Art of flirting

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    Sep 24, 2008 6:27 PM GMT
    To begin on a personal note, I love flirting. I enjoy the thrill of figuring out ways to get someone's attention, to make myself noticed to that specific person, and then of course to actually get to know them. icon_confused.gif

    My flirting does not lead to sex, or even making out with someone. I flirt with women as much as I do with men. This of course happens at night when I'm out, lol not during the day... I'm a stale pumpkin during daylight.


    I don't know what that says about me, and frankly I'm not concerned about that right now, if someone has a psychological interpretation, by all means. icon_wink.gif
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    I've started running intro trouble after some time, for example, last week I was in SF, and by 2am there were 5 guys who wanted to have sex with me and were following me home. (scary!) Though again, SF, is an island of its own.

    My question lies forth,

    Are guys able to distinguish between friendly flirting and actual sexual interest or does flirting always ensure getting laid, something of a pre-foreplay (lol)

    Do other men here experience any of this? Am I alone here? (*wolves howling*)
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    Sep 24, 2008 6:33 PM GMT
    It really depends on the guy and more importantly how you define flirting.
    I've know guys who have said, "oh I was just being flirty" and uh no, you were being sexually outward and inviting (whether the intent was playful or innocent tease).
    Plus flirting in a bar (I'm assuming that is where you were at 2am, or a party)? yeah, that says for most people, I'm interested.

    Not, oh I'm just being funny, friendly, flirty
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    Sep 26, 2008 3:16 PM GMT
    I treat ALL flirting as not serious. I dunno. Sue me. I'm never getting laid ever. icon_cry.gif
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    Sep 26, 2008 3:26 PM GMT
    Sedative saidI treat ALL flirting as not serious. I dunno. Sue me. I'm never getting laid ever. icon_cry.gif


    AGREED.

    Actually, I am not sure when I am flirting. Sometimes, guys/girls tell me I am flirting and I know I am not. Other times, if I flirt, it usually goes unoticed.

    Go figure.

    Laughing and joking and making funny remarks is just plain old FUN. If there is somethig more to it , then both of us will know real soon. If I see things are going in a sexy direction and I don't want it too, I get very clear with the person. This way, he/she will move on, or the banter can continue.

    Don't worry about how other people interpret your flirting. They are grownups and responsible for their own felings. Just be yourself and have fun and don't take it so seriously.
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    Sep 26, 2008 3:53 PM GMT
    KissingPro said
    Sedative saidI treat ALL flirting as not serious. I dunno. Sue me. I'm never getting laid ever. icon_cry.gif


    AGREED.


    Actually KissingPro, I think that Sedative will get laid sometime. All he has to do is make his way over the the US, and I'm sure there are at least a few RJers who will help him out.

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    Nov 26, 2012 2:48 PM GMT
    Apparently I can't even flirt with the guy who asked me out and i'm interested in. After two dates he had to come outright and say it. "I don't know how to read you. are you interested at all?" lol and all this while i thought i was flirting with him hardcore for 2 weeks ha icon_redface.gif
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    Nov 26, 2012 2:57 PM GMT
    It's hard for most people to not understand/interpret flirting beyond a sexual context and you're asking from trouble if you're doing it on a night out with a group of red-blooded 20-somethings.icon_confused.gif