Is it really THAT hard for Asian guys to get a guy?

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    Jan 12, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    I feel like about half the posts on here are just Asian guys whining about how they think they're ugly cause they're single, and I can't really wrap my head around it :S i mean I know a good number of taken Asians, and I don't remember it being that difficult? Thoughts?
    Plus, just saying, but hating on your own race and constantly running after a couple of uninenterested white guys makes you look desperate. And consequently, a little pathetic. Maybe that's part of the reason too -3-
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    Jan 12, 2013 3:55 PM GMT
    No its not, but the more restrictions you have the harder time you are gonna have finding someone.

    I mean, if you are only gonna date white guys then yes, because you are eliminating a huge pool of dating potential.

    Its not rocket science, lol.
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    Jan 12, 2013 4:09 PM GMT
    Yundere saidI feel like about half the posts on here are just Asian guys whining about how they think they're ugly cause they're single, and I can't really wrap my head around it :S i mean I know a good number of taken Asians, and I don't remember it being that difficult? Thoughts
    Plus, just saying, but hating on your own race and constantly running after a couple of uninenterested white guys makes you look desperate. And consequently, a little pathetic. Maybe that's part of the reason too -3-


    Simmer dwn. Are u actually trying to wrap your head around it or just slamming your opinion on the table. This same feeling has been addressed by many various ppl of different racial backgrounds all with the same common denominator... Although an expressed feeling doesn't make anything true. However, still real to the person expressing it.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:05 PM GMT
    I laugh uncontrollably every time I see a post about gay asians not finding enough gay men to like them.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    For some I guess it's hard depending on their location.
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    Jan 12, 2013 6:43 PM GMT
    Heheh, this hasn't come up for a while until OP brought it up.

    I'm pretty sure it's forbidden fruit mentality - just like gays wanting straight guys, gays also want to get with the most desirable/unattainable race, which the media has made to be white for obvious reasons icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 12, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    Puh-leez! When I was single, I had my fair share of guys and being a total whore. I also had some of the most endearing relationships filled with great moments and drama. I agree with the OP about some Asians hating their own race. I've never dated an Asian guy because the ones I met were only interested in dating white guys.
  • Iakona

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    Jan 12, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    I dated a lot of different races.....hot is hot.....also never really had issues with dating.....but I think dating in general for most people is not always the easiest.....
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    Jan 12, 2013 11:09 PM GMT
    whytehot saidMy parents always tell me to date Caucasian or Asian only... the other races are too "blue collar" for them icon_evil.gif


    **Oh Snap !! icon_lol.gifyou didn't just say that !! haha

    To answer OP's question, no not really. Gay Asian guys are just like any other gay guys. If you're take care of yourself, have a good job, money, tall, fit....etc. Of course guys are going to flock to you and ask you for dates! Look is just a subjective thing. I dated different types of men before ! It depends on what you want. It's okay to be picky and choosy, that's what dating is. icon_cool.gif My problem is I like guys that look like Harry Shum Jr or Liam Hemsworth ! icon_wink.gif
  • dahanizzle

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    Jan 13, 2013 1:20 AM GMT
    I think.. if they spent that energy whining about their love lifes, or lack thereof, and instead used that energy to work on a better quality of life they'd just be happier people in general.

    Personally, I know I'm not the best looking person in the world but that doesn't stop me from putting myself out there and going on dates. (And yes, dating in general for anybody is just difficult in general, not just for gay asian guys)

    just my two cents..
  • EastBayGuy

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    Jan 13, 2013 1:38 AM GMT
    I've personally never had trouble attracting guys of any race, although I don't have a point of comparison as I've never been white, black, Latino, etc.

    I find that the Asians who are mostly likely to complain only want to date white guys, and are completely against dating within their race. To each their own.
  • Evan_mister

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    Jan 13, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    Its just a matter of preference... More guys are really drawn to guys of the same race. Beauty is never definite, some people would find Asians good looking, but some wouldnt find them attractive.

    In my experience, though Im Asian, never had difficulty finding one. I don't even look the stereotypical Asian maybe because of my spanish roots.
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    Jan 13, 2013 4:28 AM GMT
    It could be because the token asian guy look like this...

