1qija35o1_500.gif

    It works 100% of the time.


    Is the hair flip required or an option? "Cause I'm gonna have to get some extentions if its a requisite.


    She's doing the bend and snap Mermaid style. I told you guys it works every time!
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    Jan 12, 2013 12:15 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Kel_ saidWhen I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

    tumblr_lly6eubhZP1qija35o1_500.gif

    It works 100% of the time.


    Is the hair flip required or an option? "Cause I'm gonna have to get some extentions if its a requisite.


    If I had Ariel's perky sea rack I could arch my back and get anything I wanted too.
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    Jan 12, 2013 12:17 AM GMT
    Narciso said
    UndercoverMan said
    Kel_ saidWhen I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

    tumblr_lly6eubhZP1qija35o1_500.gif

    It works 100% of the time.


    Is the hair flip required or an option? "Cause I'm gonna have to get some extentions if its a requisite.


    If I had Ariel's perky sea rack I could arch my back and get anything I wanted too.


    So this is basically the opposite of the Bend and Snap move. Shall we call it the Flip and Rack?
  • Kel_

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    Jan 12, 2013 12:46 AM GMT
    UndercoverMan said
    Kel_ saidWhen I see a guy in public that's looking at me in a flirting manner, I walk up to him, lean closer, and whisper these words;

    tumblr_lly6eubhZP1qija35o1_500.gif

    It works 100% of the time.


    Is the hair flip required or an option? "Cause I'm gonna have to get some extentions if its a requisite.


    It's mandatory for that extra flair and don't forget the chest pop.
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    Jan 12, 2013 12:59 AM GMT
    Usually online or via gay chat apps. Sometimes I'll know who's gay at my school, but honestly, since I transferred to my new school, I haven't really been interested in befriending many gay/bi men here. Not to say I wouldn't, because I am cordial with them, I'm just keeping my distance for now. Besides, it's easier to befriend a straight man than most gay men make it seem.
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    Jan 12, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    I normally get sleepy in a late night club/bar setting.
    Mostly I meet them online.
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    Jan 12, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    Most people for me have been through Grindr, Jack'd, and Real Jock. Anyone else has been through networking and friends of friends.