Older guys

  • Kellzor

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    Aug 28, 2007 5:22 AM GMT
    So Ive noticed that alot of guys around my age are attracted to guys who are either the same age or younger than them. However, I always find myself attracted to guys who are around the age range of 35+

    Is this at all odd?

    It just seems that I should be interested in guys my own age.

    Why am I freak!?
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    Aug 28, 2007 5:53 AM GMT
    I don't think it's odd. We're all attracted to different sorts of guys and age is only one factor in the process. Why does it bother you?
  • GQjock

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    Aug 28, 2007 6:05 AM GMT
    Why would you label yourself a freak?
    There are plenty of men who like older men
  • Kellzor

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    Aug 28, 2007 7:35 AM GMT
    I'm sorry about that last part, I meant to add on a laugh and then a jk.

    It might just be that there are so few gay guys around me, and even less that im attracted to.

    Im 18. Arent I supposed to be all hormones, and are they not supposed to of the raging category?
    Heh, oh my.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 28, 2007 1:45 PM GMT
    I guess I been dating freak all this while ever since I hit 26. Majority of the guys I been with is younger than me

    The hormone part, well not really true, some older guys are more hormone charge, testorone overflow than younger guys. Ask BiG Joey.
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    Aug 28, 2007 2:02 PM GMT

    I don't think it's so strange at all; I think a lot of guys are attracted to different types of things.

    I know many long term relationships where the partners are of considerably different ages. One of my best friends is in a 14 year relationship with a guy 20 years his senior.

    As long as they are happy it shouldn't be anyone else's business.

    You are attracted to who you are attracted to.

    Lighten up and enjoy life. As for being all raging hormones; I know many older guys who could probably give you a run for your money.

    If you are, if you aren't, whatever - lighten up on yourself and enjoy the journey.

    Rob
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    Aug 28, 2007 2:12 PM GMT
    it's a very common thing, you just might not see it all around you right now. my last boyfriend was 15 years younger and it was a great relationship... you can't really choose who you are attracted to -- just enjoy it!
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    Aug 28, 2007 2:20 PM GMT
    Kellzor I've had some wonderful times with men of different ages through the various episodes in my own time-line. However, my first gay experience happened when I was 18 and the guy was close to 40...it was awful - I felt like I was being ripped in two. Afterwards he basically ignored me. Beware of the older predators!

    On a brighter note I've also had amazing sex with a man nearly 70 (I was in my mid 40's at the time) and it was truly magical. Age had not diminished his sexual prowess one bit.

    I'm in my 50's now. Dating or having sex with any man, regardless of age is for me, simply an issue of mutual interest and compatability. Find someone you're interested in Kellzor and go for it. Good luck!
    Rick
  • code_joe

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    Aug 28, 2007 8:48 PM GMT
    I myself usually date men older then myself. My boyfriend that I have now and dearly love is 13 years older then me. It doesn't bother me at all and doesn't even bother my family. I know several couples that have been together for 5+ years that are more then 10 years or so apart in age.

    What can I say ... I like a man ;)
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    Aug 28, 2007 9:02 PM GMT
    Hmm I can definitely find an older man attractive theres nothing wierd about that
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    Aug 28, 2007 10:20 PM GMT
    hey guys...what can i say... at this point i'm not a boy anymore (36) but i cant help it...i still feel myself atracted by older men since i dont remember when... and i can sure u, i'm not weird or freak or any negative word because of it...i define my taste like "perfection post youth"...as somebody said "youth is a defect that goes away with the years..." =)
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    Aug 28, 2007 10:21 PM GMT
    Well, I for one kind of understand where Kellzor is coming from, from the opposite end of the spectrum.

    I have guys early to late twenties, come on to me or express and interest in me and I just have a hard time believing that. I mean it's flattering and all and I know in my head it shouldn't matter and what's important is feelings and having things in common and enjoying each others company but I still feel weird about dating someone that young and that I should be keeping to my own age range, around 40. It's a tough one to get past.