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    Jan 13, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    Yundere saidIs it really THAT hard for Asian guys to get a guy?
    Yes.
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    Jan 13, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
    hungrykittenz said340x.jpg
    He was my VERY FIRST guy crush.

    And to this day, I still think he's the hottest man who ever lived. icon_cool.gif
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    Jan 13, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    hungrykittenz said340x.jpg
    He was my VERY FIRST guy crush.

    And to this day, I still think he's the hottest man who ever lived. icon_cool.gif



    LEGEND!!! He was never my crush, but very much looked up too because of his martial arts status.


    But as Yun said, there's a ton of threads here about asians self-loathing themselves because they can't get a relationship or if anyone wants to be with them. It get's irritating after a while. But honestly, I think it's just the person in general and not particularly the race. Personally, I have not problems in getting a guy, it's just finding a good one that's the problem. As for me I mostly prefer asians in general. It's just my preference and what I grew up around, especially growing up in all those years doing TKD! icon_wink.gif
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    Jan 14, 2013 2:47 AM GMT
    Some asian guys are too picky...
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    Jan 14, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    C_Lo said
    paulflexes said
    hungrykittenz said340x.jpg
    He was my VERY FIRST guy crush.

    And to this day, I still think he's the hottest man who ever lived. icon_cool.gif



    LEGEND!!! He was never my crush, but very much looked up too because of his martial arts status.


    But as Yun said, there's a ton of threads here about asians self-loathing themselves because they can't get a relationship or if anyone wants to be with them. It get's irritating after a while. But honestly, I think it's just the person in general and not particularly the race. Personally, I have not problems in getting a guy, it's just finding a good one that's the problem. As for me I mostly prefer asians in general. It's just my preference and what I grew up around, especially growing up in all those years doing TKD! icon_wink.gif
    I used to do TKD. Does this mean we can date and spar? icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jan 14, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    Yundere saidI feel like about half the posts on here are just Asian guys whining about how they think they're ugly cause they're single, and I can't really wrap my head around it :S i mean I know a good number of taken Asians, and I don't remember it being that difficult? Thoughts?
    Plus, just saying, but hating on your own race and constantly running after a couple of uninenterested white guys makes you look desperate. And consequently, a little pathetic. Maybe that's part of the reason too -3-


    Well I think it's a multifaceted issue.

    On the one hand many Asian men are very obsessed with attaining the white man and we all know what kind of white man. Your average white man won't do. They tend to go for the jocky, frat type almost mainstream like white men who tend to only date their own kind. So not only are they zeroing on a small group (white men who will date asians) they are making that pool even smaller. These men are chasing an ideal which may or may not be a reality for them and they need to come to grips with the fact that there are plenty of other men of other races or hell even their own they could hook up with.

    Yet on the other hand most Asian men are discriminated against by men because of the common perception Asian men are docile and feminine and woman like. Many gay men intensely dislike the joining of homosexuality and feminine qualities so they either out of prejudice or a defense mechanism reject Asian men because the preconceived notion Asian men are feminine and woman like.
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    Jan 18, 2013 6:52 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
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    I used to do TKD. Does this mean we can date and spar? icon_biggrin.gif


    Paul, I don't think so.. I'd most likely end up knocking you out icon_biggrin.gif
  • mgmt88

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    Jan 18, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    yes.

    but only because most of them are twinks...and twinks always have it harder, to find someone ^.^

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    Jan 18, 2013 11:50 PM GMT
    This is my dream man/Asian boyfriend type !!! icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jan 19, 2013 8:21 AM GMT
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    Jan 19, 2013 5:32 PM GMT
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    Are they BFF or secret lovers?
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    Jan 19, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
    mgmt88 saidyes.

    but only because most of them are twinks...and twinks always have it harder, to find someone ^.^



    +1000 Yeah I'd have to agree with that. I dont have a problem dating someone form any race, but usually when asian guys hit on me their twinks. And twinks are not my thing. I know there are twinks in all races, but I just find that there are sooooo many asian's who are twinks.