How Do You Know if you're IN LOVE?

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    Jan 11, 2013 9:12 AM GMT
    AND, How do you know if he's the Right one for you?
    Did you trust your intuition, your dreams? How can you tell if what you're feeling is Love, or an overblown sexual infatuation with somebody?

    Just asking.... icon_confused.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 9:14 AM GMT
    Yes i'm looking for answers, because it's what i'm going through right now.
    So anyway, how do you guys know?
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    Jan 11, 2013 11:59 AM GMT
    In love:
    - When you start asking the question "How do you know when you're in love"
    (Because if you weren't then you wouldn't be asking that)
    - When you think about that person, you feel this amazing feeling in your stomach (ticklish feeling)
    - When you wonder if the person is thinking about you the same way
    - When you can't find one damn negative thing about him icon_rolleyes.gif (luckily the mind can be naïeve at times or we'd all be singles icon_smile.gif)
    - When you feel warmth if that person is next to you
    - When you feel a different person everytime you're with him
    - When at home, gym or work you can't stop thinking about him
    ...

    Not everyone experiences the same symptoms but I believe those are the most common ones...

    The right person is what you make of it...
    If you have high standards than you'll have a more difficult time finding the right one compared to someone with low standards...

    I hope he feels the same way for you icon_smile.gif
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 11, 2013 12:12 PM GMT
    How do you feel when he kisses someone else? If your heart hurts and you cry then you could possibly be in love.
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    Jan 11, 2013 12:36 PM GMT
    Ammon saidIn love:
    - When you start asking the question "How do you know when you're in love"
    (Because if you weren't then you wouldn't be asking that)
    - When you think about that person, you feel this amazing feeling in your stomach (ticklish feeling)
    - When you wonder if the person is thinking about you the same way
    - When you can't find one damn negative thing about him icon_rolleyes.gif (luckily the mind can be naïeve at times or we'd all be singles icon_smile.gif)
    - When you feel warmth if that person is next to you
    - When you feel a different person everytime you're with him
    - When at home, gym or work you can't stop thinking about him
    ...

    Not everyone experiences the same symptoms but I believe those are the most common ones...

    The right person is what you make of it...
    If you have high standards than you'll have a more difficult time finding the right one compared to someone with low standards...

    I hope he feels the same way for you icon_smile.gif


    The points above means that I have been in love with everyone I met or chatted with...
    Kidding, just happend 4 times even when I did not meet them...
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    Jan 11, 2013 12:49 PM GMT
    POST EDIT: Good, no-one replied my negative post slop.

    The last times love crossed my mind, it was like an unbelievable moment that I could actually understand somebody more than anybody before, and I wanted to be understood. Someone finally spoke and suddenly light filled my world. I could all those faults but only saw passed them. Felt unworthy of someone so worthy of my bests. Every step they took was a milestone. Every word, a song. I didn't learn to write until it was to write something to bring up his spirits... love, for me, is leaving the door wide open. Waiting for a wayward soul.
  • ASHDOD

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    Jan 11, 2013 12:50 PM GMT
    ho man, when u r in lve...you just know it icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    Can you live without the other?
    if No, then you are in love!
  • FitGwynedd

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    Jan 11, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    When the pain of loneliness goes away
  • Destinharbor

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    Jan 11, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    When just the thought of spending time with him makes you happy. When it hurts to leave him. When you can't control the need to tell him you love him. When his sadness becomes your sadness, his happiness your happiness. A lot of this you can feel when in "puppy love" or infatuation but if you go with it, don't fight it, and it continues, It's love. When you feel some panic at the thought of losing him. When you're prepared to let him go because it's for his best interest...
  • Karnage

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    Jan 11, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    Ammon saidIn love:
    - When you start asking the question "How do you know when you're in love"
    (Because if you weren't then you wouldn't be asking that)
    - When you think about that person, you feel this amazing feeling in your stomach (ticklish feeling)
    - When you wonder if the person is thinking about you the same way
    - When you can't find one damn negative thing about him icon_rolleyes.gif (luckily the mind can be naïeve at times or we'd all be singles icon_smile.gif)
    - When you feel warmth if that person is next to you
    - When you feel a different person everytime you're with him
    - When at home, gym or work you can't stop thinking about him
    ...

