Gay jokes

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    Jan 13, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    How do you guys feel about gay jokes ?

    The reason I'd like to discuss this is that I'm sick of this free pass that people think they have at making gay jokes. Sometimes , they can be funny and harmless but most of the time, they're obnoxious and offensive. It's really frustrating also, to not be able to say that it's over the line, or if you do , to risk being the party popper with no sense of humor.

    Here's what I think. Gay jokes are only funny when it's not the BEING GAY that is ridiculed.
    BUT If the joke based on the assumption that being gay is any way less deserving of respect than being straight, then I find them ... offensive and I think what they do is reflect the underlying homophobia that's at the back of people's minds.

    It's really not about being politically correct or seeing homophobia everywhere. It's about not being in denial as to how people perceive you and whether they do respect you or not.

    Here's an example : If you have a Facebook account, and you're my age you probably have a lot of FB friends whose accounts are hacked and whose friends put on statuses meant to be funny. 90% of the times , the statuses that they put are " I am gay" , " I like men ", " I love cock" .

    Get the idea?

  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 13, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
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  • Blulava

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    Jan 13, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    Doesn't bother me. It's a more worthwhile pursuit to learn to let things like this roll off your back than to try and get people to stop when it's just words, whether you're gay, straight, black, white or whatever. Asking people to sensor what they say in jest is not going to really do much to change their actual opinion.
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 13, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    Gay jokes aren't offensive to me because most of the time what they imply is true. "Haha you're gay, you like dick"..... umm yep!icon_neutral.gif

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    Jan 13, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    TheBizMan saidGay jokes aren't offensive to me because most of the time what they imply is true. "Haha you're gay, you like dick"..... umm yep!icon_neutral.gif



    Exactly , but the fact that just that makes people laugh means that they associate being gay with something that can be ridiculed, not with something a normal, psychologically sane adult individual can be.
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:20 PM GMT
    I really don't like that whole gay = bad thing, like in the Katy Perry song. If a joke is funny then I am ok with it.
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:22 PM GMT
    I love gay jokes! Anyone got any good ones?
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    Jan 13, 2013 9:45 PM GMT
    ConfederateGhost saidI love gay jokes! Anyone got any good ones?


    Missing the point... I'm not talking about the jokes gay people make with their friends I'm talking about humor that's based on ridiculing homosexuality.
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:18 PM GMT
    I don't find gay jokes any more offensive than jokes making fun of Asians, and I've heard a lot! Everyone, regardless of who you are and what group you belong to, has been made the center of jokes at one point or another. Just take it for what it is, have a good laugh and then move on.

    As a warning, don't ever watch Lisa Lampanelli! She's highly offensive and doesn't give a crap on what people think of her jokes....which are the reasons why I like her!
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidI don't find gay jokes any more offensive than jokes making fun of Asians, and I've heard a lot! Everyone, regardless of who you are and what group you belong to, has been made the center of jokes at one point or another. Just take it for what it is, have a good laugh and then move on.

    As a warning, don't ever watch Lisa Lampanelli! She's highly offensive and doesn't give a crap on what people think of her jokes....which are the reasons why I like her!

    Lisa happens to be a big supporter of gay rights - in the name of the WBC of course. icon_wink.gif But I believe a quote from her said that she can get away with making these sort of jokes because she is able to make them humorous with a humorous intent and a lot of people who make off color jokes don't seem to get it and say it with a sort of...negative or angry undertone?
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Jan 13, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    I don't get offended at all. They are jokes after all.
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
    You guys, I don't think you understand what I'm talking about. It's very hard to put in words icon_neutral.gif haha but I'm really not referring to the kinds of jokes where you can just sit back and have a good laugh with your friends.

    I'm talking about the jokes that are made at the expense of gay people. Generally , they're not directed at you , people just say them to make the crowd laugh cause they assume that everyone's straight and you're the only who feels embarrassed.

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    Jan 13, 2013 10:42 PM GMT
    Four men went golfing together one day; three headed to the first tee and one went into the club house to take care of the bill.

    The three men started talking, bragging about their sons.

    The first man told the others, "My son is a home builder and he''s so successful that he gave a friend a new home - for free."

    The second man said, "My son was a car salesman and now he owns a multi-line dealership. He''s so successful that he gave a friend two Cadillacs."

    The third man, not wanting to be outdone bragged, "My son is a stock broker and he''s doing so well that he gave his friend an entire stock portfolio."

