22 and unsure of what to do with my life

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    Jan 15, 2013 3:39 PM GMT
    I've mentioned this before, but it's gotten to a point now where it's actually causing me to be depressed.

    I'm 22, and I should have my Bachelor's, or at least an Associate's by now...I don't. I've been in college since I graduated high school, and I've transferred schools/changed majors more than twice. I work as a Pharmacy Technician, so I was headed in the direction of applying to Pharmacy school. I did off a semester, and went part-time a few semesters. I have pretty much all of the core classes done, and some math & science courses (I've taken Pre-Calc, Calc, General Chemistry 1 & 2, General Biology 1 & 2). But science and math are weak points for me, and I'm really not sure if I even want to be a pharmacist anymore. It's a pretty stressful job, and I'm worried if I'll even get accepted into a pharmacy program.

    I'm not sure what type of career I'd really like. I know the one thing I do love is music, but I'm not musically gifted so it would have to be something on the business end which I know is hard to get into...supposedly a former co-worker of mine is going to hire me in April to do some Marketing for him, because he is starting his own business. But I'm not counting on that, since has a tendency to not follow through with his word, even though he seems pretty serious...

    I just don't know what to do, and I'm so burnt out from being in school this long and having accomplished nothing. And don't even get me started on student loan debt. I want to throw up just thinking about it...

    I want a career where I'm going to make money and be comfortable, but I really just want to be happy. I'm just not sure what will make me happy at this point.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    I'm 23 and still in college. It's really not abnormal, at all.

    I think you have to look at it from a practical perspective. I would wrap up my degree as soon as possible... but there's really no straight answer I can give you. I'm not privy to any other desires you might have.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:17 PM GMT
    Dude I am in the same boat as you. 21 and did some college, yet I do not know what I want my degree in. I think of it as two options: A. Do i want to get a degree that will make good money or B. Do I want a degree in something that I will enjoy doing.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Jan 15, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    It sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIt sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.

    I call bullshit: some of us simply cannot do math. It's a fact.
  • JackDoyle

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    Jan 15, 2013 4:24 PM GMT
    I'm turning 20 in a couple of months and still haven't worked a day in my life! and I dropped out of College last year and don't have a clue what to do next, so I'm just back being a waster atm it's depressing but I don't think anyone ever really knows what they want to do with their lives my sisters 30 and successful but she still doesn't know what she wants, some people work really hard to be successful and make lots of money etc to distract themselves from thinking about their meaningless lives lol
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidIt sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.

    I call bullshit: some of us simply cannot do math. It's a fact.

    No that is fucking bullshit ... it's called sitting down memorizing the formulas and doing the same problems over and over and over until is sticks in your head. If you have to work through the same simple problem 10 times to get it then that is what you do. They also have math labs and math tutors. So don't bullshit me that you can't do it. The only person you are failing is yourself, by saying you can't do it. What you are really saying is you don't want to do it.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:28 PM GMT
    Well OP, you also should take a look at what you are already good at and try to apply that towards a degree. Don't get depressed or anything because you haven't earned a degree yet, there are many people out there who are passed 30 and just now getting their degrees. 22 is young, still enough time to figure what you want. In the meantime, it doesn't hurt to get a well paying job, earn money and take a step back to see what you really want to do.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
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    IceBuckets said
    AMoonHawk saidIt sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.

    I call bullshit: some of us simply cannot do math. It's a fact.

    No that is fucking bullshit ... it's called sitting down memorizing the formulas and doing the same problems over and over and over until is sticks in your head. If you have to work through the same simple problem 10 times to get it then that is what you do. They also have math labs and math tutors. So don't bullshit me that you can't do it. The only person you are failing is yourself, by saying you can't do it. What you are really saying is you don't want to do it.

    I'm sorry but not everyones brain is configured the same way. I imagine your math skills are pretty decent?
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    I have a friend who's also 22 and has changed his Bachelor over 3 times. But it's good cos apparently (and you can see it when he talks about it) he found something that he's passionate about.
    My advice would be: don't stress. Take some courses from here and there of many subjects from science to business, You never know what you might like.
    I always wanted to study cinematography however life took me to finance somehow and to be honest at the beginning I wasn't sure about it but now I just LOVE it, like really love it.
    So good luck!!! You're young, experiment with other stuff! icon_biggrin.gif
  • JackDoyle

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    Jan 15, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life icon_smile.gif I do pity you Americans tho! it's crazy the amount of money you have to spend to go to College
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    IceBuckets said
    AMoonHawk said
    IceBuckets said
    AMoonHawk saidIt sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.

    I call bullshit: some of us simply cannot do math. It's a fact.

    No that is fucking bullshit ... it's called sitting down memorizing the formulas and doing the same problems over and over and over until is sticks in your head. If you have to work through the same simple problem 10 times to get it then that is what you do. They also have math labs and math tutors. So don't bullshit me that you can't do it. The only person you are failing is yourself, by saying you can't do it. What you are really saying is you don't want to do it.

    I'm sorry but not everyones brain is configured the same way. I imagine your math skills are pretty decent?

