Do you get that insecurity issues too?

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    Jan 13, 2013 5:32 AM GMT
    I'm warning you that the content of what you're about to read may occur ridiculous to some of you because of level of difficulty but I'm racked by it and have nobody to talk about.

    So... I always had quite big hang-ups about my body. But my height (6'1/ 185-6cm) was the biggest one. I'm a very bottom guy. And since I came out to my mum and started to go out to gay places I've noticed that taller guys don't really care about like I don't even exist. I think it's because of my height. It's the small, cute boys who usually draw their attention. And they sort of make me feel insecure and competitive when we are in the same club. I developed such a big inner anger, mostly based on jealousy, that I can't deal with it. I'm very shy and I never come up to guy because I'm afraid of refusal. I know that it would possibly destroy me... I always judge people by height. I know I shouldn't but I just cannot imagine of being with a guy shorter than me, even if he is the 7th wonder of the world. It is because of any possibility of being mistaken for a top just make me cringe. I don't even let guys to give me a blowjob. I'm sick of it. I was wondering if my behaviour is natural... Do you get something similar as well? How should I cope with it? What do you think about that? Am I not pretty / cute enough?

    BTW: Here's the interesting study supporting my post: http://www.nickyee.com/ponder/topbottom.html
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    Jan 13, 2013 6:08 AM GMT
    You will find yourself super attracted to guys that are shorter than you. You will find yourself super attracted to guys that you never thought you would be.

    There are guys who look specifically for guys like you. There are guys that will find you super attractive despite having thought they never would.

    Just because a person doesn't have the #1 most popular combination of traits, doesn't mean there isn't lots of success to be had in dating and fucking.

    Get yourself the body you feel most comfortable and sexy in, and keep an open mind to all of the ones who dig it.
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    Jan 13, 2013 6:17 AM GMT
    You are WAY too focused on the physical features of a guy. Yes, physical attraction is important but you've limited your dating pool to a certain demographic, which means your chances of being rejected are going to be high. As SkinnyBitch has said, there are guys out there who will find you adorable but it appears that you will be quick to dismiss them because they don't match your height requirement. And why? Because since you're taller you're considered the top? News for you....there are tons of guys who are less than 6 feet and total tops.

    Whether or not you choose to display an open mind is up to you! However, should you decide to keep your frame of thinking as you have described in your original post, then don't be surprised (or angry) when you don't get what you want.