    The fourth man joined them on the tee after a few minutes of taking care of business. The first man mentioned, "We were just talking about our sons. How is yours doing?"

    The fourth man replied, "Well, my son is gay. I''m not totally thrilled about it, but he must be good. His last three boyfriends gave him a house, two cars, and a stock portfolio."
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    Jan 13, 2013 10:54 PM GMT
    Hijacked thread... icon_mad.gif ^^
  • Blulava

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    Jan 13, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidYou guys, I don't think you understand what I'm talking about. It's very hard to put in words icon_neutral.gif haha but I'm really not referring to the kinds of jokes where you can just sit back and have a good laugh with your friends.

    I'm talking about the jokes that are made at the expense of gay people. Generally , they're not directed at you , people just say them to make the crowd laugh cause they assume that everyone's straight and you're the only who feels embarrassed.



    I get what you mean, humor that automatically assumes homosexuality is a negative. But that shit's just not really a big deal, I learned to laugh at black jokes that did the same thing, so it didn't take long before gay jokes like that stopped being a big deal too. Shit's just not that serious, there are subtle negatives attached to any identity, just let it be what it is. In reality, people are cooler with us than they've ever been maaaaaannn
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    Saad22 saidHow do you guys feel about gay jokes ?
    They're so gay.
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:30 PM GMT
    Some of those were funny YourName lol
  • TheBizMan

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    Jan 13, 2013 11:33 PM GMT
    Saad22 said
    TheBizMan saidGay jokes aren't offensive to me because most of the time what they imply is true. "Haha you're gay, you like dick"..... umm yep!icon_neutral.gif



    Exactly , but the fact that just that makes people laugh means that they associate being gay with something that can be ridiculed, not with something a normal, psychologically sane adult individual can be.

    Straight guys don't want to be associated with sucking dick, so of course they would be offended if they were called gay or a fag. And also, being gay is not a concept you can truly understand unless you are .So I could see how it sounds funny or weird to make gay jokes in the straight world.

    If they are trying to ridicule you, then don't let them? Their remarks can only cause you pain if you let them.
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    This thread reminds me of a huge book that I bought when I was a kid, from one of those mail-order discount lists. (Back in the pre-internet era.) Rationale of the Dirty Joke. It was about a thousand pages of scholarly analysis and psychobabble. But of course, I only bought it for the jokes. icon_lol.gif

    Hmm... I wonder if it's still around somewhere?
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    Jan 13, 2013 11:42 PM GMT
    Two top quarks walk into a bar and meet another quark who starts talking to them. After a few drinks and conversation, one of the top quarks asks the other quark what's his flavor...

    "Well, I may not look like it but I'm actually a bottom quark".

    "Oh, awesome, that gives me a hadron!"
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    Jan 14, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    Saad22 saidYou guys, I don't think you understand what I'm talking about.
    I know what you're talking about.
    Being gay is the joke to some people.

    What you are, being considered a joke by the people at the table around the corner. It's not about hurt feelings, it's about being sick of it.
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    Jan 14, 2013 2:52 AM GMT
    I get what you are saying. I'm not a fan of hearing all these straight people when they hear something they don't like or they think is bad saying, "That's so gay!" Referencing it to be something negative. It was kind of the same thing with 2 boys that were involved in a fight at school. The principals punishment was to make the 2 boys sit in the gym in chairs holding hands while the rest of the school ridiculed them for their "gay" behavior.
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    Jan 14, 2013 4:34 AM GMT
    Q: What do gay men call hemorrhoids?
    A: Speed bumps.

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    Jan 14, 2013 5:41 AM GMT
    My mom used to say, "It's all fun and games till someone looses an eye"

    Why do I bring this up?

    Because of the simple fact that jokes are only words. They can't harm you unless you let them. Are they horrible sometimes? Of course. Do I wish we could stop jokes that poke fun at people? Yes.

    But these jokes show a persons true nature. Take it for what it is, closet haters hating.
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    Jan 14, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    WaytoDawn saidMy mom used to say, "It's all fun and games till someone looses an eye"

    Why do I bring this up?

    Because of the simple fact that jokes are only words. They can't harm you unless you let them. Are they horrible sometimes? Of course. Do I wish we could stop jokes that poke fun at people? Yes.
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    Your mom is saying "it seems harmless, but it actually isn't because someone will soon get hurt, so stop it". You're saying "People will only get hurt if they let them, so let it continue".