How does one go about losing their Virginity?

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    Jan 11, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
    I do have a profile on RJ but I feel embarrassed talking openly about sex hence a new profile. lol

    All I do is think about sex. I am 25 years old and haven't had any sexual encounter.

    I believe in sex after marriage, but obviously me being gay, I highly doubt I will get married to a guy anytime soon as I am a closet case. icon_rolleyes.gif
    I haven't dated either because guys that I am interested in don't show interest in me or make the initial move. If I contact my interest, which is rare as I am sort of picky, they might respond as a courtesy but that is it. I may not have the muscular body that everyone here prance about but I think I am a good looking guy, I suppose.

    I really do want to feel the sensation of having sex. I don't know how to go about it. I initially wanted to have sex with someone who I have feelings for but nothing has happened and I am frustrated by waiting for the price charming.

    Based on what I read on other websites, ppl always look down on hook ups and casual sex and I feel shameful thinking about hooking up. but when I read on these forums a lot of men have hooked up so I am confused if the other guy will think less of me if I hooked up.

    I am sexually frustrated and I know its not a end of the world type situation but ALL DAY and EVERY DAY all I think about is having sex.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 11, 2013 5:36 PM GMT
    If you're afraid to show your face, you could try glory holes.icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    Revengeful2013 saidI am confused if the other guy will think less of me if I hooked up.


    What would happen if everyone in the world, without exception, everyone, every single person on this planet--even the dead and unborn, hell, even the visiting aliens--what if everyone in the entire universe, in all the universes, what if all of them thought that you should only walk around by hopping on one foot at a time.

    What if that's what they're all doing? They all got two feet but they all only hop on one at a time and that's what they think you should do.

    Certainly there are times when you want to conform, like driving down a busy highway. You need to follow some rules now and then. But walking down the sidewalk on your own two feet? Try not to trip up others and just walk your way.

    Instead of focusing on seeing yourself through the eyes of others, just looking inside. Use your own eyes, not theirs. Stop judging yourself so much by the criteria of others or by what you think others might be. Instead, find and use your own sense of what is right and wrong for you. If you haven't yet developed that in some sort of healthy way by your 20s, seek professional counsel who can help you find ways to become comfortable with yourself in this world.

    Your issue, as far as I can tell from what I've read here, is not losing your virginity. It is about finding yourself.
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    Jan 11, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    Do what you want. If you want to have sex by hooking up, then do it. If you want to wait for a guy you connect with, then do that.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    25? Wow ... I lost my virginity ... uh wait ... what sort of virginity are we talking about here?
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    Craigslist.


    Kidding...

    Try channelling your frustration and use the pent passion in achieving your goals.
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:08 PM GMT
    Here are the reasons as to why you haven't had sex:

    1. You're too guarded - thinking about the negative aspects of hooking up will not get you any dick.
    2. You're too picky - you've limited yourself to an already limited culture.
    3. You're too passive - when there's a guy you're interested in, ask him out! Don't wait for him to come to you!

    Good luck in your pursuit to get laid!
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    I know this sounds storybook, but really wait for someone you care about. I'm glad my first time was with someone I genuinely had feelings for. It eased the nervousness and you really can't match the passion with some random person.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:16 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh saidI know this sounds storybook, but really wait for someone you care about. I'm glad my first time was with someone I genuinely had feelings for. It eased the nervousness and you really can't match the passion with some random person.


    It sounds like he dwells on sex constantly and is really unhappy. People can waste their lives fast, once the clock really starts ticking. A 25 yr old virgin might also find dating particularly tough. That's just a hunch, though.
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    Jan 11, 2013 7:21 PM GMT
    HottJoe said
    JumpMan_Josh saidI know this sounds storybook, but really wait for someone you care about. I'm glad my first time was with someone I genuinely had feelings for. It eased the nervousness and you really can't match the passion with some random person.


    It sounds like he dwells on sex constantly and is really unhappy. People can waste their lives fast, once the clock really starts ticking. A 25 yr old virgin might also find dating particularly tough. That's just a hunch, though.


    I agree. I think AntiJock put it well for him though. I would just hate for him to find a random hookup, get it over with, and think "wait, that was it?" I guess it is a bit silly, and everyone is different, but I couldn't help but throw my two cents in there.

    OP do what you think is best for you! Just don't do something you're uncomfortable with.
  • Hothouse

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    Jan 11, 2013 7:25 PM GMT
    When I was twenty I was horny and ready to have sex - and I wanted it bad.
    Finally found a guy who knew I was a virgin. He took his time, but I was all over him - it was a great experience.
    You'll know when you're ready - it would be great to be able to wait to find "the one" - but that may not happen for a while - if you're content to wait - then wait. But, there's no shame in experiencing the pleasure of sex before that happens.
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    Jan 12, 2013 12:54 AM GMT
    How long should I wait? I am quiet conservative so I always thought I would find a prince charming and share the intimacy of sex after a year of being with him and be with him for forever. I am having hard time finding that one guy. I have yet to be in a relationship. I will eventually end up being 30 and have no one on my side.

    I really liked this guy and I kind of pushed him away after my religion talk. lol (eventhough we are same religion) and now he is getting married end of this year to another guy and I feel heartbroken. He was attracted to me and I was attracted to him but I messed up.

    There are many good looking guys- but I don't want to go after good looking guys, I want that instant attraction. The attraction that you get when you just look at the person and you instantly know that you want him, he is the one you want to get know better. I don't know how to articulate it properly.
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    Jan 12, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    Revengeful2013 saidHow does one go about losing their Virginity?

    By having sex.