Bottom Here... (in training)

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    Sep 23, 2008 6:39 PM GMT
    Well I have said before in a couple other posts that i am a virgin; that said I think i'm a bottom.

    I like thinking about a guy penetrating me and staying inside me.

    I like pleasing other and would probably be quite submissive to my guy in bed

    I like a guy taking control I think especially since I have no experinec.

    I'm 90% sure I'm a bottom. There is one problem... I'm super tight. So tight that I had to see a proctologist beacuse I was tearig my colon wall and bleeding.

    I had tests done where someone stuck a measuering tool in my ass- I squeezed on cue and relaxed. (It was an EMG for medical buffs) Well, apperently I'm twice as tight as the normal person. So now I get my ass zapped with eletricity every month. (An AED for ur ass)

    This means it kills when I try to finger myself and/or use a dildo. The first dildo I got was a training one- 8in long 6in around.... I was nuts. It kills now even.

    I guess what I'm asking is: How do I get to the point where I can enjoy getting fucked rather than concentrate on the pain How do I train myself so that my first time it isn't as painful? The last thing I need is to start bleeding internally when the guy is about to cum lol. I guess I feel like a sissy.

    Maybe I will need to top.... sigh
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    Sep 23, 2008 7:06 PM GMT
    Wow....
    Where to begin??

    Perhaps you should just go straight... icon_eek.gif

    Sounds like you just need to relax and brrreeeathe.
    Maybe some "gentle" top around here will help break you in.
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    Sep 23, 2008 7:16 PM GMT
    I think Munching Zombie and Timberoo give great anal sex advice. You were brave to try out a dildo that was so big. I would have started smallish (4-5 inches) to break the old sphincter muscle in.
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    Sep 23, 2008 7:32 PM GMT
    First, what ever toy zaps your ass to loosen it up sounds awesome.

    But, start with a much, much, much smaller insertable. You can't be expected to ram a horse cock like that into your butt the first time.

    Consider starting with a enema. The warmth and content can loosen you up in preparation for the aforementioned much, much, much smaller insertable.

    Also, what material is this thing? Look for something bendable and without a firm texture. Put on LOTS of lube. Stick some lube in your butt, put some lube on your hand, put some lube on the toy and slowly work your way in.
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    Sep 23, 2008 7:43 PM GMT
    MunchingZombie saidFirst, what ever toy zaps your ass to loosen it up sounds awesome.

    But, start with a much, much, much smaller insertable. You can't be expected to ram a horse cock like that into your butt the first time.

    Consider starting with a enema. The warmth and content can loosen you up in preparation for the aforementioned much, much, much smaller insertable.

    Also, what material is this thing? Look for something bendable and without a firm texture. Put on LOTS of lube. Stick some lube in your butt, put some lube on your hand, put some lube on the toy and slowly work your way in.



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    Sep 23, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
    Munching Zombie has some great advice, also learn to breath and relax your muscles around your ass. It really helps, i had a friend that was helping me with this we would start with a small dildo the eventually worked my way up to a larger than average one.icon_redface.gificon_redface.gif But i hope this helps and like everything else practice practice practice...
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    Sep 23, 2008 9:20 PM GMT
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    Sep 23, 2008 10:14 PM GMT
    I'd get started by just playing with yourself. You don't need start with trying to stick something deep in there. Take a condom and some lube, cover a finger and start running it around down there, teasing the hole. Eventually, you'll work up to two, maybe three fingers. Just enjoy it and get off a few times that way. See if you can feel your prostate harden up before you cum.