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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:00 PM GMT
    I like RJ because it exposes me to all different types of guys who live all across this country.........and the world.

    Being a happy city rat doesn't mean I avoid the countryside, nature, bugs and horseshit. I was wondering..........

    How many of you guys live in a very rural setting......like a farm or something similar? Do you like it? Is it a family thing? Who has forsaken city life in order to live closer to nature and have a "simpler" life?

    Are farmboys sexy and studly?
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:10 PM GMT
    How about jungles? LOL
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:28 PM GMT
    From 1998 to 2002 I lived in a farming town of 2000. For 2 of those years I dated and later moved-in with a local gay guy who was raised on a farm. His parents' working farm was a mile away, where we often ate dinner.

    My camper trailer and snowmobile were stored in one of their barns, while my motorcycle stayed in his own garage, at his house where we lived. He did no farming himself, having made sufficient money when he went away to NYC to be independently wealthy at 39 when he returned home.

    Farm boys can be great, if they're all rock-hard muscle like mine was, and ruggedly handsome with some of the cowboy look, oversexed and very good in bed. He always wore Western wear, often including a cowboy hat or baseball cap, and mostly Western boots. He drove a pickup he never locked in that little town, in fact often even leaving the key in the ignition.

    When old friends would come to visit him from NYC they would all comment on the silence. Few car sounds, few sounds of any kind, within the town's small cluster of houses that were surrounded by many miles of open farmland on all sides.

    I think the isolation was the most difficult thing for me to accept. We did have local friends, including a little gay circle, but there wasn't much to do there. You had to drive 65 miles to find a single gay club, but even ordinary shopping, movies, and restaurants were that far away, too, as was the VA hospital where I got my care.

    I originally moved there for complex reasons I won't describe here, and stayed the last 2 years only because of having met him. When we broke up I moved to that larger town 65 miles away, where I remained until last year. That small a town doesn't work for me, and even with a BF it wasn't easy.

    I would suggest some kind of trial period if you're considering it for yourself, if you can arrange it.


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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:31 PM GMT
    Thank you..........that was a very thoughtful and well written response.
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:32 PM GMT
    Sedative saidHow about jungles? LOL


    Jungles could work too............
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 6:44 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidI like RJ because it exposes me to all different types of guys who live all across this country.........and the world.

    Being a happy city rat doesn't mean I avoid the countryside, nature, bugs and horseshit. I was wondering..........

    How many of you guys live in a very rural setting......like a farm or something similar? Do you like it? Is it a family thing? Who has forsaken city life in order to live closer to nature and have a "simpler" life?

    Are farmboys sexy and studly?



    For circumstances beyond my control, I am currently (and temporarily) living in what I personally consider to be a rural area. Where I am it's supposed to be the 3rd largest city in the state but I would not call it a city.

    I personally don't enjoy it, I am more of a city person..too family friendly and I don't care for kids. I have not seen any sexy or studly farm boys..actually I've seen lots of out of shape guys with bad teeth. Luckily there are some cute military boys in the complex where I live and at least I have some eye candy from time to time..but it is rare...can't wait to move back to the city!
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 7:10 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    Sedative saidHow about jungles? LOL


    Jungles could work too............


    Well... I like it here. Having no choice and all for the moment. And almost all the cities I've been to I hated. The cities I usually liked were the quieter colder climate ones.

    I'm slightly agoraphobic so the sheer amount of people, the traffic, the heat, and all that really factors a lot for my hatred of cities. Hate is too strong a word though. I simply dislike them.

    However, I also hate the fact that being in the middle of nowhere really really sucks. The only really fun thing here is the internet. Even get-togethers with friends are rare because of the distances involved.

    If I was given a choice, it'd be a quiet suburban/country area for residence and a city for work.

    As for hot guys. Nah, same percentage as anywhere else. More people in the cities, hence a lot more hot guys I guess. Another reason why I'm leaving this country soon.

    EDIT: And since this is a third world country and education also depends a lot on location. Some of the farm boys may indeed be hawt AND stupid as cows as well. LOL
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 7:55 PM GMT
    i do like 'em cornfed, mmmmm!....icon_wink.gif
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 8:11 PM GMT
    Well... I live near a small town, it's so small that it doesn't even have a population sign! I have lived on a farm pretty much my whole life and I like it. Did a little farming when I was younger. I'd say the worst part about it was as Sedative said, not being close to friends. If you wanted to hang out with someone, it was usually close to a 10-15 minute drive. Was even worse being younger and having no internet or a drivers license!

    My high school had around 350 students, and I'd say around 75% of us got to school on the buses. I liked it that way though, because everyone knew everyone, it was a nice community to grow up in. I will be moving to the big city though for school and work, and I likely won't live out in the country again due to the type of career I'm going through for. Like Red said, it is an hour to get to anything really, it's just easier to live in/near a city. Growing up in a rural setting was great, and if I had a choice to live in a city or out in the country, I'd pick the latter.

    As for farmboys being sexy and studly... looking at maverick's comment, I guess it would depend on the place haha icon_wink.gif
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 8:32 PM GMT
    I live in a moderately rural setting. It's probably closer to suburban than truly rural since I live in CT. I look out back and see cows and horses. I look out front and I see the river. I hear the crickets and frogs at night and the rooster and cows in the morning.