    Not everyone experiences the same symptoms but I believe those are the most common ones...

    The right person is what you make of it...
    If you have high standards than you'll have a more difficult time finding the right one compared to someone with low standards...

    I hope he feels the same way for you icon_smile.gif


    I disagree with this entire list! Save for the first, these are all things you can feel after a couple dates when you know you really like someone.

    I have been in love twice - once was healthy, the other was not. The first time was with a very close friend, and the love I had developed over time. At some point I realized that I would do absolutely anything if it would make him happy, placing him before anyone else. You just have this overwhelming feeling in your chest, the desire to hold them, protect them, and be loved in return. We never dated, and I never told him how I felt. Eventually I realized that this love was not healthy, and I moved on.

    The second time I was in love was in a committed relationship. When I look into his eyes I feel that same feeling growing in my chest, but I know that he feels it as well. This kind of love makes me happy and I could stare into his eyes forever. We've been together a year now, which is not especially long in the grand scheme of things, but I do know it's love. Whether it's true love (the til-death-do-us-part forever-and-ever-amen kind) is another question entirely that takes much more time to figure out.
  • aj101

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    Jan 11, 2013 4:47 PM GMT
    There is one simple question you can ask yourself to see if you are in love. Can you live without that person being in your life? If you answered yes then you are not truly in love with that person, you are in love with the idea of that person. If you answered no then you truly love that person because now you can no imagine your life without them in it.
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    listen to your heart..when he's callin to you....icon_smile.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:25 PM GMT
    Just remember that love is never "unsure". And if you have to ask. Then you are not in love.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 11, 2013 6:36 PM GMT
    Trust me on this, you will know when it happens, there is no question about it. You don't have to ask.
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    @Karnage I did say "Not everyone experience the same symptoms" So it's understandable to say you disagree, you may say that the feeling you could keep looking in his eyes forever is love, someone else can say I could lay in his arms forever.. Hense the use of 3 dots at the bottom of that list, I didn't share facts I only shared my knowledge and what I hear around me about being 'in love'.

    Maybe the list doesn't apply with 'being in love' but instead 'falling in love'.
    For that I'm sorry with the misinterpretation. icon_redface.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    Jack off and if you still obsessively think about him right away then you're in love.
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    How do I know.

    He reached around the world and touched my heart.
    That's how

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    Jan 11, 2013 6:50 PM GMT
    You just do.

    It's weird to explain but when you actually do fall in love with someone you just know
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:26 PM GMT
    dan_x saidJack off and if you still obsessively think about him right away then you're in love.


    That about sums it up.
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:29 PM GMT
    For me it was something that showed up gradually but once it was there it was unmistakable and obvious.
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:35 PM GMT
    RadRTT saidYou just do.

    It's weird to explain but when you actually do fall in love with someone you just know

    This ^^^

    The heart wants what the heart wants, for better or worse.
  • Hothouse

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:49 PM GMT
    This is the kind of question that can never be properly answered.
    I think it's different for everyone, but I also think that when you are in love - you know it.
    For me, it was knowing I'd found the man that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. And, after being together for some time, knowing you would not want to go on living without him.
    Having enough in common to have things to share, and enough different to learn and compliment each other - keep each other in balance. It's important to realize that no one is perfect, and you love them in spite of the imperfections. He does the same for you. And, you love each other the way you are, not wanting to change anything.
  • Karnage

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:56 PM GMT
    Ammon said@Karnage I did say "Not everyone experience the same symptoms" So it's understandable to say you disagree, you may say that the feeling you could keep looking in his eyes forever is love, someone else can say I could lay in his arms forever.. Hense the use of 3 dots at the bottom of that list, I didn't share facts I only shared my knowledge and what I hear around me about being 'in love'.

    Maybe the list doesn't apply with 'being in love' but instead 'falling in love'.
    For that I'm sorry with the misinterpretation. icon_redface.gif


    Sorry Ammon, I didn't mean to say that what you listed are not felt in love. I think that you cannot be in love without feeling all of those things. I just think that all of those things can be felt with mere infatuation as well.
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    Jan 11, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    My criteria: if you are in bed spooning in the very wee hours of the morning and you feel complete, and there is nothing else in the world except that moment, no thoughts, no worries, no problems...that is love