low self-worth. turning to alcohol and sex. won't have insurance until july. needs therapy advice. what's wrong with me


  • Jan 14, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 14, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    the world it too big for you, so you hide
    all you have to deal with right now ... is right now .. don't worry about the rest .. deal with it when it gets here icon_smile.gif

  • Jan 14, 2013 7:37 AM GMT
    daym people i thought u guys were supposed to be more intelligent thanx for nothing
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    Jan 14, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
    If you need therapy go to a fucking therapist, dumbass.
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    Jan 16, 2013 6:10 AM GMT
    You're probably a troll... but luckily for you I am procrastinating regardless so if you're not a troll this might be helpful... if not for you than for someone else.

    You asked for help, so don't be an asshole when you get feedback.

    First... go to a therapist. If you're in high school or college, this is relatively easy. Therapist can be free or very cheap with school insurance, and most schools have a counseling center. See aboutpsychotherapy.com for good advice on finding a compatible therapist. The hardest part is going. It's very scary to open up. It's the best thing I ever did for myself when I was 20.

    I read some of your other posts. Seems like you struggle with "too much sex." If it's overwhelming, stop the sex and start listing goals you want to achieve: gym, books to read, classes to take, trips to go on, friends to make, places to see, jobs to find, recipes to cook, etc. Delete Grindr and all stimuli from your environment that generate sexual impulse. Sex isn't gone forever. It's gone until you feel you can handle it.

    Accept that this takes time. Self growth is a lifelong process. You will change as your years go by... your actions and habits will influence exactly HOW you change.. so choose wisely.

    Oh and stop being an asshole. People are your greatest resource and you are theirs.
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    Jan 16, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    xspirit4musicx saiddaym people i thought u guys were supposed to be more intelligent thanx for nothing


    I'm not sure how anyone can give you what you want without you telling in detail what's upsetting you.

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    Jan 16, 2013 4:27 PM GMT
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    xspirit4musicx saiddaym people i thought u guys were supposed to be more intelligent thanx for nothing

    I'm not sure how anyone can give you what you want without you telling in detail what's upsetting you.

    Yes. And BTW, xspirit, the guys here ARE intelligent, the most I've ever encountered on a gay social site. Just disregard those few who are more interested in drawing attention to their sick humor for their own amusement, than in helping others. And these 2 guys who just replied to you are among the best in this business of advising on personal matters.

    So what's with this low self-worth? Please expand. Are you suffering from the NYC big city syndrome? Pretty common there, pretty easy to be overwhelmed. I know the place well.
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    Jan 16, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    It helps us if you can tell us what is on your mind.

    What do you think is wrong with you? We all have self-identification issues and we get stronger when we face them and overcome them.

    Why do you think you are self-medicating with alcohol (or other drugs)?

    Why are you seeking the attention of others through sexual encounters?

    Message one of us directly if that makes you more comfortable. I've been through some dark times - I'll do what I can to help others get through theirs.