    I've lived in the city, the suburbs and the country. I like them all and appreciate the advantages of each. Most of the people who live in the city need constant external stimulation. They become easily bored without it. Most of the country people like the quiet and solitude and are made nervous by the constant pulse and relentless variety of the city. It's really an issue of mindset. The positives of each environment can also be the negatives. Living in the city, while giving you more choices and opportunities than the country, comes at a cost, literally. I've known a number of people who moved to the city to take advantage of the culture, only to discover that living there prevented them from being able to afford to access that culture. Renting an apartment and getting a subscription to the Met can be more expensive than a mortgage in the country (even now!) Still, there's not much opera on the farm.

    So to me, I adapt. Not everyone can. I could move to a more rural and secluded area or a more metropolitan one as easily. You have to decide the difference between what you want and what you need in the location of your home.
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    Well I was to grow up on a farm, and just loved the rugged lifestyle, and the animals, and being close to father nature. I love to watch the look on me City mates faces when I take em down home, as they see a side of me that really does not come out in the City.

    But At the same time. I'm very fortunate to live in a green belt of my City, thus now live in a Semi Rule surroundings, with space, and a big yard.

    being peak hour traffic now. The City of Melbourne may well be a 90 minute drive away. But wait a few hours and it's only 20 minutes away. So I also have the use of those amenities too.

    What a wonderful world.

    I have parrots outside my office window now.
  • spryte21 Posts: 386
    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 8:42 PM GMT
    Distance to Major Cities
    Chicago: 700 miles
    Dallas: 430 miles
    Denver: 450 miles
    Kansas City: 183 miles
    Los Angeles: 1,500 miles
    Minneapolis: 670 miles
    New York: 1,500 miles

    population as of 2006: 13,594

    The closest Mall is 30 minutes away. This town is bigger than the one I grew up in, but it's still not that big.

    There is lots of eye candy around here due to there being two colleges in town. And we get a fresh supply every so often. The gay population is more on the DL here. I love it here anyways.
  • DiverScience Posts: 1426
    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 8:46 PM GMT
    KissingPro saidI like RJ because it exposes me to all different types of guys who live all across this country.........and the world.

    Being a happy city rat doesn't mean I avoid the countryside, nature, bugs and horseshit. I was wondering..........

    How many of you guys live in a very rural setting......like a farm or something similar? Do you like it? Is it a family thing? Who has forsaken city life in order to live closer to nature and have a "simpler" life?

    Are farmboys sexy and studly?




    I grew up on a small farm in Western, MA. I loved it. I would still like to have a few animals someday.

    My brother is currently considering leaving a job at Google to homestead. Personally I think he's crazy.
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 9:05 PM GMT
    I don't think I'd exactly call it a "simple" life compared to the city. All of those things that your city tax dollars pay for... supplying clean water, hauling away garbage, clearing snow off the roads, etc.,... I have to do myself, and then make a living besides. In fact, the last time I had a "date" spend the night, he was kind of blown away by the choice of helping me fix the pump at midnight, or waking up to no shower or flush toilets in the morning.

    But I just can't live in cities. I've tried. For some reason, I can sleep through the noises of coyote's howling, storm winds, and the tugboats out on the river, but I can't sleep with the sounds of traffic, the neighbors kids and televisions. (My friend from the city keeps shaking me awake... "What was THAT?") However, things have really changed since I was a kid... fewer people are farming out here and more places have become "country estates" for people from the city.

    Since I don't have any kids, to keep the farm going, I probably need to hire a couple of hands. Of course, this sets up all kinds of fantasy scenarios for those long winter nights in the bunkroom...
  • JaseinOC Posts: 685
    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 9:10 PM GMT
    canadianguy35 saidI'd say the worst part about it was as Sedative said, not being close to friends. If you wanted to hang out with someone, it was usually close to a 10-15 minute drive.


    Even here in southern CA, it could take a good 10-15 minutes to get to a friends house down the street... but that is just cause of traffic. My best friend lived about an hour away if I went at a bad traffic time. haha!
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 9:47 PM GMT
    I have severe tinnitus (ringing in the ears) from my many head injuries. Trust me, this is related.

    And so I have a sound generator in my bedroom that produces soothing background sounds to mask the annoying noise I hear 24/7, so I can get to sleep (the tinnitus is actually a steady tone, not the so-called ringing). And the latest electronic models let you choose from many sound options.

    One of those options on some machines is city noises, of cars honking and other street sounds. That's because city people who come out to the quiet country, or perhaps are sleeping in a well insulated hotel, do not always adjust well to relative silence. They need those familiar background noises to feel at home & relaxed.

    And that's what would sometimes happen to my BF's big-city friends visiting his remote rural home. They actually had trouble sleeping, because it was too quiet. It could bother me, too, but for the different reason of my tinnitus, which became more apparent & annoying in the absence of some other distracting sounds.

    BTW, the oddest sound my sound generator has is an old-fashioned steam locomotive. For retired train conductors, perhaps?

    It goes "CHUG-chug-chug-chug, CHUG-chug-chug-chug, CHUG-chug-chug-chug" surprisingly fast. And when I sometimes demonstrate my electronic sleep aid's tricks to gay friends, I jokingly tell them I once accidently hit the locomotive option in the middle of sex with my partner, causing us to collapse the bed frame. LOL!
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    QUOTE Sep 24, 2008 10:01 PM GMT
    I"m rural born.The closest friend was a couple miles away. I got up at 5:00 AM in the winters to check my trap line! . ( selling pelts was a source of income) . Everyone had a pickup with a gun rack across the back window. The dairy farm kids had to get up at 4:00 AM to milk the cows and weren't generally allowed to participate in school "sports"