    In my twenties I had no interest in guys in their 40's, I wanted someone around my own age so I guess I still hold on to that. Kellzor, you don't think that if you dated someone 35 right now and a couple years down the road you met someone you clicked with that was around your age, you'd stick with the older guy or question that relationship?

    I guess May-December romances work for some straight couples, so why should gay relationships be any different! I guess one never knows unless they are open to the possibility.
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    Aug 28, 2007 10:22 PM GMT
    DONT GET ME WRONG PLEASE !!!
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    Aug 28, 2007 10:38 PM GMT
    Kellzor,
    You are not a freak — I believe that you just may have more refined tastes than most gay guys your own age!

    When I was between 19 and 22, ALL the men I was attracted to back then were in their 30's.
    The only exception during those first 'gay years' was a 29 year-old, and that lasted only two weeks: I found his tastes too juvenile at the time (especially when he'd turn-on this thing he called the "internet" and would excitedly show me the asinine things one could do and see with it. Hehe - What did I know back then!)

    At age 22 I met this curious Australian guy who would be the first man to formally request a Real date with me. He was 35 at the time and we spent 12 incredible years together.

    These days, now that I'm single and have opened myself to all kinds of (ex)changes, my spectrum of men has expanded vastly to have included guys in their early twenties to men in their early fifties. If past experiences are anything to go by, I'm pretty sure that it'll be a man somewhat older than me that will get me to renounce my bachelorhood once again.

    Until then, life is an ice-cream shop and we all scream for ice-cream!! :P
    Differences are to be embraced and savoured.

    Good Luck Sport!
  • Kellzor

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    Aug 28, 2007 11:14 PM GMT
    Wow...thanks for all the great responses. The original reason I posted this is that of all the people that I knew, I was the only one who found older guys attractive.

    I see now that I am in good company!

    Thanks!
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    Aug 28, 2007 11:21 PM GMT
    I don't think you need to worry. As you can see here, there are plenty of guys that find older guys attractive. Especially at 18 and in your early 20s I can totally see the attraction. I like to date guys a bit older than me as well, because frankly you're more likely to find guys who are more emotionally mature.

    That's not always true, of course, so you should keep an eye out for those your age that are mature as well. To me, that maturity and increased intelligence is what I find most attractive in a guy older than me.
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    Aug 29, 2007 12:24 AM GMT
    I am amazed when young guys hit me up. Even more amazed when they invite me over and then invite me back for more.
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    Aug 29, 2007 1:47 AM GMT
    I heard my name being bandied about again --- raging homones? Zakariahzol, what are you talking about?

    Live is NOT over at 35, or 45 or 55 - in fact, one of the busiest characters I know is a good bit older than I am. Suitors of all ages, and good looking ones. Damn good!

    I think we might be reaching the point where there is enough of a broadly diverse out gay community that almost any combination is possible.

    Joey

    PS: I spent an afternoon with a 43 year old hunk when I was 24...and he absolutely blew my mind - and a few other things - I remember it to this day very clearly.
  • fryblock

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    Aug 29, 2007 3:35 AM GMT
    i'm 20 and like my guys to be 22-32.
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    Aug 29, 2007 3:50 AM GMT
    When guys in their 20s hit me up, my response is usually to toss them the car keys and tell them to be home by midnight.

    I totally don't get it.
  • fryblock

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    Aug 29, 2007 7:47 AM GMT
    maybe it's because your profile says you are 24
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    Aug 29, 2007 9:22 AM GMT
    hi kellzor, i'm 43!
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    Aug 29, 2007 12:04 PM GMT
    "maybe it's because your profile says you are 24"

    Nah, it started when I was much older.
  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 29, 2007 12:44 PM GMT
    Yeah , when you use to be 88.

  • zakariahzol

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    Aug 29, 2007 12:48 PM GMT
    Big Joey,

    Please dont get me wrong. I certainly dont mean to say bad things about you. Its just I remember in on of these forum you said that you need more sex when you are older. That a good indication of a youthful ragging hormone isnt it.