Macaque saidSuck it up. It's just a ''no."
It doesn't mean anything about you as a person.
You might have to get through ten "no"s to get a "yes."
Or you can stay at home alone and build a robot that has to say "yes" to you.
Or sit at home and wait for someone to ask you out.
Good advice. I often use a fishing analogy for gay dating. A fisherman has to cast many times to get a nibble. And then only some nibbles lead to a bite and hooking a fish. Sometimes the fish gets away, and even when it doesn't you haul it in and discover it's not a keeper, after all that work. You gotta throw it back in and start the process all over again. Yep, that would be gay dating.
I also agree with you about not staying home. No guy's gonna come knocking on your front door because you're inside and lonely. You gotta spend more time outside that door.
Even when I was single and successfully using online social media to find dates from home, I was also outside going to gay clubs, AND attending gay community events, AND doing gay volunteer work, etc. Hell, I even attended gay churches. (Is that sentence blasphemous?)
Point is I was leaving no stones unturned, a broad-based strategy. I got dates because I worked hard for them. And I got plenty of rejection. But I didn't let it slow me down, and because I was casting so often, and so widely, hardly a week went bye that I didn't meet a guy. Weren't always what might rate as a date, maybe just a brief intro. But from there might later develop into a full date.