Response to race topic responses

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    Jan 13, 2013 7:14 AM GMT
    So I've been referred to a few "race threads" after mentioning on another thread a friend who would trade his hotness for being white to get guys. Apparently this is old news here, so excuse me for being new, and also for being irritated with how disingenously those threads progressed. I noticed common responses:

    A) "Your fault for restricting yourself to white guys. Date other minorities!"
    B) "It's all about being confident. Enough of the self-hate!"
    C) A minority distances himself from the "complainers" and lectures them, bragging about how he's too hot to notice the racism
    D) attempts to derail thread with pictures
    E) An old guy chimes in "this white man will date minorities, wink wink"
    None of this disproves anything, if anything it affirms what I, and probably many others, am discovering

    I've hit on, or online-messaged at least 50 guys in the 18 months since I started "being gay". In a city that was 15% asian and 70% white, only half of my pursuits were white. Still I was called a potato queen by friends. While most guys from the other races were attracted to me at least physically, (3 of them became brief relationships), only 2 of the white guys had the initial attraction... too bad one was an apparently well-known rice queen and the other was messaging from Germany!

    It couldn't be a cultural thing b/c I'm a born and raised American... and no one needs to convince me I'm safely above-average looking, (even without my swagger lol), which makes this lack of interest from white guys glaringly obvious, especially compared to the number of white girls who are interested. I'm not really asking a question here since I already know the answers... this post is mostly a sigh of contempt for what the gay world turned out to be and for those who seem to want to keep it the way it is =(
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:22 AM GMT
    So if I understand your post correctly, whites aren't in2 azn?
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    coolbeans saidlol I'm so annoyed by the "self-hate" comments on those threads. It takes the general observation/truth that "whites have it easier", and twists it into being the observer's own fault.

    IMO, the only productive thing to say on those threads is "it gets better"... as in over time the gay community will "get better" and mature towards being as post-racial as the straight world.


    Are you replying to your own thread with a sock account? Well, you did say you already knew the answer.
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:53 AM GMT
    Narciso saidSo if I understand your post correctly, whites aren't in2 azn?


    very funny
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:58 AM GMT
    Oh goodie, another race thread! 2013 is going to be a great year! icon_rolleyes.gif

    In all seriousness, the common responses A) and B) you mentioned pretty much summarizes how every guy should interact with other guys (in my opinion), regardless of race. The part that I find intriguing about your post is that your experience is limited to online. Have you considered meeting guys at parties or social functions? I understand that the shy factor could be an issue but there are more ways to meet men other than online.

    As for your sigh of contempt, you really need to get that chip off your shoulder! If you keep on thinking that white guys' have a general lack of interest for Asian men, then you will miss out on meeting that one special guy who will make you happy. Case in point, the well known rice queen you described. Unless this guy is a complete whore for Asian guys, then how do you know he's not a keeper? Think about it!
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    Jan 13, 2013 8:11 AM GMT
    Erik101 saidOh goodie, another race thread! 2013 is going to be a great year! icon_rolleyes.gif

    In all seriousness, the common responses A) and B) you mentioned pretty much summarizes how every guy should interact with other guys (in my opinion), regardless of race. The part that I find intriguing about your post is that your experience is limited to online. Have you considered meeting guys at parties or social functions? I understand that the shy factor could be an issue but there are more ways to meet men other than online.

    As for your sigh of contempt, you really need to get that chip off your shoulder! If you keep on thinking that white guys' have a general lack of interest for Asian men, then you will miss out on meeting that one special guy who will make you happy. Case in point, the well known rice queen you described. Unless this guy is a complete whore for Asian guys, then how do you know he's not a keeper? Think about it!


    Maybe there's a reason why there are so many race threads?

    My point is that responses A & B assumes that anyone who notices racism is a self-hating white-lover, which is rarely the case.

    The "50 guys in 18 months" consist of all online and in-person interactions (whether pursuing or being pursued) consolidated. I'm actually extremely outgoing, to the point of arrogance... except that I can only come to this forum to vent, because I'm Exhibit C in real life lol.