    Your brain is very much like working out you body and muscles. If you just work the top part of your body, then you are going to have skinny little legs and vice versa. This is what has happened to you, you have been work one side of your brain more than the other all your life, so now it is difficult to do that math. So now you are going to have slowly build up the other side of your brain by working it out every single day (and night) until it catches up with the other side. Maybe you will never be a math genius, but you can get yourself through 1 stupid class.
  • HottJoe

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    Jan 15, 2013 4:49 PM GMT
    Just make sure you get a degree in SOMETHING. That's worlds better than ending up with nothing. I think if you can't "find yourself" in college, then you'll just have to get out into the real world and look. You have plenty of time. I don't know anyone who found themselves before they were 30, and some people never seem to at all.

    Becoming a man isn't just about accomplishments. In many ways, you learn more by your failures, because a man at peace with himself is neither neurotic nor self absorbed.
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    Jan 15, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    I'm on the same boat =/ I'm 22. I've been in college since I8. I don't think I'll be graduating soon, I'm considering changing my major. Truthfully, I have no idea what type of career I want. I;m so indecisive.
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    Jan 15, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk said
    IceBuckets said
    AMoonHawk saidIt sounds like you are expecting someone to hand you things on a silver platter. That's not he way it works my friend, at least not for most. You have to work hard to get what you want. If you suck at music then it might be a distraction but you are not likely to ever get anywhere in it for a career. And even if you say you suck at math, you don't, you are just not applying yourself. Maybe you should go get yourself a job as a bartender for a year, but you'll be broke because you have to start paying off those loans. Nope, your only choice right now is to finish off what you started. Instead of taking a year off from school, take a year off from partying and recreational drug use and hit the books every night and I mean every night, no time off and finish what you started.

    I call bullshit: some of us simply cannot do math. It's a fact.

    No that is fucking bullshit ... it's called sitting down memorizing the formulas and doing the same problems over and over and over until is sticks in your head. If you have to work through the same simple problem 10 times to get it then that is what you do. They also have math labs and math tutors. So don't bullshit me that you can't do it. The only person you are failing is yourself, by saying you can't do it. What you are really saying is you don't want to do it.


    Exactly, that's why the Asian kids in school excel so much. They put in the time.....and don't give up. They will just make it happen, no matter how seemingly difficult it may be.
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    Jan 15, 2013 5:11 PM GMT
    To the OP - I understand how you are feeling because I've been there. I didn't find my career until I was 25. Ten years later, I switched careers. Now I'm pursuing a job where I can combine my past 2 job experiences and I'm not giving up until I get it.

    So keep your focus and keep on exploring your options. Perseverance is your key to success so don't give up!
  • Medjai

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    Jan 15, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    I'm 24 and on my third career and accompanying education. You're hardly alone...
  • MikeW

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    Jan 15, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Young people these days! ... icon_rolleyes.gif

    LOL... no, just joking.

    I grew up on a farm in the 1950s. That and my dad (who never went to high school) taught me the value of hard work.

    Now, that said, I was also the original slacker. Not that I hated work, exactly, I just wanted to do what I wanted to do... only I never knew exactly what that was!

    See icon_smile.gif I can relate!!

    (Actually, deep down, I did know but that is a long story I won't go into just now.)

    By the time I was in college and the age most of you guys, it was the 1960s and I became totally immersed in 60s hippy culture. Long hair, love beads, bell bottoms, pot, LSD, rock and roll -- party time!! Tune in, turn on, drop out -- the whole enchilada. Had one HELL of a lot of fun and am lucky to have survived it. haha

    Eventually, however, I had to get my life in order. Went back to school and began, as AMoonHawk is suggesting, to apply myself. I decided what I wanted to do and just DID IT. Really focused in on it and made it happen for me. Fortunately I had the ability to focus and work hard to make it happen. I'm not afraid of hard work, nor am I afraid to take responsibility and BE responsible in a work environment. Once you get that you've basically got it made almost regardless of what you're doing.

    I could say more but I'll leave it at that.



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    Jan 15, 2013 5:37 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidI'm sorry but not everyones brain is configured the same way. I imagine your math skills are pretty decent?


    Natural talent does have a bit to do with it, but for the most part mathematics are just about practice. I'm an English major, but since I've always been studious I've never had a problem in the field.
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    IceBuckets saidI'm sorry but not everyones brain is configured the same way. I imagine your math skills are pretty decent?


    Natural talent does have a bit to do with it, but for the most part mathematics are just about practice. I'm an English major, but since I've always been studious I've never had a problem in the field.
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    Jan 15, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    College in the U.S is expensive , if you parents are paying for it and are well off ( meaning it is not a drain to their finances) stay as long as you want and try to find a study you enjoy , if you are paying for it thru loans you are actually getting yourself in a lot of debts, so get a degree as soon as you can , then find a job and earn money while you are trying to figure out what to do with your life .
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    Jan 15, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    You're 22.
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    Jan 15, 2013 8:28 PM GMT
    Welcome to everybody! Just go with the flow until you can figure it out, do something to make a living with out driving yourself crazy trying to keep up with the proverbial "Jones".
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    Jan 15, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    Pharmacists make a shit load of money. I know that doesn't guarantee happiness but it helps. Think twice before giving up on pharmacy.
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    Jan 15, 2013 8:33 PM GMT
    chuckystud saidYou're 22.


    Which in gay years is 50 and in a mid life crisis icon_eek.gif Who cares what age you are in college? I mean really are you following someones timeline? Your life do what you will and when you want to. icon_evil.gif