I'm assuming when you say the "old gay culture," you are referring to the flashier gay communities.If you aren't, please don't be offended by below
During the racial civil rights movement there were two different camps, non-violent protest and "active" protest (think MLK versus Malcolm X). Two different ideologies and methods. While MLK wanted racial integration, Malcolm X advocated further racial segregation to the point of violent succession. But they all wanted the same thing, the raise the status of African Americans in North America.
Some gay individuals are not the type of be found at Gay Pride. They will be found in sports bars. There are some gay men who abhor the "queens" of the gay community, as they feel they alienate the general population of what it really means to be a homosexual, similar to how many black people abhorred those that followed Malcolm X's teachings, as they felt followers alienated non-whites from what black people really are.
This is just a basic analogy, I'm in no way insinuating that there are militant gays who seek succession in America
I'm neutral on the subject, I don't really care so much about macho versus feminine men. But notice the amount of men who say things like "No fems," "I'm into real men." There is clearly some sort of bias.
A softer and nicer way of saying this would be, some people seek a more moderate view of homosexual acceptance, not so much the radical and extravagant ones.
If anyone took offense to any of the above, sorry, English is not my first language >_>