    Lastly, rice queens are whores by definition
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:37 AM GMT
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:02 AM GMT
    hungrykittenz said
    Lastly, rice queens are whores by definition

    You apparently don't like being called a potato queen by your friends, but use the term rice queen freely and disparagingly. There does seem to be some inconsistency in your approach to this issue.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 13, 2013 7:52 PM GMT
    Erik101 said Have you considered meeting guys at parties or social functions?

    This.

    Most guys are looking for sex online. They don't have time, or more likely the case, don't want to get to know you on a personal level. And it is the personal interactions that build relationships and allow people to fall in love despite race and all other factors.
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    Jan 13, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
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    Jan 13, 2013 8:27 PM GMT
    To everyone posting silly gifs, if this thread bores you, why bump it? Unless it hits too close to home and makes you uncomfortable enough to try to derail it...

    whytehot saidIt's generally accepted that a rice or potato queen will sleep with almost any asian or white guy due to their low standards with a particular race, whereas it seems that the OP hasn't slept with a single white guy.

    Which I find hard to believe. Highly doubt that all this time there were only 2 white guys who were interested in you...

    Of course there were many others, but I was referring to guys I was attracted to. The stats would have been really skewed if I included the over-40 crowd lol.

    And yes BizMan, about 1/3 of my encounters were in social settings.
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    Jan 13, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    Bitch please, we've argued this argument to the core and we're bored of it.
    Guys who will only date guys of specific ethnicities are racist, end of story. What's there to tell?
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    Jan 13, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    hungrykittenz said

    And yes BizMan, about 1/3 of my encounters were in social settings.


    I'm one to believe that it's your personality that doesn't fit with theirs romantically, rather than your race. Beauty transcends all races, and if you are attractive, then what I've stated is the only possible explanation for why a guy would turn you down.

    Though I am not naive. Sometimes it is COMPLETELY about race. I think this occurs far less frequently though.
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    Jan 13, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    ^^Keep in mind I was emphasizing the initial attraction (not the number of relationships I've had, which depends on personality). I'm not exactly shy, so if any guy and I are mutually attracted, chances are we would have at least one date.

    McQueen saidBitch please, we've argued this argument to the core and we're bored of it.
    Guys who will only date guys of specific ethnicities are racist, end of story. What's there to tell?

    I'm not asking if they're racist or "have preferences"... I'm saying "yikes, they comprise the majority". One does not simply avoid "those few"
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:07 PM GMT
    I feel like being in San Jose might skew the statistics a little. It may not be primarily a racial issue but rather a supply/demand imbalance. Lots of asians means more competition.
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:11 PM GMT
    yes, but competition for what lol?
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:22 PM GMT
    Batbileg saidI feel like being in San Jose might skew the statistics a little. It may not be primarily a racial issue but rather a supply/demand imbalance. Lots of asians means more competition.


    I just moved here (my experiences were from Seattle - hence stats were in past tense)... but yeah, competition for what?!
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:30 PM GMT
    hungrykittenz said
    Batbileg saidI feel like being in San Jose might skew the statistics a little. It may not be primarily a racial issue but rather a supply/demand imbalance. Lots of asians means more competition.


    I just moved here (my experiences were from Seattle - hence stats were in past tense)... but yeah, competition for what?!


    Apparently all the white guys you don't think are interested in you.
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    that was a rhetorical question. Given your logic, since there more whites than any other race even in San Jose, they should have the most competition amongst themselves... that is if there isn't a racial hierachy.
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    Batbileg saidI feel like being in San Jose might skew the statistics a little. It may not be primarily a racial issue but rather a supply/demand imbalance. Lots of asians means more competition.


    That kind of slip-up only shows how ingrained this "racial hierachy" is icon_eek.gif

    I feel grateful being white sometimes lol
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:23 PM GMT
    Oh it never ends.....
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    It will be derailed with a diva fight by the end of the night.
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    Obvious troll

    Also you are not above average-looking

    2/10

    Cry moar
  • whytehot

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    Jan 14, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    With that standard, you're like a 3/10 at best...
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    Jan 14, 2013 12:31 AM GMT
    whytehot saidWith that standard, you're like a 3/10 at best...


    lol you are so bitter and jelly lmfao