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On not giving your location

muscleONmuscl...

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Jan 13, 2013 4:35 PM GMT

OK. This is a request to everyone who leaves their location blank. Put down a city, or at least a state for your location. How strange that people will post half-naked pictures but don't want to say what city or even state they live in. Don't worry, if you admit you live in Chicago, or even Topeka, no one can find your house from that information and your pic. Lighten up, guys, say where you live. You'll meet more guys online that you might actually, well, meet!

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AMoonHawk

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Jan 13, 2013 4:51 PM GMT

I think they do it because they want to lessen the chance of people in their area seeing their pics, such a co-workers, or wife/partner, or family. Why does it matter, they could always just lie about where they live. People don't have to give more information about themselves than they are comfortable with.

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Jan 13, 2013 5:14 PM GMT

Giving your location isn't going to let people who live near you find you on a search, unless you've given your full name on the site, in which case, they don't need your location to find you. And if people know you, then they are going to be able to identify you by your pics anyway, if they do see your profile. It just doesn't make any sense not to give your location. A city is way too large to give away your anonymity, and if you've posted a face pic, well, then there goes your anonymity right there. Why it matters? Because, as I said, your chances of actually meeting up with people are greatly increased if they live somewhat near you. I live in LA and I'm not rich, so my chances of dating a guy in NY are, in fact, quite slim. And we all have only so much time for introductory chats, so I'd like to increase the odds. Of course, if a person is only here to look at pics or live only in cyberspace, then it doesn't matter.

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Jan 13, 2013 5:16 PM GMT

Well if it is Topeka.. they might. I went to law school there and I never liked Topeka...LOL

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muscleONmuscl...

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Jan 13, 2013 5:32 PM GMT

Yeah, true. You might have been the one gay guy in Topeka.

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Jan 13, 2013 6:42 PM GMT

Last time I checked, the only options for "location" were check-boxes for a few major cities and their suburbs.

For example, I live in Oregon. All of the check-boxes are for Portland and its suburbs, plus one or two other places, which are way over in one corner of the state.

In this system, most of the world is "dark territory." I wouldn't post my exact address on-line, but I at least refer to the geographic region in my profile. It just doesn't show up in the pop-up summary.

BTW, not RJ, but some sites include your birthday and town or zip code as mandatory profile fields. In most of the towns around there, that is enough to specifically identify you. The grange puts out calendars with everybody's birthdays and anniversaries printed for each date.

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Jan 13, 2013 6:53 PM GMT

I think it's more important that they're verified. *hint-hint

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Jan 13, 2013 8:07 PM GMT

Shawnathan saidWhat the hell is Topeka?
Togepi's long lost cousin?

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Jan 13, 2013 8:08 PM GMT

HottJoe saidI think it's more important that they're verified. *hint-hint

I agree. I've been cat-fished long ago. What a guy puts on his profile, whether pics or info, is all subject for speculation until you really know him.

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Jan 13, 2013 8:09 PM GMT

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Shawnathan saidWhat the hell is Topeka?
Togepi's long lost cousin?

LOL and YAY @ the pokemon reference!

Anyway for me, there are hardly any aussies I've come across over the forums so I don't bother.

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Jan 13, 2013 8:10 PM GMT

There is a place to request a specific location not included. I used that to get our farm location in there. It works.

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Jan 13, 2013 8:13 PM GMT

What if they're not interested in meeting people?

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Jan 13, 2013 8:22 PM GMT

This means one of two things. Either they don't care. Or they are paranoid. Case closed.

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Jan 13, 2013 8:27 PM GMT

ok who threw up the V

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Jan 13, 2013 8:34 PM GMT

I know people who don't put their location because they do all the searching online, and prefer not to be seen by guys they're not attracted to (in case those guys know him), and the gay community in any city is really small... pretty much everyone is within 2 degrees of penetration - i mean separation - away from each other

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Jan 13, 2013 8:48 PM GMT

mindgarden saidLast time I checked, the only options for "location" were check-boxes for a few major cities and their suburbs.

For example, I live in Oregon. All of the check-boxes are for Portland and its suburbs, plus one or two other places, which are way over in one corner of the state.

In this system, most of the world is "dark territory." I wouldn't post my exact address on-line, but I at least refer to the geographic region in my profile. It just doesn't show up in the pop-up summary.

BTW, not RJ, but some sites include your birthday and town or zip code as mandatory profile fields. In most of the towns around there, that is enough to specifically identify you. The grange puts out calendars with everybody's birthdays and anniversaries printed for each date.

Rural WA and OR seem tolerant (semi?) of having 'mos as part of their community but you don't need to go inviting trouble from some bigots and phobes to come visit you in the dark of night meaning to do you harm either. I can see not identifying the town you live in. A Sheriffs deputy around here might be all the way to the other side of the county and not able to respond if someone does come by to F w/ya. Been here 12 years and hasn't happened yet.

That birthday thingie isn't such a good idea to be accurate with. I use Pearl Harbor Day of my birth year anytime a site asks for it. W/in a month-ish of my real birth date. Your Bday is a crucial piece of info (along w/SS #) that's used for identity theft. I go so far as to tear off and shred anything that has my home address and name on it. Once someone was trying to get credit in my name w/my work address and thankfully they denied the request and contacted me. Some other douche got a hold of my debit card # this summer and went on a shopping spree in Aberdeen, WA, of all places. Had to get a new card, etc..which was a hassle.

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Jan 13, 2013 9:38 PM GMT

It don't matter. Even when I did provide my location, it's not like guys were messaging me to meet-up and socialize. It was usually random blank profiles that were using the search feature for finding hook-ups..

"I'm going to be in your area next week for business. I'd love to fuck you."

I've met more guys in person through the forums and I think that's the best way to meet people on this site. Well, unless you're smoking hot.. Then you shouldn't have problems meeting guys at all.

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Jan 13, 2013 9:41 PM GMT

ca-reep-eee!

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Jan 13, 2013 10:35 PM GMT

Um, I'm sorry OP, what did you say? I got distracted looking at your adult pics!

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Jan 13, 2013 11:56 PM GMT

Shawnathan saidWhat the hell is Topeka?
Pudding.

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Jan 14, 2013 12:09 AM GMT

Shawnathan said
HottJoe saidI think it's more important that they're verified. *hint-hint

This is the best type of verification!

Damn, Trollileo is tall!

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Jan 14, 2013 12:12 AM GMT

this is one of the reasons why i don't have adult pics anywhere, so that I can fill out those location boxes without any fear of consequences. Also means that someday if i become a worldwide sensation for any reason whatsoever there's no dirt to dig up!

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Jan 14, 2013 12:25 AM GMT

AMoonHawk saidI think they do it because they want to lessen the chance of people in their area seeing their pics, such a co-workers, or wife/partner, or family.

I figure anyone already deep enough into the search features of RJ doesn't have a damn thing to judge me on for being on this site

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Jan 14, 2013 12:26 AM GMT

I think I may taking location and changing where I put it to the about me section. RJ isn't meant to be a local thing for me, I have the others for that. I would rather someone come across my profile by something I posted than by where I live. Once they are on my profile and bother to read my about me then they will learn that information. I'm not paranoid or hiding anything it just doesn't serve my purpose on RJ. But I am just thinking about it.

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Jan 14, 2013 12:26 AM GMT

I'm more curious about guys who don't give their race. Probably because I love ethnic men

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