What is living in a big city like?

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    Jan 12, 2013 6:15 AM GMT
    I haven't gotten out much, okay? My boyfriend lived in Las Vegas so I visited him a couple of times, and it amazed me. People were actually walking down sidewalks, riding bicycles, and the whole place seemed alive 24/7. It just amazes me that people actually live in a place like that, and still does just thinking about it.

    Let me explain something from my perspective for a second: I've always lived in this tiny, southern, town and haven't gotten the opportunity to break out. Now, I'm 2 years away from my Bachelor's degree and I'm taking it completely online. I'm looking for opportunities to leave as soon as I get the chance! I'm looking at more gay-friendly areas like Ft. Lauderdale and places out West, but I'm just curious how it is actually living in a city.

    I'm mainly worried about not being able to drive in a city. So many cars and rules I don't understand (I had no idea those circle things that help direct the flow of traffic existed. I forgot what they're called). I honestly didn't experience driving on freeways with more than two lanes until a couple of months ago. Blew my mind. Things constantly seem so fast-paced and I'm not sure if I can keep up at first.

    So... for those of you who live/lived in a big city... WHERE do you live, what's it like, and do you enjoy it?
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    Don't move to Florida please. You're much better than that. icon_wink.gif
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 12, 2013 6:29 AM GMT
    She's just a small town girrrlll!!... haha

    City life is the only life for me. By the way, the "circle" things are called rotaries. There's so much to do in most cities. It's a great place to meet people and network. I thoroughly enjoy the atmosphere.

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    Jan 12, 2013 6:46 AM GMT
    I could never sleep in the city... too much noise and light all night.

    But it's like a man candy store.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:48 AM GMT
    Or just move to LA. According to outsiders, it's one giant suburb. icon_lol.gif
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:00 AM GMT
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:13 AM GMT
    First of all, I don't consider Vegas as a big city. I'm guessing that the place you are referring to in Vegas where it's alive is the Strip and that's NOT city living by any means.

    Driving in big cities is not a big deal. I've driven in NYC before and I loved it. You stay alert the entire time and get to use your horn in Time Square just for the hell of it! Seriously, big city driving is just a matter of learning the roads and they're easy once you get used to them.

    The best thing about living in a big city is that you'll be exposed to different cultures. Whether its Lauderdale, NYC, San Fran etc., you need to make sure you keep an open mind or you'll be miserable. Embrace the differences of your new city from your old town and you'll be fine! You'll be then be able to evaluate if big city living is right for you! Good luck!

  • Jan 12, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    I live in Houston (5.5 million) and grew up in Paris, France (10 million). I think what I enjoy most about cities is the choice of activities, restaurants, caf├ęs, museums, gyms, etc. Oftentimes the traffic can get stressful in a city like Houston where everyone drives, so you end up timing your activities in order to avoid it. I think I like the people watching at cafes the best. You'll find that you'll miss the peace and quiet and simplicity of your small town at times. I have a place in the country that is my sanctuary from city life. Be sure to buy some earplugs, the noise can get overwhelming at times. Keep us posted on your adventures! Best wishes,
    Bruce
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    Jan 12, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    like taking eleven inches like a champ
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    Jan 12, 2013 2:34 PM GMT
    What I love about living in a big city is the anonymity and the freedom.
    You feel really Free to do whatever you want without people judging you all the time. I like to feel like a little ant in the middle of a anthill.
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    Jan 12, 2013 2:41 PM GMT
    you're right - the thing about cities is that there is more complexity. this is a good thing, because it means more options, more diversity, more choices. but it also means more confusion, conflict, and decision-making.

    so instead of driving down the 2-lane road in your town, you drive down a 4 or 6 lane boulevard in the city, more traffic, more rules (can't turn left or park during rush hour, no stopping, etc), and more distraction (cyclists, pedestrians, signs/advertising, etc).

    the great thing about cities is its concentration of diversity within a small area. so within a 5mile radius, you'll have more culture, more shopping, more people, more food, more living space than you'll find in the same area back home in your town.

    its exciting, but it requires you to become very good at identifying what you need to know, and making quick decisions about what you want/don't need. its good to have aspirations and goals. go for it!
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    Jan 12, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    JumpMan_Josh said...People were actually walking down sidewalks...


    People don't walk on sidewalks where you are from?
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    Jan 12, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    I grew up in a small town, but have lived in Minneapolis for 20 years. There is definitely a period of adjustment, but you'll get used to it soon enough. Just don't be afraid to explore and ask questions.
  • thatirishbast...

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    Jan 12, 2013 2:57 PM GMT
    The definition of big city living is this:

    Human, rats, and cockroaches live together by the millions in a symbiotic relationship in which they all inadvertently end up eating each others shit.
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    Jan 12, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    I live in Madrid and really like this place. Always people on the street and nightlife is good. Good public transportation, more guys, there is always something to do etc.
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    Jan 12, 2013 3:09 PM GMT
    thatirishbastard saidThe definition of big city living is this:

    Human, rats, and cockroaches live together by the millions in a symbiotic relationship in which they all inadvertently end up eating each others shit.
    WHICH IS PURE HEAVEN! lol You will always have friends, and never be alone...Think of them as free pets!

    I went from a small town in CT to Boston and omg was that a culture shock! But it was awesome. Living in a major city is weird if you are not used to it. Yeah there is someone out 24/7 in the streets. I myself would bike at 1-2 am in the streets of Boston because there weren't that many cars around, but there were a number of other bikers and joggers. It was nice and fun!

    Also it was awesome that if you and your friends are goofing off and staying up late there is always a 24/7 dive pizza bar open icon_biggrin.gif.

    With the car situation, yes it can be a bitch to have a car in the city. I had one myself and basically it just sat in my parking spot. I only took it when I went grocery shopping or left the actual city. If you are living in a big city though chances are you really don't need a car, because there is always public transportation.

    P.S.- If you aren't a slob with food and garbage you will not see "animals" in your house! (I never once had a rat or a cockroaches in my 3 different apartments)

    I live in a suburb of Atlanta and omg it's horrible. I miss living in the heart of a big City (I lived in the Fenway Park area for 8 years)
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    Jan 12, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    i lived in big cities my whole life (i still don't know how to drive) and for me i can't imagine not living in a city.

    You have to be respectful to others especially if you live in an apartment building and also have to give up a bit of privacy and things are generally more expensive.

    But there are perks as well, like having a deli right around the corner or access to public transportation, so there is no need for driving. Also the culture is very diverse and meeting people of your kind is not that difficult. Big cities have many things to offer.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Jan 12, 2013 4:32 PM GMT
    Living in a big city can be very expensive. Most big cities can be very impersonal and other times they can be friendly. It depends on what city you choose to live in. The best major cities are the ones that are public transit friendly and more compact like Boston, New York, Philadelphia, and Chicago. Owning and driving a car in a big city can be a real pain in the ass unless you live in a car friendly city like Atlanta, San Jose, or Austin.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Atlanta is not car friendly
  • owen19832006

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    Jan 12, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    living in a city is very expensive especially if you move to the trendy areas or the city centre. obviously it will depend on the location of the city and its size, living in Glasgow is cheaper than Edinburgh, and living in Scotland is 10 times cheaper than London, but again London is very much alive 24/7, lots going on, culture etc, i much rather live in a medium sized city, that has enough culture and enough amenities to keep you interested but it's small enough that you can walk the centre.
    gay entertainment wise, big cities are the place to be.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    xrichx saidDon't move to Florida please. You're much better than that. icon_wink.gif


    Florida doesn't have big cities, only sprawling built up suburbs icon_wink.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 12, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    Ugh, although I like to connect with people from all walks of life, I really can't stand spending too much time in small towns. I feel like a total outsider in them!! Thank God for the internet. It kind of equalizes things, because people from small towns can, at the very least, crawl out from under a rock and watch big city youtube videos, lol.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    kingmo saidyou're right - the thing about cities is that there is more complexity. this is a good thing, because it means more options, more diversity, more choices. but it also means more confusion, conflict, and decision-making.

    so instead of driving down the 2-lane road in your town, you drive down a 4 or 6 lane boulevard in the city, more traffic, more rules (can't turn left or park during rush hour, no stopping, etc), and more distraction (cyclists, pedestrians, signs/advertising, etc).

    the great thing about cities is its concentration of diversity within a small area. so within a 5mile radius, you'll have more culture, more shopping, more people, more food, more living space than you'll find in the same area back home in your town.

    its exciting, but it requires you to become very good at identifying what you need to know, and making quick decisions about what you want/don't need. its good to have aspirations and goals. go for it!


    I don't have anything to add to this. As is often the case, Kingmo's comments encompass just about exactly what I would have said myself. We live near (but not IN) San Francisco. We love the pace & diversity of a large city, but like living around lawns & trees - just minutes outside the city. Best of both worlds!
  • ohioguy12

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    Jan 12, 2013 4:54 PM GMT
    I prefer mid-sized cities. I don't like how impersonal bigger cities can be. Also, the rats and the constant fighting for parking spots/waiting for public transportation gets old.
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    Jan 12, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    I live in the second largest city in the U.S, Los Angeles.

    I was born and raised here. The only other place I could see living is NY. The things I like about the city are,

    Culture
    Art
    Style, although New Yorkers have better style.
    Restaurants and lounge bars
    Diversity in cultures.
    Museums
    Beaches
    Warm weather pretty much year round.
    Palm Springs
    Santa Barbara or Nappa
    Shirtless men running in the summer icon_cool.gif
    Driving sucks though(traffic)

    I don't live in a loud area, live in the hollywood hills, so it's quiet, but when I did rent an apt, it could get loud.

    I have really great friends that are real. I hear people say all the time that all the people in L.A are fake and shallow, well that may be, but it's usually the one's that move here from another midwest state that suddenly forget who they are and turn into this hollywood hipster trying to be something there not. The people who have lived here long enough or were raised here have nothing to prove other than doing their job, having fun, and getting to know good people. Some of the transplants live here for about 3-5 years and move back with a bad taste in their mouth and hate L.A because they couldn't cut it here with work or friends because they got to sucked up in the smoke and mirrors that Hollywood can have.

    It's like dating, you have the right tools to have a successful date and know who you are and what you want... and are honest about it too, you and your potential bf